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[narilly]

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WFS conference

:kewl: J-Vo, Narilly, Acadia, Dottie (maybe), Ava (maybee)

[NoSugar]

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j-vo;1610095 wrote: NS, they are too young and pretty! They could never be an....alcoholic! Oh...Yes, they can!

I don't think there will ever be an agreed upon definition of an alcoholic. But coming here, I am not afraid to say it although it still sounds weird to me, like I have this nasty weakness, so I don't say it too much. It has such a negative connotation in the real world, and labels are really tough to deal with. Any label can be detrimental as I see it daily, especially with my students that have "special needs." They're even treated differently by teachers. Sad! So it's society that has trouble with labeling. It's ok for a celebrity going to rehab, but in our own "little" worlds, if our co-workers knew, that would create something that would be quite uncomfortable, I imagine. But maybe, someday, people will learn how to become their own advocate.

And bottom line...If Alcohol has caused you pain, made you become someone that is not the real you, then it's a good idea to quit.

The alcoholic topic is being discussed on another thread and someone posted a really interesting link: BBC News - Should there be a word for an 'almost alcoholic'?.

It links to this which is really on point: Are You Almost Alcoholic? Taking a New Look at an Old Problem - Joseph Nowinski & Robert Doyle - The Atlantic

[HumbleRider]

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I would love to go to the conference! I think I might be able to do it if I leave Thursday afternoon and come back Sunday night. Making dinner, will check in later, loamers.

[Dottie Belle]

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Where did u find info about the WFS conf??? I went to their web site and didnt find anything...help??

[Dottie Belle]

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Never mind I found it...just not sure where we sleep..I do not like dorm arrangements....Me likes me privacy....and if we drive we will probably have the RV....I hate to fly...dh can babysit the doggies....

[scottish lass]

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Good grief - I only went to work, not away on vacation!! Lots of posts, this is a busy thread...
I just skimmed thru, but see there is a plan to have a get together. I want to come, but don't think I can - problem of being a single parent...:upset::upset:
And the "alcoholic" discussion - on the news report I listened to about this story, they were saying the binge drinkers were not alcoholics, just problem drinkers - anything over a drink a day for us dames. It was not that long ago when I thought one drink a day could NEVER be achievable, and noone could drink that little - today is so different!!
I really want to go to this conf, but have no ideas as to how to make it work....:upset:

[narilly]

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Dottie, the dorm is an option but there are other options like the Sayre Mansion which is a link on their site under the conference details.
I am sure we could send them an email and ask about accommodations.

RV sounds fun!

[narilly]

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SL, we have some time to figure it out. The stars may align for you in the meantime to get you over there. Let's just see what happens, it might work out for you to be able to come.

[Pavati]

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j-vo;1610095 wrote:
And bottom line...If Alcohol has caused you pain, made you become someone that is not the real you, then it's a good idea to quit.

That's about it, J-Vo.

OK - folks, I just lost a post. I know why - again with the brain thing. I sure hope it wakes up soon!

My post said - boo hoo. I won't be able to make the conference, either. I have my 30th HS reunion the weekend before and I will have to pay to fly to that as well as miss a day of work. As you school people know, that time of year is very hard to miss because there is so much going on. I will have to stay at home with SL and Ava and Face Time into the sessions (including the spa sessions). Or maybe we can meet closer to us (Hawaii??) and Skype in as a group? At any rate, I am glad to be connected with the WTF (:H) group, and I will be perusing their site.

I wrote a long post in the nest tonight, so I don't have a lot more energy to type. I don't think it is anything new that I haven't said here.

Acadia - when I went to my therapist after Thanksgiving and confessed everything she said, "you, my dear, are an alcoholic." She said it gently and with compassion, but I remember thinking it was like a slap in the face. However, I likened it to a slap in the face like from an old movie, when the women would get hysterical and someone would slap them in the face to wake them up to reality - like it snapped me into shape for the first time in a long time. I still don't like the label, but what J-Vo said is true. "Alcoholic" or not, I needed to quit.

Night, ladies. Thanks for all of the food for thought. Humble, are you going to pick our first of the 13 statements to ponder??

xo

[Pavati]

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Or maybe J-Vo picked for us. Here is her post from her journal thread:

Tomorrow, I am going to reaffirm the following statements:

I am what I think.

I am capable, competent, caring, and a compassionate woman.

Tomorrow morning, I am going to read these statements to myself. I will do some deep breathing to relax my mind, so my mind is able to grasp this without other voices trying to tell me otherwise. I will make quiet moments during my day and repeat this to myself. I'll do it in the bathroom stall if I have to.

I'm with you, J-Vo. I'll be saying this in the bathroom all day...

[available]

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hello loamers

Well you are all probably snuggled up in bed and i am watching the idiot box. i did not end up going to my SIL's, i just could not be bothered, not that i would have drank but i just didnt want to be annoyed with what came out of her and her friends mouths. That sounds so shallow but it is ultimately about me.

i spoke to my son about joining the gym up the road with me and he is keen, means i will pay for him but its cheap and well what i spent on wine i can spend on him. I need a motivator and he will motivate me. Said he will not drink also and go on a fitness binge which is way better. He binges on weekends with al and i would like him to stop but i cant be a hypocrite and he knows what i was like and it is in the family.

Today "I am what i think" = i am a good person, I am conquering al, i am happy, I am trying to be positive with life, i am changing what and how i think about myself.

I am definitely "capable, competent, caring and compassionate" and definitely more so since i have stopped alcohol. The world is a better place for me to learn more of these things and become a better person.

Stay safe guys, i am sure the weather is still not good xx

[j-vo]

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I am what I think. I am capable, competent, caring, and compassionate. I'm calm, loving, and enough.

[patrice]

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Hi girls,
Well I'm exhausted as it always is in the early days, plus getting back to work..
Ava, great for you on joining the gym.. you really won't look back, exercise is another huge piece in the puzzle I think. Any yay!! you'll be able to motivate me to get on that cross trainer!

Take care all
x Patrice

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Hi Pat glad you are still with us loamers. Hey i have not joined yet, talking about it lol. seem to do that a lot but want to get fit for my 50th and my son turns 21 in August so he is keen. He is going to call in tomorrow and have a chat with them. I need him to show me what to do.

Its hard to get into the swing of things with work, this week has been so long and i would much prefer to stay home and do housework, thats sad!

[patrice]

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I too would much prefer pottering around in my apartment, having time to cook great meals, relaxing.. I've had to hit the deck running and already got heaps of work to do.. I'm thinking I will be feeling much better next week.. Yes I'm still here and determined again although this time it's been so hard to get to that af mindset I had before Xmas, I've really delayed things.. I really am back to square one but that's ok, I'm looking at it as a positive and adding in things in my plan like exercise..

Anyway, so encouraging to seeing you forging ahead! x