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    Hi loamers

    Well Wag a big hug for 70 days, days ending in an 0 are great and when there are a couple of 00s it is fantastic. So proud of your achievement.

    Nar well today will be 90 days for you girl and being an original loamer this makes it pretty special. due to the fact that you had a few stops and starts and fuck its along the way and look where you are now. I have found around 6 months that my emotions seemed to even out but hey every day is different, being a recovering alcoholic definitely has its moments.

    My last couple of days at work have been really stressful and crap. I had a situation that finally made me decide that i cannot work where i am anymore. i deserve respect and compassion and caring, just like my patients get from me. I was supposed to get an xray and ultrasound of my shoulder as the dr thinks it is bursitis so i went to work and made an appt within the hospital for 3pm, rang the acting office manager (also known as hitler) and told her i had this appt, she then asked why i cannot do this in "my time", i replied with "fine" (meaning i was so pissed off) and changed the appt to 1st August. she then came to the desk and asked if it was sorted, i said yes i have a new appt in August, she then says oh you could have had that one today, i said you could but to make appts out of hours. I said i was making it out of hours and of course she changed everything around to make it look like she was being compassionate etc. i told her to leave me alone as i was very unhappy about what she said, i was in constant pain with my shoulder but i would wait to suit her needs. This was when i decided sober that i have been walked over, on, through and under, enough. at the end of the day another coworker said that she was working back to make up time to have off. I was deeply disappointed and sad to think that i truly give my everything to that job and i love my job but the good news is i have an interview to work as a casual in the staff bank which works for different departments when their staff members are off sick or on leave. i may not get 5 days a week, the pay may be worse but i need at this stage to be happy in this aspect of my life. I am expecting a chat from the village idiot office manager when he gets back from leave and i am going to listen to what he says and then tell him also what i think about the department i work in, in a logical and coherent manner. I have left work early 4 times in the last month and a half and always made up the time. Now i find i have typed this out very logically but fuck i am so pissed off it is unbelievable but i will not let them get to me, i am a good person. the great thing is not once did an al thought come into my brain. how good is that?

    Well its friday and i was going to have a sicky but i wont let her think she has won, i am a better person than her. it was quite amusing seeing her trying to turn the conversation around until i asked her to leave. i would never ever have done that with a hangover, the guilt would have been too much.

    sorry about the rant.
    love to all

    oh moderating, mmm i went on that thread once in my early days and thought i could do that, so like the champion i am, i did and wow i failed completely. I was not the ONE that could successfully moderate which i thought i could be!
    xx
    AF free 1st December 2013 - 1st December 2022 - 9 years of freedom

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      Ava, sorry you had a shit experience.....such a pity when you love the job.....thinking yer woman might have a rethink....interesting to see if she tries to kiss your arse tomorrow.
      I always found that it was the easy targets, nice people, who get pulled up on things (in life and work) because the powers that be are shit scared to tackle the real offenders. They like to feel big and need a target to help them on their way. ........
      Today she picked you....hopefully your well-balanced response will serve her to think twice before she does it to someone else.....
      IT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO BE WHAT YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN
      Relapse starts long before the drink is drunk!!.Fresh Start!

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        You betchya SL! The AF time being racked up here is very inspiring to a battlehardened rock dog road warrior who responds optimistically to the term windswept and interesting.

        Congratulations Wagger and Narilly! Huge achievements. Keep it going.

        Day 27 here and off to booze school soon. Yoga class is first up then some 'art therapy.'

        Ava, i had issues/confrontations with a couple of my managers last year which became stressful. Glad i had the union by my side as support during meetings etc. As it happened, and nice timing, a uni course opportunity arrived via a work email last year for a work related course (mental health), so i took it. 1 year study which I finish end of this month. It's full time so i backed off my work hours at one work site (where the problem was), and i continue now part time at a different site, same org, with great people and very different more respectful vibe. Less money as i cut my hours, but i am far happier. I could've stayed in the old role and fought the idiots, but cutting back my hours suits me far more. e.g. better work/life balance and i'm making more music, which is my raison d'etre.

        Loving the links! thx J-vo and Pav.

        Have a bewdy out there y'all.

        Greg

        'I am part of all that I have met, yet all experience is an arch wherethro', gleams that untravelled world whose margins fade, forever and forever when I move'

        Zen soul Warrior. Freedom today-

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          LC - thank you for your kind words. I am really grateful to be here with everyone as well, and this thread in particular has become one of my major sources of support. Thanks also for sharing what your BF said - that is wonderful and touching.

          Ava
          - so sorry to hear about the crap at work, but yes - you deserve to be treated with the same respect, compassion and caring that you give your patients. If you have to change job situations to find that, I'd say do it! You can't put a price on happiness or feeling good about going to work.

          So much more to catch up on but I'll have to check back in later this eve.

          :huggy everyone!
          Everything you want is on the other side of fear.

