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[narilly]

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Yogagurl- we will drink Tea with you. I drink tons of the stuff now!
Ava is drinking tea as I type this!

Thanks J-Vo, yes he is quite an inspiration for sure!

Star, way to go!

Anyway, time to walk home. Hopefully I don't fall on the ice. So freakin' icy here. over 3000 people had falling accidents in January compared to 1000 last January. It is brutal. It is icy then snows a bit over the ice so you can't see it. aaaaaahhhh
Ok I am being a bit dramatic.

Talk to you wonderful young ladies later!

[Pavati]

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Hi, All:

NS - Sorry for all you're going through. I'm not sure what happened, but it reminds me of a time I had a bad "breakup" with one of my best friends after he started dating a woman who I had a long and weird history with (probably jealous of our relationship!) It ate at me, kept me from sleeping - but there was nothing I could say or do that would make the situation better. The worst part is that we stayed in the same group of friends and I had a feeling they were talking about me behind my back. How I FINALLY got through it was how I FINALLY got through with alcohol - accepting that the only thing I can control is myself and my reaction to things. No matter how hard I try, I can't control others. I am sure you live your life in a positive, wonderful way, and whatever beef this person has probably has everything to do with him or her and nothing to do with you. Relationships are still difficult and stressful, but we're here for you!

Nar - I tried the tapping when J-Vo posted the video. If nothing else, (I'll admit, I'm a skeptic but a believer at the same time) it helps you clear your mind and calm your body. Deep breathing, yoga and meditation should help, too. I have been a little anxious this past couple of days, and I did yoga today which really helped. (Nar - maybe you could strap on skates and glide to work??)

Welcome, Miley and BKYoga (fellow January). This is a great place to hang out. Ava tends to go on and on but we put up with it...

Way to go, Star. Post in the Nest and you'll get a Byrdie moon!

I have to go make work and take my son to his (LATE!) basketball practice. Will try to check in after. Happy Hump Day

[narilly]

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Well Goodnight Loamers.
Enjoy the game Pav. That's cool that you tried tapping. I'm glad it helped you out a bit. Interestingly enough, my 17 year old son was having trouble sleeping so I took him to a Naturopath. One of the tools she gave him to try and sleep was tapping.
Oh boy, I'm falling asleep as I type.

Ava, Pav, when I skate to work tomorrow I will think of you! (Kidding, there are too many dry areas between the ice)

Goodnight sweet ladies.

[acadiaofmaine]

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Hi Ladies,

I'm sorry I haven't been posting much-we've had the flu running through our family, my daughter staying home from school, etc. Par for the course in this weather, it's so cold and we got hit with a lot of snow! I guess we'll appreciate spring all the more!

You all are doing great, and Star, so glad to see you back! Great job.

I am on Day 20! Very happy about that. I am getting more and more deeply into AA, which I won't post about too much here. Suffice it to say, I am really touched by many of the other people-their stories, their struggles, and for many of them, years and years of AF life. There is something about the group support and group consciousness that is so important to me, I guess because I had created such an isolated life for myself! I still haven't had the guts to speak up in the meetings, but I will at some point. I know it's an important part of the process, letting people know me.

Anyway, we have some new LOAM-ers, welcome everyone! Rivergal, BKYoga, I'm sure I've missed someone. It's a lively thread which I read every day!

Ann

[j-vo]

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BKYoga, I"m sorry I missed you! Welcome to our LOAMer's thread!

Acadia, so happy for you pretty lady! I'm glad you're finding "your way" as we all are different. And 20 days!!!! Congratulations!

Nar, be careful up there lovely. It is dangerous weather. I'm feeling a bit of guilt being here in sunny Florida knowing all of my family and friends are freezing their butts off! That's not going to stop me from going to the pool and soaking up the sun today...Just be careful dear.

NS, how are you feeling today? Check in soon!

Pav, son is now in 10th grade and playing varsity. I can't tell you how much I look forward to Tuesday and Friday evenings. Love it.

Ava, what up pretty lady? Have you been out for lemon, lime and bitters with that cutie you were talking about? Just remember, that's your drink and nothing else. I can stalk people all the way around the world!

Ok, check in all! I'm getting ready to go to fitness center with Dad this morning, then to pool (sorry, I think).

[HumbleRider]

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Miley and BKY, welcome! This is the place to be if you want to remain sober. I was going to settle in and post J-vo/Ava style last night, and I promptly fell asleep. Well, at least I didn't pass out! I'm getting ready for work in a minute but just checking in to say hi and will get comfy later to read and respond. NS, lots of hugs and support coming your way. xo

[Starfish1]

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Just trying to catch up a little bit!

