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[narilly]

Thts good Dottie. You really are doing well..

Nice pic Jane.

Super tired so I am going to sleep now. Goodnight.

[Pavati]

Hi, all:

I was scrolling through the posts and suddenly got an error message that MWO wouldn't let me click the "like" button!?? What now? Maybe I've used my quota since I like so many posts.

That picture is beautiful - is that really what it is like, Nar? Sorry about your husband. Mine has been rather bothersome lately, too. For me it is that he just doesn't take care of himself, and that sets a bad example for my sons (especially A2 who has a weight problem). I try to remember the good things, especially in light of what you are going through, Dot. Glad there might be joy soon...

SL - Sounds like you have a lot going on at work. Take good care of yourself! I was at the doctor's today and when my son told the nurse he didn't have a seatbelt on she was horrified and said he shouldn't do that to his mother. We started talking about her daughter, and we both came to the conclusion, having been daughters to mothers ourselves, that that mother/daughter relationship is a special kind of pain. As someone who works in a high school, I can tell you that there is no match for the drama a teenaged girl can bring. I feel sorry for them - they get so many conflicting messages about how to do/be/act - sexy, smart, shy, passive, assertive, pretty, strong, thin, blah blah blah. I'm sorry about her teacher, too. Sounds like a bitch to me, if she is worrying that much about clothes.

I just ran out of steam. Off to bed - good night.

xo
Pav

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
Sun is out and that makes me feel good.
Errands later and the grief group tonight. We are supposed to bring something that is a good memory of our loved one so I am taking a picture of us dancing and a train engine from his collection. Both hobbies brought us great joy.
I am not doing well in the exercise this week. With the trainer gal on vacation I am slacking off. Not good for my sleep. Maybe tomorrow I can get myself on the treddie. Or go outside and walk the dogs around the street...something, anything to get the blood pumping...and burn some calories...

[narilly]

Way to go Dottie, exercise is good, it gets those endorphins going.

Pav, yes, Canmore is beautiful. The mountains are amazing. We are lucky, its only an hour drive to the mountains. My hubby and son are really good snowboarders and my daughter and I ski. It is fun!

Gotta go, busy today.

[little beagle]

Hugs Jane. I hope something does come from the doctor. Thst sounds uncomfortable.
Dottie the fact that you are looking for joy is a positive sign.
Narilly hang in there.

[Myluck]

Hi ladies - how are you? I have not been for a while. Today is day 528 for me and I feel great. Thank you for your support. My hubby us still AF too.

[scottish lass]

Hi myluck - great to hear of your success!
Pav - thank you for the support.
Day 1 of audit complete - day 2 tomorrow...hanging in....zooming by.....

[Pavati]

Hi,

On my phone so short post..

Had another barrage of bad news from son's school but happy to report that rather than wanting to drink and hide from it all, I actually want to face and fix it. What a difference a year makes!

Jane feel better.

Hiya, Myluck. Good to hear from you.

Xo
Pav

[treetops]

Good on you Pav - I too find that I am much more able to deal with crises as and when they happen, since being sober. I still worry but I think I have a more measured approach to things. Its hard to know as I am also getting older and have just had to deal with a lot of responsibility while sober. I wouldn't put everything down to being AF thats for sure.
I haven't been able to read everyone's posts so I am bit behind. I don't envy you with the audit thing SL - we have budgetary matters to deal with at the moment and although I am not the number-cruncher, I have to deal with the bigger picture. Its not the side of work I get a lot of joy from.

I am glad that you are getting a little light relief Dottie.
Let us know how things go Jane.
Hi there MYLuck - we probably don't know each other that well but thats a great period of sobriety - its definitely easier, the longer you practice it isn't it?
Nar - hope things look up bit more for you soon.
Gidday also LB and Bear and all others.

OK - Easter coming up. Its combined with other holidays for me but we are not going away - daughter has assignments and I have a writing project to work on. I was thinking about Easters of before that we used to have - we usually go away and its always been fun (we head for remote places and usually do hiking etc) but I used to put a lot of effort into making sure there would be enough AL (as well as food). It became quite the pattern - me organizing a family trip, and carefully anticipating my access to AL. Sitting out, in drop-dead gorgeous settings, in the autumnal evenings sipping wine, then gulping wine and you probably all know the scenario. Guilt, tip-toeing about the next day - being extra-nice to compensate for any excesses from me. Its seems such a time ago, but its not really is it? Then in 2012, we took a family Easter holiday to a small island in New Zealand and I decided not to drink. Hellz, that was hard. Really really hard. There was AL on the island but it required an effort to get it. I think that was when I enlisted the support of my partner and to a much lesser extent, my daughter. I recall him regaling me with the most ridiculous string of reasons why AL was evil and why I shouldn't drink - he did a sort of Robn Williams number, lots of humor. My daughter (who then was aged 14) took me for a lovely walk one evening just to distract me - and told me that she didn't want me to die.
I didn't quit completely then but I stayed sober for c 6 days -there were many stops and starts between that Easter and October 2012 when I did quit. BUt that was my first sober Easter as an adult (and I am ancient!).
Anyway - just thought I would share that wee story - since Easter is coming up. I must buy my family who have been with me in this sober thing, some yummy Easter Eggs. It ain't always a barrel of fun but I am so grateful.
Bit emotional for me, I know - I am usually so practical!

[bear73]

Morning everyone, day 3 of my week off, I've got a pedicure booked later and my beautiful new pink leopard print outdoor roller skates are arriving between 1pm and 2pm - exciting I've basically got to fit in a gym visit, and maybe getting a prescription inbetween some lazing.
Seriously though I think I really needed this break - got the quotes for big spring clean and regular cleans - it's a lot - but I think I'm going to do it and treat myself.A clean and tidier home will make me feel so much better.Now just need to get quotes for new bathroom and decorating bedroom and I'm away.
Have a good day everyone.

[Eloise]

hey guys! looks like all is well. I have been busy with my horseback riding this week. Quite the workout and learning curve but getting better all the time!

[little beagle]

Jane I am once again trying to limit myself on how much I plant this spring. Thanks for that yearly update. It's wonderful to know that year has gone by and I'm still here.
It's great tonsee you my luck. Congratulations to you and hubby for hanging in there.
TT that was a very inspiring post. It brings home the reason for being here together. We need support to get through this. To keep us on track. So we can be there for our loved ones.
I'm going through a just hang in there time. Just feeling so lethargic. But this too shall pass.
have a good one.

[treetops]

LB - I am sending you some special energy vibes for Easter - but as you say, it will pass. Maybe this is a time to just as you say 'hang in there'.

Thanks for the update Jane - I wasn't posting on this thread a year ago, so its great to see how the Gloamers have travelled in the sober journey. Bit intrigued about the porn!

[jane27]

Lil, sorry you are feeling lethargic. Maybe the shift from winter to spring has something to do with it? Has cutting back on the number of jobs been helpful at all?
Wishing everyone a good night. Xo

[Dottie Belle]

Hi all,
Not sure what my garden will look like this year. Without hubbs to help me I may scale back. My heart is not in it. He loved the tomatoes so could make pasta sauce. I wont be making any without him to enjoy it with. I know I want to plant some greens and might try some new ones. Not sure but it is too early to plant here. Maybe some early greens that like the cold I need to do some research on that one. I see some green things coming up out of the garden but no clue what it is...maybe end of this season I dig all the beds up and start over next year....lots of time to figure that out.
Grief counselor later and a thing at church too. Gets me out of the house.