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Pav today i had to take tye to the airport and i was awake at 3.30am and left at 5am to drive him. we were talking about alcoholism in the family and he said he knew he had the potential so we then talked about how better it would be to stop sooner rather than later but i understood how hard that was when he is only 21. We also talked about when i was driniking that driving him to the airport i would have been hungover or still drunk and so angry towards him that I HAD TO DRIVE HIM. Today i was happy, chatty and went for an hour walk when i got to work. He told me that he loves the new me.

Im with you, i never want to drink. The memories may be cringeable at times but we did what we did but we dont do it anymore.

Im so tired now though, may get that good 8 hours that i can do as i am sober at 251 days. So not long till a year, im excited.

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Wags,
No cop out, just being cautious with a group of people you really don't know. I'd do the same in that situation.

Ava,
I may use that one about smoking crack if someone looks at me funny when told I don't drink. Just a different drug. I'm glad he loves the new you. I didn't know the old you, but man, I love the new one anyhow.

LB, you're sounding strong lady. Glad you liked that Lizard article. I'm gonna reread that one. Just another tool.

Up early today as I have tech training fro 8-4. I hope I can keep up! Have a great day.

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Ava ha ha ha I love the crack suggestion! Priceless.

Boobs are a B-cup as they used to be before; I did not want to go big (I'm 51 after all). Had to get small implants (170ml) to get me back to a B-cup, as there was mostly skin and not enough breast tissue to restore them to a B without the implants.
It is absolutely fantastic, I am so glad I went through with it. Very important though to choose the surgeon carefully and get a few references first. And like with most things, I suppose you get what you pay for. It was done on 23 July (16 days ago) and I cannot believe how little scarring there is, esp since he did he full anchor incision (i am using scar treatment cream with micropore plasters though).

Anyhoo, it's Friday afternoon here - weekend!
Hope you all have a wonderful day.
xox

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I would not be able to stop touching them or looking at them. Mmm now that sounds suss! I would love a new improved set! maybe one day. Im a DD and i hate them, hate them even more now i can nearly swing them over my shoulders.

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Ava I had a 90 year old lady tell me she just swings them over her shoulders a nd gets on eith it. :H.
Wags I love that. The bet idea. Protecting your quit is #1 and winning a bet is kind of what you're doing anyway. You are challenging yourself to a new life and winning the bet you can do it.
G hope you are having a good day.
J-vo my SIL will be teaching 7th grade this year. She's excited about it. Hope all goes well with your conference and you keep up.
Giraffe have a great weekend.
I am going to try and rest up this weekend. I am so tired.

[Pavati]

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Hi,

Quick pop in on my way to work.

Wags - read Byrdie's post in the Nest about her "plan" to stay sober. It is also in the toolbox. One of the key components of her plan was to be ready with a story. How can anyone cajole you to drink when you have a quick answer. It is not a cop out - it is part of a strong strategy to stay sober.

Off to work. I'll try to be back later. My son comes home tonight and we're going out to dinner to celebrate.

Happy Friday!
Pav

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Quick check in - busy day today!
Pav - in San Diego! Not hawaii - storms and earthquake!
My boobs are plenty big enough, but have the need for frequent rearranging of saggy skin:H Giraffe - you have us all thinking!!
See you later!

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Well, since we're all giving our sizes, mine's a B cup if that. Never had much, not even when I was nursing, although he nursed plenty! Always on the boob that first year!

Had training today. Now I know how to turn my tablet on and off at least...

Doing more school work right now. Seems once I get started I can't stop. Sounds familiar.

Have a great day ladies.

Hope NS and SL get home safely from the beach!

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MAE everyone,

Giraffe, Pav, Ava, LB, j-vo - Thanks for all the support and input re: my "excuse" for not drinking. I'll definitely check out Byrdie's post in the toolbox. I've probably seen it before but it never hurts to review good stuff. I definitely want to have a plan figured out in advance so that things go smoothly. I'm not too concerned that I'll be tempted to drink (maybe a little), but if I'm solid in my mind with a great excuse, I'll feel better.