Welcome, BKY and Miley :welcome: this is a great thread!

NS :l I so hope things are working themselves out with your relationships. I am learning day by day how hurtful our loved ones can be, but that things could always be worse than they are and we have to try to live in the moment, because that is all we have got. I know you know this. I am so glad you posted your struggles, though. I am praying that your situation turns around for the better ASAP. And there is not a shadow of a doubt in my mind that you will make it through these trying times without relapsing. We love you :l

Thanks for all the shout outs about my big seven days, gals- I appreciate them! Everyone sounds so good!

[narilly]

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Morning everyone!

Humble, you were going to post J-Vo/Ava Style? Wow, that's a big one.... lol, no offense gals, I love your posts.

Enjoy the basketball Pav. Sounds fun. Imagine all the games you get to go to Sober and not hung over.

J-Vo, that is so cool that you get to work out with your dad and it is so nice to hang in Florida with your parents. Sounds like you have a good releationship with them. That is the Best!
My parents are/were great too. Dad passed away in 2006 but my mom is still a going concern. She is quite the woman and is busy right now travelling. She is in Cali right now enjoying herself.

NS, hope you are starting to feel a bit better now. Sometimes it just takes time for those shitty feelings to abate. Hang in there babe, it will get better. Make sure you are taking care of yourself and not letting AL get into your brain at ALL!

I said it once and will say it again: Miley and BKY, welcome!

Ann, I think going to AA meetings is great if that helps you. I might start going to one around here. I am just looking for one I like. I certainly helps me to remember exactly why I don't drink and the comraderie is great. Coffee is bad though! :H

Hello Star!

Talk to you later gals,

[NoSugar]

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bkyogagurl;1617089 wrote: Hey.... can I join in here? Acadia sent me this way...
My threads have crickets on them right now... so I am feeling a little lonely it will take me a bit to get caught up with reading past posts...

Great to see you here! I just posted to you on the January thread about joining a busier thread. I didn't tell you to come here because it would have sounded biased and self-serving :H!
This 'cricket' idiom had me stumped for awhile! Crickets definitely don't gather here. This is an active thread and for me, that is part of what makes it a good place to be (that and the fabulous friends here!).

Pavati;1617192 wrote: How I FINALLY got through it was how I FINALLY got through with alcohol - accepting that the only thing I can control is myself and my reaction to things. No matter how hard I try, I can't control others.
This is one of my biggest challenges, Pav, and it seems to be an ongoing one. I have gotten better about it with people who I talk to directly about what is going on (and duke it out if necessary) but when that will make the situation worse, which it likely would here, I have a full-body stress response. I did a lot of deep breathing on the plane yesterday (and not because I'm afraid to fly!).

Thanks for reminding me about Tapping, Narilly. (My seat mates would have had a story to share if I'd thought of that yesterday!!) I will look for some youtube videos about it.

j-vo;1617097 wrote:

Let God take care of it. We cannot solve all the problems we face daily. Only He can. Sorry to be religious and all, but that's how I feel. NS,:l

acadiaofmaine;1617345 wrote: I am getting more and more deeply into AA, which I won't post about too much here. Suffice it to say, I am really touched by many of the other people-their stories, their struggles, and for many of them, years and years of AF life. There is something about the group support and group consciousness that is so important to me, I guess because I had created such an isolated life for myself! I still haven't had the guts to speak up in the meetings, but I will at some point. I know it's an important part of the process, letting people know me.

I think wherever you find and whatever gives you strength is a wonderful thing.

available;1617045 wrote: We have struggled to get to where we are and godforbid going back to Day one is not an option for us anymore. Ever! We will always be here for you no matter what. Take care friend and big hugs from me.

Thanks to all of you who wrote kind supporting things to me - I have to admit I must have been looking for your responses or I wouldn't have written. So, thank you :hug:.

P.S. Ava, it did cross my mind that drinking on day 363 would be one of the more epic fails :H!

[available]

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morning Loamers

Well today for me it is the 24th January 2014 and that means that it is NS's one year anniversary. A huge, massive hug and kisses for you NS on your wonderful achievement. You stand tall today girl and be very proud. I cant wait for your speech shortly on what wonderful achievements you have done being af and maybe a few struggles along the way. I wish i was there to share this special day with you. I love you NS for your strength and support on the loamers thread, always being here with a wise and kind word and words especially that make me think.

Star a big congrats on those 7 days, they are pretty hard to achieve with all the cravings, withdrawals etc but it gets so much easier and keep going. AL will never win unless we let it.

