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[wagmore]

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NS and j-vo - Yes, I'm counting yesterday as a victory all the way around. We had a ton of fun at the race event, I'm gradually getting to know people better (and finding other AF allies), and it is huge that our central reason for being a group is a very positive physical activity. I've decided that if I get nothing more than I'm already getting, I'm still thrilled having this sport and team in my life. It will be ok if I never join in for jello shots

j-vo - You're welcome for the book ideas. I hope you find something that suits you. I love the blog link you shared - my "before" weekends were a bit different, but the striking improvements that have come with AF weekends mirror his (the blog author's). Thanks for sharing this.


Feeling so good today, so happy. I thought I'd be exhausted after such a long day yesterday, but I actually had so much energy I worked out twice today (morning and evening). I couldn't have done any of this 10 weeks ago...

[narilly]

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Hey everyone!
I couldn't get access to the site yesterday and now I am pooped so going to bed.

I have 92 days now so, no worries, I did not drink

Love you girls

Will catch up tomorrow!

[Pavati]

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Here, sober and safe. More when I'm back in town.

Xo
Pav

[lifechange]

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Good Monday morning. Ladies!!
Everyone sounded chirpy yesterday.. I had a heck of a time getting back on MWO..also this am..

Wags, you definitely scored another group win for us this weekend. I am SO proud of you--I am also quite impressed with the way you are "playing the film to the end" and then actually going through with what you know is best for yourself. Joining in fully with the activities that suit your lifestyle and being patient with yourself in situations you aren't 100% comfortable with. You are setting yourself up for success-- and inspiring me (and surely many others) along the way. I'm happy to hear that there are some other women not interested in drinking..It will be interesting to see how it all unfolds.

J-vo, I did misunderstand with regards to your SIL--I didn't realise she was always such an awful piece of work!! Have a great time at the basketball camp! I'm trying to motivate my girls to leave the house! They love being homebodies the first weeks of vacation-- we might make it to the library today! Towards the end of the week we're supposed to have sunny, perfect for going to the lake days..

Eloise, good for you for getting a long workout in! I finally got my butt in gear again yesterday and will try to keep the momentum going! Are you working on a specific piece right now? Another Linocut? Are you often using animals as your theme?

NS, What kind of a booze-fest were you at this weekend? Were there any interesting people to talk to? I know that's often the problem at parties like that... boring. I hope your weekend away was nice!!

Hi Ginger, hope you're enjoying the lake-- saw you checked in with 70 day yesterday! Awesome....

Kailey, you're sounding really well and happy-- I know what you mean about feeling like you're finally getting this right.. It's how I feel right now, too!

Wishing you all a great AF Monday!! I'll be back in a bit, I'm sure!

[patrice]

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Hi Ladies,
Really sorry haven't read back.. Got home from my Sober Holiday ( yay) and this morning woke up with the most horrible flu, fever, the works so haven't really moved today..
Hope and know everyone is doing well!
Xx
Pat

[little beagle]

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Ginger 70 days is wonderful. You've gotten quite the momentum going.:wave:
J-vo I have thought about your question of how to let the past go. I know what you mean. I have done so many stupid, embarrassing things when buzzed and alcohol seemed to color my life so negatively that even when I wasn't drinking I still felt like I was a laughing stock. If that makes sense. Just look at that drunk fool. Not that people really saw me that way, just the way I viewed myself. Sober Time has really helped with this issue. I am now entering my second year. So my memories are becoming predominantly sober ones. 2 July 4ths. 2 summers. The bad is slowly being replaced with the new, calm, happy beagle. And I too have that problem of waking up at night and thinking about toooo much. Just can't turn that brain off sometimes. Hey if anyone knows of a surefire way I am all ears. Beagle ears. Oops sorry.
Jane where are you?
Wags jumping in the lake all hot and sweaty sounds delicious. I'm glad you are having a wonderful time with rowing. It sounds fun. You know, my husband had a drinking problem, too. He quit 4 months after I did. He's almost at his one year mark. He just blabs. Oh no, I don't drink. I had a HUGE problem, but I don't anymore. He even tells strangers, sometimes whether they care or not.:H He's very proud of his accomplishment. No shame in the problem, pride in fixing it.Yes he has a drug issue, but he has been working on that one VERY hard.
We bought a motorcycle this weekend. He is very happy.

