AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

[Lavande]

Good morning Abbers!!!!

I'm back with full power - Yay!!!!!
'Roughing it' for nearly 24 hours was quite enough, especially in this freezing cold weather :H

Det, I promise I will not jump out of a helicopter with a knife in my teeth until hell freezes over, I swear :H :H Hope you are feeling better today!

There's a large tree branch on the roof of my chicken house, it's partially blocking their yard too. Nothing I can do about it - I don't have a chain saw license :H

I hope everyone is OK & plans to have a wonderful AF Thursday!

Lav

[porqoui]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

Morning Lav....glad to hear you've got your power back. Does YB have his chain saw license? Another cold morning but it's supposed to warm up a bit today. I'll be glad to see this winter behind me.

Got a very disturbing phone call last night. My twin sister ended up on a drinking binge yesterday and all hell broke out. I was able to calm things down a bit but am so glad she lives in a different province.

Staff meeting all morning today but at least they'll feed us pizza for lunch.

Have a great AF Thursday all to come....PPQP

[YoungAtHeart]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

MAE all. Just read over the last several days' worth of threads. Interesting question about the disease concept of alcoholism. I don't personally buy it, but I do think it is useful on several fronts; namely, to get insurance to reimburse for it, to give it legitimacy (to remove the stigma of others' seeing it as a failure of willpower or character), and to relieve the guilt/shame from alcoholics who also see it as a failure of character. And it lends credence to the idea of not being able to drink again to some alcoholics. I agree with Kuya that there is an internal disconnect that is usually the result of childhood trauma and/or pain. I have yet to meet an alcoholic who doesn't have some kind of deep pain, insecurity, low self-esteem, anxiety, whatnot. That's just my two cents' worth.

They have a saying in AA that you might stop yourself from becoming a pickle, but once you're a pickle, you can't go back to being a cucumber. So true. Once we became alcoholics, there's no going back. I drank alcoholically in my teens, but I didn't cross over into alcoholism and was then able to go back and drink socially for many years. It wasn't until my marriage went south in my mid-30's that I again began drinking alcoholically and crossed over into alcoholism itself.

I'm so sorry so many of you have been ill. That sucks. I hope the weekend finds you all much better and able to enjoy your days again.

I'm glad you have your power back, Lav.

The Superbowl was the most boring football game ever, except, perhaps, for Seattle fans. I enjoyed the commercials mostly; some were quite clever. I never was a beer drinker, so those didn't bother me either. Wine commercials would have bothered me. I know that the first Superbowl I went through sober was rough, but now I like to make up some special tea and snacks and it is much better. It does get easier with time.

Anyway, I have some paperwork to do (what else is new?) so I'll just say a general hi. I just wanted to jump back in, and it never gets easier when you put it off!

:l
YahYah

[Lavande]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

Yes PQ!
YB has his chain saw license & several chain saws in the garage. I won't touch them - no way :no:
I enjoy having all ten fingers right where they belong!!!!
I let the chickens out this morning & they seem to be having fun jumping on & playing around the branch in their yard anyway

Hi there YahYah!
Yes, I am grateful to be powered up again!
Yesterday was one long, cold, boring & miserable day but I survived :H
I've been making calls & checking in on some older friends, making sure they are OK.

YB just texted, wants to go to that Outdoor Show in Harrisburg tomorrow. Guess I'll go just to get out for a day but I really have no interest in that stuff. I think Det should go with him - the NRA is sponsoring the whole thing

[treetops]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

Hi guys. Did you know that in Nz you don't have to have a licence to use a chain saw?
We have one at our home but I won't use it and G. Doesn't like using it either.

I gather there are now lite chain saws available that are aimed at the female market.

Another machine that definitely does not go with AL but sadly some idiots have been known to use a saw while drunk or stoned.

[Samstone]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

OK, I'll bite... is there really such a thing as a chainsaw license??

