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    February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

    “I suspect it may be like the difference between a drinker and an alcoholic; the one merely reads books, the other needs books to make it through the day."

    (Interview with The Booklovers blog, September 2010)”
    ― Gail Carriger

    Well, I couldn't help but smile when I read this quote. It could have been written just for Star! Now that I think about it Star, you may be battling a dual addiction!:H

    Week 3 already Friends. This month is going fast in spite of the horrid weather.

    Rusty, speaking of books and reading, our friend Imus was talking the other day about how he read several books from a favorite author while he was still drinking vodka back in the old days. He said he would read them but the next day he couldn't remember what he had read. Boy did that sound familiar! I think I read the Potter books at least twice because of that! I had to reread the next morning what had been read the preivious night. Luckily we were reading them aloud to each other, so I didn't have to cover a lot of ground! It's a wonder I didn't slur my words!

    Papmom and Lav, keep the faith! This winter will soon be a memory and thanks to your AF status, it is one that you will keep clearly and forever and gratefully thru distance of time!

    Cyn, are you back from the west coast? If not, I'd stay a few days longer if I were you!

    We're on the tail end of another storm here. My son said the roads were awful last night when he drove to the NA meeting and there were several cars in ditches that he saw. I wondered then how an NA or AA meeting can announce a cancellation. That would kind of ruin the anonymity!:H Anyway, he said the attendance was down but he really appreciated getting to go and thanked us for keeping watch over the little ones.

    Peace, strength and serenity to all.
    Dill

    Dont forget, you can: start late, start over, be unsure, try and fail AND STILL SUCCEED!

    If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse.

    #2
    February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

    Good morning to all...

    Valentine's day was challenging, but now it is over, thank goodness.

    Dill, I am addicted to books!!! It is a good addiction though.

    Lav, what do you put on salads if you can't use dressing? The other stuff I can stay away from. Soy sauce from the store does not affect me, I get gluten free, low salt. I am slowly getting better, but need to just eat at home, as suggested.

    Pap, sorry about all the snow, I checked the Farmer's Almanac prediction, and we are not getting an early spring. Big Surprise. Hey, in three weeks it is March, Day light savings time, we are moving forward.

    Have a great day all.
    Formerly known as redhibiscus

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      #3
      February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

      Good morning Dill & everyone!

      The snow hasn't started here yet but it's on the way. it's not supposed to be more than 3" they say. It better not be more or I just may lose my mind :H :H
      The news people are reporting this is the 3rd snowiest winter on record!
      Glad your son was able to travel safely Dill

      Nothing special on my day plan. I need to catch up with house chores around here.
      Wishing everyone a wonderful AF Saturday! Be safe out there!!!

      Lav
      AF since 03/26/09
      NF since 05/19/09
      Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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        #4
        February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

        Hi Star - cross post!

        I make salad dressings from scratch or just use oil & vinegar.
        I do splurge on a bottled dressing called 'OrganicVille'. They make non dairy, gluten free dressings like Ranch & Miso Ginger. Expensive but very good
        AF since 03/26/09
        NF since 05/19/09
        Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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          #5
          February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

          Good Morning, Friends!!!

          Dill-my sincere thanks for starting us off with a GREAT quote, and with lively conversation! You sound so spry, so full of cheer and verve this morning, so I hope your depression is lifting.:l Yes, vodka and reading/typing....I was like I-Man...I would put an audit schedule together for one of my clients...then forget that I had done it the day before. Congratulations to your son on his 90-day NA chip! You must be particularly proud of him for going to NA in this horrible weather. That's true commitment.

          I think I read the Potter books at least twice because of that! I had to reread the next morning what had been read the preivious night. Luckily we were reading them aloud to each other, so I didn't have to cover a lot of ground! It's a wonder I didn't slur my words! :H
          I wondered then how an NA or AA meeting can announce a cancellation. That would kind of ruin the anonymity!
          :H:

          You are on a roll today, Dill! I love it!!!!

          Star-you mentioned Valentine's Day was challenging. Why? Were there a lot of people at the restaurant toasting with champagne? No harm in being addicted to books. My aunt was always a voracious reader, and now in sobriety, she is even more so into reading different kinds of books and she too loves remembering what she read the night before. I hope you can find a variety of foods that won't set off your allergies. That must be awful.:l

          Pap-20 lbs. and 6 inches around your waist....melted away!!! Amazing!!! Congratulations! Thank goodness you decided not to mess with the plow snow. Not good for your heart, and I hope you didn't come down with a cold....it's the last thing you need.