[j-vo]

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I'd better get going. Basketball Mom duty time!!! I'm not used to this responsibility in the summer time.
Something good to report on this Monday...I lost 5 lbs! I feel as all the work and effort I put in last week it should have been like 20 lbs but I'll take 5 and take it one day at a time.

Patrice,
So happy to hear of your sober vacation! I bet you're so proud of yourself as we certainly are. Way to go girl! Now get rest and get better. Sounds like the same thing Ava got when she went away.

LB, so glad to see a post from you. You must be feeling better dear. And I did and still do think about people pointing and laughing and I was a sloppy drunk at times. I'm ashamed and embarrassed still. But maybe as time goes on and they see the new me, then those feelings will dissipate. I hope. And it takes forgiveness of myself. I need to read some of the recommended literature on that.

Nar, so glad to see you! 8 days and you'll be at 100 girlie! Did your town get back to normal yet after all the square dancing and parties?

Jane, are you home yet?

LC, have a great Monday with you girls! Better than going to work!

Have a great day ladies. Will check in later.

[Kailey]

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Quick check in. Doing well and expecting another sober week. Everyone sounds like they are doing well.

LB, your last sentence cracked me up. "We bought a motorcycle. He is very happy." I don't know if that means you are not, but that's how it hit me. I know I was not happy when my son bought a motorcycle, but he was such a young guy at the time I was afraid he wasn't responsible enough not to get himself killed! He's grown up to be a very responsible young man since then and I no longer worry.

I'll be back tonight. I hope everyone has a great Monday. (Is there such a thing?!?)

[narilly]

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J-Vo, 5 lbs! That is great! I am sure you are skipping around today, I know how good it feels to lose a bit of weight.
Stampede is over now and things are gettin back to normal which is fine. I heard my kid/kids coming in at 5am from the last night of Stampede. It was a warm night here last night which is rare. We probably have about 7 warm nights/year. Warm meaning around 18C or 65F. Summer in Calgary is beautiful. Today it will be around 27C or 82F which is freakin awesome!

I have to catch up on all the posts from the weekend. I was so busy and didn't have time to read. I had a drinking dream last night where I drank and I didn't remember taking the first drink I just ended up drunk and I was thinking I had to post here and say I was at Day 1 again. I was so bummed out about that, I didn't want to tell you gals...thank Gooness it was a dream. Holey Moley!

I found it a bit difficult not to drink on Friday night at the Stampede. We were sitting outside in the beer gardens and my friend's hubby said "oh, just have a drink!" I really wanted to but I said to myself -NO!!

My friend told me about her friend's sister who is a raging alcoholic. The sister drinks constantly and they have to watch her 24/7 when she is around. She has sores all over her face and arms and they think it is skin cancer but can't get her to the doctor because when she is sober she is beligerent and so cranky that she does not agree to anything. She buys vodka and drinks the whole bottle as soon as she can. I guess she was staying here at her sister's last week and the sister found her passed out by the pool naked and drunk after work, so she can't be left alone.
They were even worried to put her on the plane to LA because she had to catch a connector to Malaysia and they did not know if she would be able to figure that out because she would be drunk.
She has two daugters in their 20's who have been so traumatized by the situation it is terrible. They take care of her when she comes here and sit with her through the night and basically babysit her.

Anyway, my friend told me this story in the Beer Gardens. So here I am thinking "I'm not that bad, jeez, I could have a drink, I mean, look at this lady, I would never be like that. I can drink."
I knew that I was thinking this so I just rode it out and stuck to my soda water but I could see how easy it would be to have a drink.

Talk to you lovelies later. Thank you for being so supportive, being there and basically saving my life!

