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[j-vo]

I know eventually it'll be like you, Ava, how you have the good memories and not the sickness and dying in your mind. And yes, I'll live in the present, giving both my parents all the sober goodness I have. You were saying yesterday about how quickly this illness affects people. Mom was diagnosed only in June of last year. But she knew something was up. She was tired a lot, tripped and fell a few times, couldn't open a bottle of water...So yes, since the diagnosis, it's been so unbelievably fast, and I didn't think it was going to be. I thought she'd have several more good years. I'll stop talking about this now and get to work. Thank you.

[little beagle]

Sending you thoughts and prayers J-vo.
Thanks for being with us Ava.

[j-vo]

Thursday already. This week was the first bitter cold with snow we've had this winter. I'm grateful for that. We did find out that our little Ramsay who is now a big boy of 8 lbs (almost) loves the snow. He flew outside, excited and jumping around, dragging his little body and short legs through it. It was so funny. He's such a little joy and a little shit at the same time. And so different from my Leo that passed away in May. Both beautiful. We've taught him to use doggie steps, because Leo had a 3,000 surgery on his back from jumping off the sofa. We need to save money for college!

Have a great sober day.

[j-vo]

I don't usually go to coffee club, but I decided to go this morning. When I do go, we laugh and giggle about stupid things, so it's good therapy! Need to go more. Well, this wasn't a giggling matter but it made me really think about how evil drink is.

Posted this in NN:

So, in coffee club this morning, someone was talking about a woman we'd worked with for many years. I knew she was a heavy drinker. Well, apparently after retirement, she didn't slow down. Someone said they see her all the time leaving the state store with a bottle. It doesn't surprise me, but it made me really think about several things. She's wasting her retirement, losing precious time to enjoy and do things. She has ropes and chains all around her, as she is not letting herself free from booze. It's sad to think about and I'm thinking about it because I never want that to me be. She has grandchildren, too, and I bet they don't stay with her alone. Thought of you Lav, how blessed you are to have that opportunity. Yeah, that was on my mind a lot. I wanna remember this.

[narilly]

Sometimes you never know the value of a moment until it's a memory

I love that JVo, what a great saying! Your story about Ramsay is hilarious. My Weenie, Franky, used to frolic in the snow when it first fell, I have a video of it. So hilarious. It is cool how they are so different. I just love little Elvis, he is the cutest dog. He is starting to bark though, hopefully I can train him not to bark like crazy.

Ava, its nice to see you here again. I am so sorry about Robert. I missed that somehow. I know you made the end of his life so much better. He was probably very grateful to have you there for him.
41C in Australia? Well, it is 0C here which is warm but we are going down to -20C this weekend which really sucks for my dog. It is funny how our climates are opposite.

Hi Lil B.

Talk soon.

Happy being Un Hung here in The Great White Fabulous North

[little beagle]

Unhung here in the rainy south. The forecast was for a wet winter abd so far it hasn't been wrong.J-vo Ramsey sounds like a really cheerful pup. Lots of fun. But I know the frustration too. I do. Boy I do.

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

J-Vo - We're with you. I have known two people with ALS - it is a beast. Your parents are lucky to have you there, but no doubt this will be a difficult time. Lean on us as much as you need.

Ava - love it when you swing by.

We're having a much needed wet winter here in No. Cal., too. LOVE it.

Night, Gloamers.

xo
Pav

[j-vo]

Morning,
Busy day today. Work, pack, basketball game, and I'll be getting up at 2:30 a.m. Because my flight is super early. Going back to be with Mom and Dad until next Friday. I have some anxiety about this upcoming trip. Pav, it is a beast of a disease. But I know I"ll be able to get to the fitness center to work off the anxiety and tension that build up. I think the exercise is really helping me although I can feel that getting up so early by the end of the week might be too much. I may need to readjust.

Enjoy your rainy weather all. I think it'll be getting bitter cold here next week, but I'll be in much nicer weather. Dodged that one!

Have a good day.

Choices, where are you girl?