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            Winding up day 6 and struggling a bit, but it's non negotiable. I don't drink. Not every day is going to be a piece of cake. Feeling a bit sorry for myself, but I know it will pass.

            Ava, so sorry you are having a rough time at work. We spend so much time there that it's important to be respected and treated well. I supervise about 35 people, and I think I'm a great boss, but every once in a while I'll hear someone's unhappy, or the union will complain about something, and it always makes me feel bad. It's so hard to make everyone happy, and sometime I think everything's going great only to find out not so much! And, Daisy, you are right! I'm always forcing myself to treat everyone the same way. It's easy to try and avoid the ones that you know are going to cause a problem if you hold them accountable.

            Anyway, I'll be happy to get today behind me and hope tomorrow is easier. If not, I don't care. I'm still not going to drink. I'm done with that.
            You had the power all along, my dear.

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              Kailey you are so close to your week! The little milestones do make you feel better. I have had a few struggles along this stretch of AF, but I know when I hit those same obstacles before, that I gave in. I have found this a harder quit than my other comparible ones (67 and 82 days) but feel because I have put so much effort into this then I am more determined and ready for the next challenge.....those first quits were easier....a lesson to anyone who is doing well and ready yo cave....they come harder!
              You sound great and Monday is a very satisfying day after an AF weekend.
              IT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO BE WHAT YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN
              Relapse starts long before the drink is drunk!!.Fresh Start!

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                Ava, I am glad you posted about it instead of ripping her head off or quitting your job. Like Disy says, it will be interesting to see how she is tomorrow I can't believe you are in all that pain and they wouldn't let you get looked at. That's bullshit!
                I wish I could help you somehow.

                G, nice you are going to yoga. Hope you enjoy it.

                SL, I am sure the walking will pay off. I think you look great!

                Anyway, I will check back in later, I'm watching some tv now and relaxing.

                Big hugs from moi.
                Narilly

                "Nothing in this World Can take the place of Persistence"
                "You can have the life you want OR you can Drink"

                AF April 12, 2014

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                  daisy45;1681220 wrote: You sound great and Monday is a very satisfying day after an AF weekend.
                  Planning on it! Thanks, Daisy!
                  You had the power all along, my dear.

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                    Ava glad you posted. It shows how its done, handling stress in real life without alcohol. :l
                    I'm currently holding down the sofa, the flu has hit hard.
                    No matter how far you go or how fast you run, you can't get away from yourself. ....said at an AA meeting. It stuck with me.

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                      Wow! What a great read tonight! Lots of thought-provoking discussions. I wonder what it would be like hanging out together.

                      Who would talk the most?
                      Who would swear the most?
                      Who would giggle the most?
                      Who would crack the first joke?
                      Who would cry first?
                      Who would have a hard time sitting the longest?
                      Who is our the ADD Loamer?

                      I love it that we have so many great personalities on here. Each so individual, but if your names weren't attached to these posts, I bet we could guess who wrote them. I love you all!

                      Anyhow, where the hell to begin!

                      Nar, you are a rock star already!:band2: And I so agree as we all do. Being a 50 year old drunk woman looks awful. I think about that a lot as I'll turn 50 in Feb and I know you and Ava just did. So, nope, not pretty. I used to hang on mods thread as well and talk about the supps - Kudzu (never did anything for me). Then I hung out on the meds thread (baclofen) never got that off switch, just tired and out of it. I won't be on MWO early, but I won't forget your three months/90 days!!!!!

                      Jane, thank you for that compliment. Rich and expressive?? I'll take it and I'm running with it! Hope you get it figured out with A1. That would be a downer if he doesn't want to go. I know DS is getting into this funk now and when he is, look out! I loved Carolyn Knapp's story. I, too, was saddened to hear of her passing at such a young age.

                      Pav, you made great points. And yes, I feel like I don't belong in the recovery club at times, too. It couldn't have happened to me. OH, YES IT DID!! But I don't feel as though the recovery movement will get anywhere in our lifetime. We've been made to feel ashamed of this disease. It sucks. There are a lot of people that know I don't drink now. Most family, close friends, some co-workers. It doesn't bother me, and I think it keeps me a bit safe actually.

                      LC, what a beautiful story!!! You made me cry. And I think NS told me this once or twice or three times...The more AF time you have, so many things fall into place. So many good things begin happening that we automatically begin to have a better self-worth. And I can tell you it's happening to me. My self-worth was shit. Even when I wasn't drinking a thousand years ago. It'll come. I promise.

                      SL, thanks!!!! We weren't allowed any treats because of my diet, but we did some great dancing. I'm so glad you're doing well!

                      Kailey and Daisy, gung-ho or reluctant - just moods. Jane does a mood wheel of colors. We can expect any mood that all non-alkies have. We're no different in that respect. The ups and downs in the beginning are more unsettling for us. I tried to stay calm (ha!) as much as I could because i thought if i did, then I wouldn't drink. But we have to move through those moods, just like being happy doesn't stay, neither does the 'meh' feelings.

