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[j-vo]

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Morning Ladies,

Nar, the MJ in cookies...I love it that you were safely tucked away and didn't have that guilt you would have had you been passed out instead. Good for you! And DH had to deal with it. I think I'm like Pav in this respect. I worry about DS getting the "gene" and struggling through life. I will be giving him more information on this than I was given. A heads up and what "could" be or happen.

Have a great day all!

[NoSugar]

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Guitarista;1651831 wrote: Yo Loamers, s'up?!
Nice SL.

Hey, look at that, we've got a MOAM !
Great to see you here, Mr. G.! (You know the rules around here about speaking up before, right???)

SL, that is a wonderful gift to yourself. Anytime you get that antsy feeling about wanting a drink, you can go look at it and it will help bring back the feelings and commitment you have about your new life. Maybe you should hang it where you will see it every day!

I'll be back later -

[little beagle]

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SL I love photography. That's sounds like a really nice picture.
I too worry about my hubby. He does absolutely nothing to take care of himself. Eats whatever, tons of sugar. He drinks NA beer like crazy. A 6 pack a night. I don't get it. He is taking all work pants back because they don't fit. Hecsays they are missized, I said I think YOU are missized. But that is a fight for another time at our house.
I do have some wonderful healthy recipes I have been fixing that he has begun to enjoy.
Hello G-man.
off to work today. Have a good one all.

[j-vo]

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SL, what you shared on the picture from local artist is awesome! The dawn of your new life. Sweet.

[j-vo]

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LB, "he is missized!" LOL.

[narilly]

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Missized!! haha! I guess that is why my jeans are too tight, they are missized!

Pav, J-Vo, all you can do is give your sons the information when they are old enough and they have to make their own choices. It is really tough sometimes. I am pretty sure my son has my gene but at least he is aware of it and he can try and manage it before it takes over his life one day. Knowledge is power. So far he is pretty good but he is only 17.

SL, Are you going to hang that picture above our bed? I think that might be nice Glad you are treating yourself so well, you deserve it.

NS, hope your trip goes well. Has anyone Googled packing cubes yet? Very handy if you travel alot.

G Man, Nice to see you! Thanks for dropping by and adding a little testosterone to our conversation. Hope you are doing well and staying sober

Talk to you beautiful ladies and man later.

[j-vo]

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Hi G-man!

Well, I feel really tired today. KInd of achy. My body and mind have been in overdrive. I think it's time for me to slow down right this minute. After school, going to see a woman that worked with me. She had breast cancer. Very sad. I believe she was 60 years old. She didn't work here too long. She was moved from elementary to grade 6 a few years ago. Have a good day.

[scottish lass]

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Hi everyone -
Married Loamers -- sorry for all your hubbies getting out of shape - sorry they are giving you all this worry, maybe you can rope Mr G into a boot camp for hubbies of Loamers??
I am thinking of beside my bed Nar that way I can see it as I lie on my side...would be last thing I see at night, and first in the morning (better than seeing my ex for sure:H)
j-vo, a lot of sadness and tough interactions, no wonder you are feeling achy...make sure you find some sunshines to make up for the darker clouds:l
LB - I love photos too, unless I am in them - and I really cannot take them!

[narilly]

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SL, Just want to say that my Hubby is VERY active. He bikes, does TRX, walks to work everyday and is in really great shape. He is very muscular and eats healthy most of the time.

Saying that, he drives me nuts sometimes and certainly is not perfect...like me

He had colon cancer and so is pretty adamant about exercising and diet, even more so than before.

Yes, I like the picture beside your bed. I will look at it everyday

J-Vo, pamper yourself today hon. Have a nice cuppa in that sunshine you find.

[scottish lass]

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Sorry bout that Nar, I wasn't trying to jump to conclusions - just seeing a few of you strugging, thought if i replied individually I would get something wrong Taking the cumulative route did not work either:H
Glad you like the plan for the photo - now just have to go get it framed:H

[roxane]

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just dropping this in without a parachute.

ive realised im just not that analytical, i tie myself in knots. now, i tell you, thats a revelation because im certainly not the artistic type either. begs the question, what am i? so i know how to deal with this with my strongest bent.

[roxane]

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Ok, that was a thread killer.

[NoSugar]

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That wasn't a thread killer, Roxy! Most people who post here are working during these hours. I was off doing boring errands.

So... if you're not analytical, do you usually make decisions by "going with your gut instinct"?

Roxy and I were in on a conversation on the Army thread where I explained my analytical approach to quitting and staying quit:

NoSugar;1652062 wrote: ... one day when I was posting what I hoped was an encouraging, rational, data-driven, logical argument for not drinking, it suddenly washed over me that I truly believed what I was writing - I wasn't just listing facts.

This is how I approach most things -- but alcohol was different, as almost everyone on MWO knows. I think after over a month of abstinence, I had gotten to the point that my logical, rational brain could operate normally and not be hijacked by the addicted part of my brain each afternoon. The 'real" me was once again in charge full-time.

So, I realized after about a month or so that I was done for good. That was a huge relief and took all the pressure about if/when off. So, then I was able to concentrate on doing what it took to reach the now-established goal. And that's what I've been doing ever since.

Now that I'm operating "normally", I can't imagine choosing to drink. There is no way I would willingly take a medication with the common effects of ethanol if I could possibly avoid it unless I needed it to save my life. I now find it hard to believe that I chose to take a drug every day that limited my ability to drive (or operate heavy machinery:H), impaired coordination, reduced initiative, reduced the ability to concentrate, was toxic to my liver and other organs, was a known carcinogen, and made me feel sick to boot.

Such is the power of addiction and I respect that power so it is no longer an option for me and I don't have any regrets about that. It's a shame the effects of alcohol other than the buzz don't have to be listed on the bottles, as they do for medications. Maybe people would read those and make a different choice.

When you 'tie yourself in knots', the urge to drink gets stronger because we know exactly the thing to quickly loosen those knots and give us some relief . I had just that feeling last week.

Maybe if you could share the thoughts you have when you're deciding to or not to go buy a bottle of wine or pour a drink, we could talk about how you could redirect them. I'm sure all of the people who post here handle it slightly differently so someone might have an idea that would work for you.

I feel bad that you're reluctant to post, Roxy. We like hearing from you and for me, organizing my thoughts and putting them out here helps me get things clarified and really firm up my commitment.

xx, NS

[narilly]

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Oh no, the last time we were in the Cancer clinic (last month) we ran into a lady I have known for the past 20 years, she was my client and then my realtor. She died today. I didn't even know she was sick. She was at the Cancer Clinic and I didn't talk to her, we were on our way to get blood taken or whatever.
I guess she found out she had liver cancer in Jan and died now. She was a very nice lady
A non drinker by the way. Maybe the odd glass of wine but that's it.

Anyway, enjoy your life ladies. We need to appreciate all that we have even if we think it sucks sometimes.

I am really sad about it and shocked, it hits too close to home for me. I think I may have to have a chat with hubby tonight and talk about living the life we want Now. I'm not saying I want to go crazy and spend all my money but I think its important to enjoy life as much as we can now while we are healthy and our family is healthy. (or fairly healthy!)
Part of that enjoyment is not drinking AL. Why poison myself?

[j-vo]

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I'm trying to focus on the topic here. Is it "what made us realize that drinking isn't right for us?" Or "what works for us? or how did we unlock the chains that were wrapped around us?"

My mind is dead right now. Is that the topic?

Going to catch a little of The Anonymous People. Finally was able to rent it.