Pav i will try and shorten my posts, i know i waffle and i do try and stop thinking and typing but it is a bad habit of mine. God forbid when i dont have a large post i say, be very worried lol. Great thought on the only one that can control us is us, that is so very true. Keep safe Pav and i want a long long post which i will definitely devour on the weekend. We have a long weekend this weekend, Australia Day weekend which gives everyone the go ahead to get pissed.

Nar maybe you could snowboard to work behind your hubbies bike. Now that is an idea but definitely dont hurt yourself, i for one would feel guilty for this suggestion.

Aca hello and glad you checked in, we get worried when people are away, it can mean lots of things but i suppose we think the worst. Congrats on your 21 days (in Aus), its a wonderful amount of time and really gets easier doesnt it? glad AA is working for you, you can talk about it all you want, it may not be for me but i will always read, we need to keep an open mind on being af and if it works for us then great.

Jvo glad you are having fun and dont feel guilty about the sun, i have plenty here and its going to heat up again. Well i am going to see this man again tonight, im a bit shocked actually, i never seemed to make it to a second date previously. I am thinking i may blame the al and my beautiful personality that it bought to the fore. He does drink and i did have those thoughts of maybe one to be sociable but hit them on the head. I cant stop anyone from drinking and i have the control and choice so my choice is to not drink and i keep mentioning i dont drink and will bring the LLB with me, i think it is good to be firm and determined. so i wont be on tonight guys but i will have all the goss tomorrow.

BK and Miley how are you both going today? Keep posting guys, you will get the hang of us soon and i do apologise that Pave says i can waffle on when really it is her but she sometimes has something interesting to say! ha ha

Humble hello lovely, glad you passed out with tiredness. I love that i can just go to sleep now and sleep and not wake up bone tired, life is good.

NS probably not a good idea to drink on day 363 funny lady. Well it is starting to rain here and i have to get ready for work and i am running late. i am thinking i need to get up earlier to reply to you guys, i know you would miss my long long posts.

I love you all and will chat soon. Nar, what you talking about girl! xx

[narilly]

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Ava, thanks for the great post

Ok, I want to know ALL the gossip from your date tonight! Its funny but when you said you were going to hit him over the head I thought it was because you were going to take advantage of him! lol
Obviously he thinks you are a special woman. Like we ALL know!
Enjoy your holiday. You will be one Aussie not getting pissed and lovin' it!

Mein, I hope you are reading our posts and I hope you are hangin' in. Please let us know you are ok hon.

Talk to you all soon,

[bkyogagurl]

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NOSug... You are funny.. Did you think I had actual crickets on my thread?? Hee hee. No worries about not directing me over here obviously I managed to crash in anyways.:H
Congratulations on your whole year sober!!! What an accomplishment..:l

Available- I love that word "waffling" we call it babbling but I like waffling better and love it when people do waffle on... I'm sure Pav was teasing..

Well I'm excited to be on a thread with NO crickets...

Sorry I did not address everyone yet... Give me some time to get caught up..

[bkyogagurl]

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narilly;1617153 wrote: Yogagurl- we will drink Tea with you. I drink tons of the stuff now!
Ava is drinking tea as I type this!

Thanks J-Vo, yes he is quite an inspiration for sure!

Star, way to go!

Anyway, time to walk home. Hopefully I don't fall on the ice. So freakin' icy here. over 3000 people had falling accidents in January compared to 1000 last January. It is brutal. It is icy then snows a bit over the ice so you can't see it. aaaaaahhhh
Ok I am being a bit dramatic.

Talk to you wonderful young ladies later!

Thanks Nar- I will have a cup now.

[patrice]

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Hi all

Quick check before work.. all ok here, on track
NS - Well done for you 365 days!! Woo Hoo
Back after work!
x
Patrice

[Miley]

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Good Evening Loamers......Everyone sounds like they are doing well. I have been reading the posts (I feel a little late to the game) and hoping to get to know everyone here.

NS.....CONGRATS ON 1 YEAR......Truly amazing and inspiring. I also want to thank you for being such a good friend and for staying in touch with me, even when I dropped off the site for awhile. I hope to be celebrating next year with my 1 year and yours will be 2!!

I didn't get to the gym this morning because the roads were icy....I had an interesting ride to the office today.....some of the roads that I thought would be clear weren't. I was white knuckled on the steering wheel for half the ride (my commute is an hour). I have never been so glad to get to the office in my life!
The roads were better on the way home, so I am hoping to go tomorrow.

Off to have a salad and some lemon water and watch TV with my doggies....hope you ladies have a great evening!