[narilly]

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Oh, Lil B, your Motorcycle comment made me smile too! It's good that He is happy

Kailey- yes there is such a thing as a great Monday when we wake up with NO Hangover! Yay!

[wagmore]

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Nar - I totally agree about Mondays without hangovers being excellent! Glad you and your family had such a great time at Stampede these past several days.

The story about our friend's friend's sister is very sad, and a very good reminder. Whether an of us ever were or were not that bad, alcoholism is progressive and I doubt anyone willingly chooses to get to that point. The toll it is taking on her health, and on the lives of her daughters, sounds like it's enormous.

j-vo - 5 lbs is awesome! Is that from PiYo? I just started a new round of Insanity: The Asylum 1 yesterday - forgot what a butt-kicker this program is, but I got great results last time and am hoping for the same this time around.

Ginger - congrats on 70 days!!! 10 weeks!!!

Pat - sorry to hear about the flu - hope you feel better soon :l

Eloise and LC - great job on the workouts - keep it up!

[Eloise]

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Just checking in... I had trouble accessing the site yesterday too.

Seeings how I am on Prize Patrol I am happy to be able to log in easily today! I can't seem to get those icons on my Apple... any suggestions anyone? I am trying to keep my perfectionisms flaw under control.... but .....

Lifechange... I often use animals as theme in my art work. My avatar is a dachshund because I am having serious dachshund withdrawl systems these days. ... approaching poor unsuspecting dachshunds for kisses and kuddles... chatting with their parents about how great they are .... it is 2 years my Kernie boo boo bear is gone and I really can't take much more. We cannot get another little wiener now as we have an old (13 year) street dog from Curacao who is not good, to put it mildly, with little dogs. Too dangerous. I do not want to wish her over the rainbow but..... this no hotdog in my life is getting old!
I am also working on a pretty big self portrait just now... I promise to share more....

There is a lot of truth in that saying 'there is strength in numbers!'
A big thank you to everyone for all your thought provoking and inspiring posts.

[Eloise]

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Thanks wagmore... I enjoy the exercise but I do sometimes go on 'strike'.... I suddenly 'don't wanna go to the gym!' It helps I pay for it now with my art money...


I am still on that all or nothing mind set... gotta work on it... I do enjoy the exercise though which helps a lot!

[wagmore]

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Eloise;1682448 wrote: Thanks wagmore... I enjoy the exercise but I do sometimes go on 'strike'.... I suddenly 'don't wanna go to the gym!' It helps I pay for it now with my art money...


I am still on that all or nothing mind set... gotta work on it... I do enjoy the exercise though which helps a lot!

Eloise - I don't generally have this problem since I love to workout and I have found things that I really enjoy and that bring me good results. When you get stuck in "strike" mode, one thing to remember is that "10 minutes of something is better than zero minutes of nothing." Maybe there are a few short things you can do at home on days you just can't get to the gym? I do most of my workouts at home, which automatically eliminates one big potential obstacle.

What type of exercise do you prefer to do?

[Eloise]

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wagmore;1682452 wrote: Eloise - I don't generally have this problem since I love to workout and I have found things that I really enjoy and that bring me good results. When you get stuck in "strike" mode, one thing to remember is that "10 minutes of something is better than zero minutes of nothing." Maybe there are a few short things you can do at home on days you just can't get to the gym? I do most of my workouts at home, which automatically eliminates one big potential obstacle.

What type of exercise do you prefer to do?

Well, I like to dance. I hate lifting weights. I was working with a training in the winter. More like hiring a babysitter. If I didn't have to meet her I wouldn't go. A little expensive and not fun at all.
I need to find an adult ballet class. I keep saying that!
I went to a fantastic gym in NYC w/the choice of over 300 classes each week.
My gym is a bit dull to say the least. I always have to walk my doggies so I do something every day, but your advice is sound about pushing yourself to do at least 10 minutes a day. I have a bike too, but don't like it.
I am still too nervous I am going to get killed.

I do sort of okay at the gym here but sometimes I just hate it. The routines are always the same... boring. The location of the gym is good though... I am a little spoiled from living in NY.