                      Ava, where the frick is your brick? I'm comin down under and throwing it at her! Ok. You stayed calm and you did what she asked you to do, and you were honest with her. Where the hell did Ava go? Just kidding. But really, look how you handled yourself now compared to how you would have when you were drinking. That, my friend, is amazing in itself. I hate that you had to go through what you did, but remember we can't change people. We can make moves like you may do, though to make your life better. Nobody needs that crap. Hang in there and keep us abreast of the interview status.:l

                      G, yoga is something new for me. It's so hard! But I think I will see benefits. How long have you done yoga?

                      El, Wag, and all loamers, have a great night.
                      Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.

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                        Hello Ladies!
                        Just read back on the wonderful posts from last night! It took me a hell of a long time to get on the Loamer's thread this morning, darn it! So quickly, before I head off to work...

                        NAR!!!!! congratulations on 90 days! I remember your struggles in the beginning and you wrote it all out, fought for your freedom and have helped so many of us along the way with your positive, caring posts. :rays:

                        and Kailey!!! Already on day 7! I hope you feel a bit better today when you wake up so that you are able to fully enjoy the accomplishment of conquering each and every day of the week! We're in a similar boat, as far as days go--just a week apart. Let's continue to stick close to these wonderful Loamer's. Let's continue to do what we need to do to be successful on this AF Journey! :h

                        I've been reading the wonderful Blog, NS recommended yesterday, And Everything Afterwards | There was alcohol. Now there is everything afterwards , and am finding it so helpful and interesting. Thanks again for that!

                        Ok, I'm already late, so I'd best get my butt in gear. Will check in again soon.. xo

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                          j-vo;1681260 wrote:

                          G, yoga is something new for me. It's so hard! But I think I will see benefits. How long have you done yoga?
                          I'm new to it J-VO. 3rd session today. It's more than just stretching. There is a well researched reason for each movement, as it works with our internal organs and skeletal structure. Blood flow, breathing, what the glands are doing......Body science we've known about for centuries, but which i for one have overlooked.

                          Wishing all a safe, sober and magical weekend.

                          Don't forget, friday is POETS day.

                          'I am part of all that I have met, yet all experience is an arch wherethro', gleams that untravelled world whose margins fade, forever and forever when I move'

                          Zen soul Warrior. Freedom today-

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                            It feels good to wake up this morning and know I'm on Day 7. Also scares me to death. It's Friday and I will be vulnerable. My plan is to post from work before I leave if I'm at all wobbly. And then when I get home and as much as I need to after that! These are such early days and I'll be damned if I have to do them again! There is no decision to make here, no modifying my plan. I'm done drinking!

                            Congratulations, Narilly for three 3 months, Daisy for 60 days and LIfe Change for 2 weeks! This thread is something special. Not that others aren't, but there is a level of determination here that is contagious and lots of success!

                            Daisy, I have always related to you as you struggled. You were on another thread where everyone started calling themselves the Daisies. You must have stared the thread, I guess? I don't remember, but I do remember how similar our stories were. And look at you now! I am so happy for you!
                            You had the power all along, my dear.

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                              Nar, I'm so proud of you on 90 days! You are a super rock star today and everyday. I love reading your posts on the Loamers thread. You are a vital part of this thread as you've been honest, encouraging to others, asking for help when needed, sharing your stories and life, and being the super sweet girl you truely are. I love you bunches and am so happy for you today. We need to continue getting stronger together.:h:applaud: :l

                              G-man, wow. That sounds great! It feels like we're plugging in all the missing links in our sobriety. I'm liking the new Pilates and Yoga videos that I have, too. It's going to take lots of time and concentration before I get all of it, but one day at a time. So glad you're doing well! Keep it up G.

                              Kailey, Happy Day 7!!! I hope you wake up and feeling great, as you did the hardest week of all! You got the first nasty crap and now are ready to move on to all the great stuff that comes with recovery. We're here for you now and always. We're not going anywhere. Keep posting in any mood, as we all go through different ones. I've been in some big funks, just not feeling it, but as they say, have faith that it one day will get better and it soars from there. We always need to stay vigilant and continue to work daily on ourselves. We can support each other as we do this. :l:goodjob:
                              Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.

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                                Kailey,
                                cross post! You can do this and it's a determination that you have. Stick to you plan. What does your plan include after work? Lean on us Girl as you go through this vulnerable day.

                                Daisy,
                                I just saw you have 60 days!!! Congratulations, Friend! Lots of winning going on around here! You've added so much to our thread. I'm glad you're coming here as we lean on each other. Keep that mindset that you have. And when you're wobbly, say it. We're going to get through these early days together. And as so many long-timers have said, it only gets better and better. I know you're feeling it just as I am. Keep on with us!:goodjob::wd::yay:
                                Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.

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