I'm envisioning it'll go like this:

If anyone asks, I'll say I'm not drinking. Maybe (fingers crossed) they'll leave it at that. If they press or ask why, I'll tell them about my bet with my friend. I'm actually considering setting up this bet with a real friend just so it doesn't feel like a lie.

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Happy 100th Wags, wow time flies, i remember newbie Wags and my how things have changed. You have always been a strong woman but your strength being sober has been an amazing journey to watch. So very proud that another loamer has succeeded in getting triple digits.

How can you fail drinking when going away, we always over rationalise every event when we are going out of our comfort zone only to find it was fine. No one or anything is worth drinking over.

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Ava- So awesome that your son told you he loves the new you. That must have felt really good to hear

Jane - Hope all went well with the needle biopsy today. And, although crowns aren't the funnest (or cheapest) thing, if getting rid of that filling helps your health, it'd be totally worth it! Being a total dog lover, I look forward to hearing about John Cusack.

j-vo - Glad you got thru the training today. Back to school prep can be endless for teachers, can't it?

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Sorry for all of the posts - I didn't want to lump everything all together.

I just finished reading Caroline Knapp's book, Drinking: A Love Story. Two things really jumped out at me in the last chapter or two.

1. She talked about sobriety feeling like she had gotten a divorce from alcohol, and she compared the old relationship to a dysfunctional marriage. This seemed spot on to me, and I really liked the analogy. Getting a divorce is rarely an easy decision or process, even when you know it's for the best for yourself and others. After ending a truly dysfunctional relationship, no contact is often the best policy, just like with Al.

2. She also made this comment about what to say or think when those "maybe" questions come up in our heads: If I'm an alcoholic I shouldn't drink, and if I'm not, I don't need to.

True that. So simple, so accurate.

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I have downloaded that book but have not read it so i must do that.

I always think of al as a best friend who has died and i can never have back in my life. i missed him so very very much but as time has moved on the memories fade and he is someone i can never have back in my life. Mind you there were not many good memories of this so called best friend.

From my son telling me that Wags was wonderful. I have been facebooking him this morning and he told me that his best friend is so proud of me and his fiance is also as her mum is a chronic alky. As i said to Tye yesterday i want to be the best soberest nana and that is how my grandchildren will only know me as. His best friend has a child and an alcoholic nana that cant be trusted to look after him, i know that wont be me. I think its amusing that tye will tell everyone how proud he is that i have stopped drinking, i know i am doing something right with my life.

There are so many positives being sober.

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Hi, Everyone!

WAGS!!! 100 days is amazing. So excited for another Loamer in triple digits. Thanks for the information. I read that book a long time ago when I was just beginning to ask - am I or aren't I? I concluded NOT at the time (hah). I would like to read it again.

Narilly is camping, I believe. I hope you're good, Nar - we miss you!

Ava - Amazing about your kids as always. Being a sober and present mom and grandma (a while yet, I hope) is the greatest gift. Reading that letter that NS posted in the nest was a good reminder of actions that have consequences far beyond ourselves. If you're day 251 today, that makes it 250 for me (or will it be tomorrow??). Pretty dang amazing if you ask me. Half way to 500 and a quarter of the way to our giant celebration in August 2016 of 1,000 days.

I went to a work meeting with several people I haven't seen all summer. Several of them said how great I looked. Any improvement is 100% to do with quitting drinking - that has been a great motivator as well. Better skin, lost weight, a lighter demeanor.

Off to dinner with the family, and I get to see my son soon!

xo
Pav

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Pav it's so wonderful when you see people you haven't seen for awhile and you actually look better then you did. It makes you feel like you've really accomplished something.
Ava I'm happy your relationship with your kids is so much better. All my relationships ard better now.
Wags congratulations on reaching the triple digits. Wonderful.
J-vo the schools are already starting here. I went through school zones on Thursday. The summer seemed to fly by.
Jane I know that it's hard for me to bring up old memories and I think your decision to not get into your journals right now might be for the best.Maybe when your feeling better.