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[scottish lass]

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Meant to join the aches group - I have a medially displaced patella that gives me grief when walking/hiking and I can no longer run - in a few years we should all retire to an OL' crocks home:H

[little beagle]

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SL I think so. And your attitude sounds pretty good. You're getting there.
Nar sounds like you are ready for some fun. And no regrets or lost earings.
I am going to look for that post now J-vo.

[little beagle]

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J-vo I read that post from About Time. I agree with so much of it. Getting and stsying sober is truly an inner struggle that only we can do. No one can do it for us. And not everything is fixed at once. It isn't a magical cure all. I liked the partvabout not making major decisions. There have been times when I wasn't sure which way to turn, so I let it be and concentrated on just staying sober. And things have worked themselves out. I too am finally happy to be me. I spent so much time wishing I was someone else, I just wish I could have done this sooner, but then, I wasn't ready. Ironic really.

[Eloise]

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NoSugar;1688723 wrote: J, I think I knew I was writing to you. The other times you gave up your days, you backed away, just like you did the last few days.

And like I said, I am upset and sad - for you. Because I know this isn't what you want. You want to be normal - well, normal here is not to drink alcohol. I think that is part of how MWO works - realizing that people you like and admire and become friends with are like you - they can't drink. It isn't weird to be a nondrinker here - it is something to be admired. It is great to all be together and not to feel somehow "less than". That is why there is so much emphasis here, in AA, and most recovery programs about staying connected. It is hard to stay strong alone.

And if you think about it, is it really normal for anyone to knowingly consume a known poison that is a teratogen and a carcinogen, affects every organ of our body, and is addictive? It is interesting how many people here, including me, go to great lengths to avoid other things that make us feel bad or are known to be bad for us. Consuming alcohol has, for various reasons, been normalized in many cultures. That doesn't mean that it is right or sensible.

We all love you just as you are J, a woman who can't drink alcohol. Please don't try to be someone else :l.

Wow NS, you really can tell it like it is.
No one has given up on you J-vo, quite on the contrary.
I too am getting used to being a non-drinker. My husband said the other day ' it just works for you.' That felt good. I think it is finding another way of looking at all this J-vo. :h

[Eloise]

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J-vo
I did indeed read your post about the fact you had drank, but somehow I misunderstood it. I thought you were talking about an event in the past. I was so convinced there was no way you drank now. Alcohol is amazingly powerful. After re-reading your post i cannot believe I misunderstood. I just did not want to believe it. And I see that before you were 3 years sober? All the more reason to not take that 1st drink, it the first one that is the real trouble maker!

Anyhow, water under the bridge girlfriend. We live, we learn. :h

[wagmore]

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Star - Sounds like a great decision to make changes at work. I hope that turns out to be much less stressful for you!

Nar - Yep, wear the earrings! You're AF and won't have any trouble keeping track of where you put things. I hope you have a fantastic AF time on your trip

Jane - The slo-mo bike crash probably wasn't very fun, but at least you escaped without serious injury. Glad you didn't do the face plant! It sounds like you're starting to feel a bit better, which is great news. Hope things continue in that direction for you.

j-vo - You are bouncing back with grace, and it is inspiring. We're all pulling for you of course, but you're doing a lot of the introspection, reflection and learning that can make a slip a very valuable lesson. By sharing your process with all of us, we're all getting stronger. Thanks!

[wagmore]

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Eloise

Woohoo - 80 days!!!

This is fantastic, and before you know it you'll have 3 months and then double digits. This is a great stretch of time to celebrate milestones, as they happen in rapid succession.

:yay: :wd: :happy:

[daisy45]

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Eloise, 80 days and counting.....go girl!

[patrice]

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Eloise... Yay for you!! And us all!
Xx

[j-vo]

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Hi Girls,

NS, yes, I can either post a link to the whole page or quote the post. Got it. Thx.

SL, hugs sweetie. This too shall pass, as they say. But I know it hurts. I had three miscarriages, and funny thing, two of them happened in October around the same time two years apart. I was depressed for many Octobers before I even figured out why.

LB, things do eventually work themselves out. And I'm glad you're living proof to me. Each day gets better and better. May not be perfect, but what is, my friend? I guess I have a hard time with that perfection thing, though.

El, congratulations on your 80 days! How flippin great! Keep it going dear. And wow, it does work well for you. I was reading through my earlier posts and from how you sounded months ago, you've made great progress.