[Choices]

I'm with you on the working out helping burn the anxiety and tension! I also am finding I need to keep re-adjusting that myself... Especially once I get tired.. like if I've gone hard out for a few days.. then I just pull back a ton. And eat whatever I want... This is not my usual.. but it seams to be working. I'm good thanks Jvo. I am feeling the benefits of not drinking and feel like I'm closer and closer to how things use to be before I fell off the wagon. But I'm not out of the woods i still have evenings.. or afternoons where I'm not so much craving but more remembering the edge being taken away feeling with a few.. (a drunk)... but the edge.. is getting less and less sharp. I feel my coping skills improving for sure. A lot of deep breaths.. At this stage, the thought of a hangover makes me kind of dry reach, or heave. It's so hot here.. I can't complain.. but to be drunk during the afternoon or hungover would be murder. I do not miss alcohol.. I'm back to the it's poison state of mind. I can't stand the smell of the stuff. When I walk past cafe's what looked appealing a few weeks ago, now looks like hard work. And it stinks! Much more interested in cold, cold water with lemons and cucumbers.

[NoSugar]

Sounds like you're getting some good re-wiring of your brain, Choices. It makes life so much less complicated when it is clear that alcohol is the problem- and a solution to nothing.

Have a good (if too early!) trip, J-vo. I'm on a similar visit to my parents though neither the distance or heartache are like what you're experiencing. I'm sorry it is so tough. :hug:.

Like you, Nar, I'm grateful to be unhung each and every day. I'm kind of surprised how often that still occurs to me each day - and I hope it always does.

Take good care of yourselves, Gloamers. xx, NS

[narilly]

I agree NS. I still think about how grateful I am to be sober. I hope I never forget what a mess I was when I was drinking.

Way to go Choices. You are doing so well.

Thinking of you JVo.

[STEADFAST]

Hi Gloamers,

Okay, decided to stick my head round the door.....It's very quiet on the 100 Day Clubbers' thread......

Yes, being "unhung" is such a blessing. I enjoy the freshness of each day.

Travel well,
Steady

[j-vo]

Good Too Early Morning!

People in the security line were very happy and awake at 4 a.m.!! Good for them, going away, going somewhere warm. It's always a treat to walk out into the warm, sunshine after bitter cold.

NS, have a safe and enjoyable trip.

To piggyback on your unhung thoughts, every morning I think about that. Usually on my way to work, I am grateful for how clear-headed I am and relaxed.

Choices, you sound great and progressing in the right direction. Happy for you, Lady Gloamer. You're very attune to everything and I think that's wonderful, listening to your body and what it needs.

Son had a game last night (we won!) so didn't get home until about 10:00, then up at 2:30. And I got this, because I'm sober. I would not have been able to work all day yesterday, go to the games, get back up so early if I'd been actively drinking, even if I weren't drinking the night before. My body is getting stronger and it's a good thing.

Here we go again! (Whitesnake's song) I'll be checking in from a warmer climate!

[jane27]

Good Morning Gloamers!

Have an obnoxious, draws-attention-in-public cold ( cough cough cough, slurp, sniff, snort....hack cough cough cough, gasp, blow, sigh). Supposed to go see Stomp tonight. I believe it's a musical (with stomping?). Not gonna make many friends there...lol

Has anyone else caught an episode of Gigolos on Showtime? Its sort of a must see. On so many levels.

JVo and Choices, your posts are such a rich addition to our thread. Thank you for being here.

Hey Steady!

G, where's Bruno at these days and how can I get me ears of some of your 80s tunes? I looked online but came up empty.

Love and peace to all, Jane

[treetops]

I may get thrown off the Gloamers thread for saying this but I dont actually consciously think about not having a hangover every day and probably never have much thought about hangovers. So I see being 'unhung' as a metaphor for other things What I do think about is the freedom from addiction and being a slave to AL and the fear of never being able to stop drinking. And the hard hard work it took to quit.
Maybe also it was because I had a serious health scare - it was the realization over three years ago simply that "I want to live" and I want to be there for my daughter - I dont want her to see me die from this.

Very sorry you have a nasty cold Jane. I have heard of Stomp but not seen it.

I have had a bad headache this weekend - it comes and goes.

Hope the rest of the weekend is going well for you all.