[treetops]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

Hi Sam I also wondered if this was a tease. I bite easily:l

[Determinator]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

hidy ho ABers!

after a very long sweaty night my fever finally broke. whew! feeling a good 25% better today happy to say.

chainsaw license? never heard of that either?

YAH, there is indeed a strong relationship between childhood abuse/neglect and mitigated brain development in the areas of dopamine production which of course leads nicely into self-medication.

I just listened to this fantastic podcast on the subject by one of my fav modern philosophers:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qp4pEP3X_NY&list=UUC3L8QaxqEGUiBC252GHy3w& feature=c4-overview[/video]]The Truth About Addiction - RIP Philip Seymour Hoffman - YouTube

Lav, the outdoor show sounds great! hope YB enjoys.

back laterish

be well everyone

[kuya]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

Perhaps this was missed from yesterday's thread.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=JBA5HJqcTa0

[TheSunFlower]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

Good God....the weather report is that it's never ever getting warm again. I know I should not complain at 28 degrees, but I am.

I run around all day....so it's warm up the car drive, meet client, warm up the car, meet client....repeat, repeat, repeat. I skipped lunch today simply because I could not bear getting out of the car an extra time.

I am so freaking happy that is my biggest problem today!

[NoSugar]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

kuya;1623709 wrote: Perhaps this was missed from yesterday's thread.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=JBA5HJqcTa0

I've watched it and some his others today. I'm not sure what to think but I'm trying to learn more and understand it better. Maybe I should just give it a try .

[Lavande]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

Sorry kuya, I haven't had a chance yet to watch the video. I'm watching my grandsons at the moment.

There is no such thing as a chain saw license guys - I was just kidding :H
We used to tell our son stuff like that so he would stay away from all the dangerous equipment in the garage. When he was 14 we gave him his 'tractor license' so he could cut the grass for us :H

Still feeling very fortunate to have the power back - still so many people going without tonight & it's cold!

[kuya]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

NoSugar;1623719 wrote: I've watched it and some his others today. I'm not sure what to think but I'm trying to learn more and understand it better. Maybe I should just give it a try .

I have always been sceptical of 'quick fix' merchants......BELIEVING that it MUST be hard, or even impossible, to fix emotional traumas carried for decades.

I have had many suggestions to sort these traumas, yoga, meditation, psychotherapy( did that one) and the discipline involved filled me with dread.

I will share this so you can grasp the implication to, dare I say, the world.

I was fostered from a baby and one set of foster parents, up to and including my third birthday, were quite cruel. I have memories of being hungry, being dragged across the floor and locked in a cupboard. These people had four children and the five of us shared a bunk bed. As 'the fifth' I always had to find a space to fit in with two. They would kick me out. I had a vivid memory of sitting curled up in a ball behind the closed door of the bedroom freezing cold. It was pitch dark and I could just make out the shape of the children sleeping. I could not/ would not cry or complain as I knew the parents would beat me. I remember stuffing my nightgown in my mouth to stifle my tears.

Remember this is a TWO year old child.

To this day I find crying very hard....I may cry once every year.

You note I said 'I HAD a vivid memory' ? Recounting that story before today would have provoked deep emotions, fear, sadness, self-pity and it would have coloured my mood for hours.

Having used the EFT technique only four times on this memory it now provokes NO emotions......nothing. It has lost it's power. As Robert Smith points out, after the real event it is ME locking me in a cupboard, ME beating me for crying, ME starving me and leaving me cold.....in my mind, over and over and over and over again.

To have found this simple effective way to disconnect these memories and truly heal is the MOST exciting thing I have found since......well ..... Forever.

[treetops]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

Lav - you are naughty!!!:l I believed you and told G. It will probably be breaking news on TVNZ tonight.

[kuya]

AF Daily ~ Thursday Feb 6

treetops;1623793 wrote: Lav - you are naughty!!!:l I believed you and told G. It will probably be breaking news on TVNZ tonight.

OMG...too funny!! :H:H