Wag, you see the work I'm doing, but it's not all about the work. It's about turning away from drink when I feel low, wobbly, and know that i need to turn for help. I'll do the freaking work, as I always put the work in. It's making last minute decisions, reactions that hurt me. I do the same at work. Something bad happens and my anxiety shoots up then I do something stupid like yell at a kid, run to my principal or someone, but those are the times when I need to figure out how to handle these thoughts that jump in my head. I need to step back, evaluate the situation rationally, and no one can be rational if their anxiety is so flippin high. I think I'm actually pinpointing my issue and where I fall. Once the irrational part of my brain starts working, I need to step back, think it through, and most importantly, call someone so they can be my rational part of my brain while it's missing. Either that, or I should have DH lock me in a room until I get my rational brain back.

I think I need to write this out in my journal. Good night.

[j-vo]

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Hi Girls,

NS, yes, I can either post a link to the whole page or quote the post. Got it. Thx.

SL, hugs sweetie. This too shall pass, as they say. But I know it hurts. I had three miscarriages, and funny thing, two of them happened in October around the same time two years apart. I was depressed for many Octobers before I even figured out why.

LB, things do eventually work themselves out. And I'm glad you're living proof to me. Each day gets better and better. May not be perfect, but what is, my friend? I guess I have a hard time with that perfection thing, though.

El, congratulations on your 80 days! How flippin great! Keep it going dear. And wow, it does work well for you. I was reading through my earlier posts and from how you sounded months ago, you've made great progress.

Wag, you see the work I'm doing, but it's not all about the work. It's about turning away from drink when I feel low, wobbly, and know that i need to turn for help. I'll do the freaking work, as I always put the work in. It's making last minute decisions, reactions that hurt me. I do the same at work. Something bad happens and my anxiety shoots up then I do something stupid like yell at a kid, run to my principal or someone, but those are the times when I need to figure out how to handle these thoughts that jump in my head. I need to step back, evaluate the situation rationally, and no one can be rational if their anxiety is so flippin high. I think I'm actually pinpointing my issue and where I fall. Once the irrational part of my brain starts working, I need to step back, think it through, and most importantly, call someone so they can be my rational part of my brain while it's missing. Either that, or I should have DH lock me in a room until I get my rational brain back.

I think I need to write this out in my journal. Good night.

[little beagle]

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Eloise 80 days is wonderful.

[Pavati]

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Hi, all:

I met a good friend for dinner. We didn't talk about drinking but she knows I quit and didn't order wine with dinner. We had a nice time and it was great to catch up.

J-Vo - I think that's called the lizard brain, if I'm not mistaken. I'm pretty sure it is the only functioning part of the teenaged brain as well...

SL - Aah, the drink ticket conundrum... Get the fanciest NA pina colada you can! I felt strong nostalgia many, many times this spring (a couple of months ago). Teary over everything. I think I'm older than you, but I think some of it was my age, and some of it was facing things without alcohol in my system. The beach sounds LOVELY to me right now.

LB - Lovely sentiment. I was saying today that I am genuinely happy to be me right now, too. I feel like a good person with a good life. There are ups and downs, but I feel pretty damned content right now. Yipee.

Hi, G. The YouTube video didn't work for me, either...

Jane - My knee is not a cartilage problem - the patella tracks wrong. I had to stop running, too, SL. Blech.

Can't stay awake any longer. This is the working Pav - not as much waffling.

Love you ladies and gent,
Pav

[Eloise]

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Thanks everyone for the congrats on my 80 days Af. It does feel good, and I am looking forward to joining the 100 day thread. Another little goal.... moving this week, so it has been trying. I feel like we jump from one thing to the next, at least I feel more calm to handle this continual stress. Living at my art studio is such a blessing. My hd is not in a good place in his mind, so this is sort of 'raining on my parade.' We should be jumping for joy, no more neighbor's walking on our heads, no more coaching the boy upstairs about how to put out the trash... no more hammering in the early mornings.. even if my hd isn't going to be cheerful you bet your butt I am.
:moon:

[patrice]

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Hi all,
Eloise, moving is very trying and exhausting but I really love throwing stuff out when you do a big move..
I'm having a relaxing day( another one!). I'm really trying not be feel guilty from not doing much ..and it's working!
Hope you're all doin good!
Xx
Pat