          Cyn-our cross-country girl! I hope you are letting grass grow under your feet for a while. You sure deserve a rest.

          Lav-I saw that multiple-car accident near Philly on the news yesterday! I hope no one you know was in that mess.

          I better get my day going....lots to do in a small amount of time...grocery shopping, work out, and then some business tasks. Later this afternoon I am going to visit with my mom, and then she is treating us to dinner at a lovely restaurant that I've never been to, but is supposed to be fabulous. It's my belated birthday celebration, and it will be a sober one, too. I am really busy here....lots of long commutes and then I am cat-sitting my neighbor's 2 cats for a week. I've done a lot of cat sitting and I'm happy to do it, and remember I did it the next day!:H

          Hi to Dream and anyone else popping in or lurking, hope you have a lovely AF Saturday!

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            #6
            February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

            Hi Rusty!

            Star - this is for you & I didn't even have to go looking for it
            Over 45 Real Food Salad Dressing Recipes
            AF since 03/26/09
            NF since 05/19/09
            Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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              #7
              February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

              Good morning...

              Lav, thanks so much for the salad dressing recipes. I am focusing on eating at home, making my own food. I have been feeling so unhealthy due to allergic reaction, it is time to make big changes and I am. After reading blogs about people who just got sick due to reactions to chemicals in foods...I think that could be what happened to me. It is life changing to eat differently, but with this time away from work, I can do this.

              Rusty, it was just a bad Valentine's day. My husband got me NOTHING, and I was furious. Hurt and sad. So, I went out and bought myself whatever I wanted. I don't normally do things like that, actually never have before, but to not even get me a card? What a thoughtless thing to do. Then, out to dinner, and our food was late, served cold, expensive. I returned it and had dessert. It was just a bad day. Next year I will cook at home, ask for flowers, and emphasize he cannot forget. It is over and I have moved on. I would not have told you but you asked. Expectations are not always a good thing to have.

              Dill, so glad your son is focused on recovery, every day is a success. We had a few more inches of snow yesterday morning. It is supposed to get warmer, in the 40s, later in the week. Whoohoo!!!

              Pap, hope you are having a relaxing weekend. One thing about bad weather, we are forced to stay home and rest.

              Not sure what is on my agenda today. Have a great day all.
              Formerly known as redhibiscus

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                #8
                February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

                Good Morning, Dear Friends,

                I have a full day of work and church ahead so I thought I would poke my head in right away. Last night's dinner with my family was one of the most fun birthdays I've ever had. Lots of laughs....great food, and my brother and BIL kept me giggling all night. My family is at the very top of my gratitude list today.

                Star:l I am so sorry your Valentine's Day was a bust!!:upset: Good for you for going out and buying whatever you wanted to quell your anger. You are soooo right....expectations are NOT always a good thing. I remember several years ago, there was a thread in the General Discussion Forum called, "What Did Your Husband Get You for Valentine's Day?" There were over 10 women who posted with stories similar to yours, with a few who posted they received gifts their husbands knew they didn't like, just because their husbands felt obligated to get them something
                for V-Day...and the overall sentiment was that no one's expectations were met that day. It was one of the saddest threads I've ever read. I hope today you find something relaxing and soothing to do.:l

                Big hellos to everyone else. I am off to start my day. Have a wonderful AF Sunday!!

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                  #9
                  February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

                  Good morning frosty friends!

                  It is cold, wind chill in the single digits & I am getting seriously sick & tired of this :H
                  Yet another snowstorm expected Tuesday morning. I have no where to put another 6" of snow.

                  Star, the more you read around those blogs the more you will see that we are not alone with this problem. There are thousands of us reacting to food additives!!! Changing the way you eat takes some time & practice but you will feel better not having all those nasty reactions

                  I had zero expectations for Valentines day. YB walked Friday afternoon & handed a pink gift bag with a small potted red rose plant & a bag of Swedish fish candies (I used to love those sugary things decades ago). I smiled & said 'Thank You' but didn't make a big deal out of it , I'm not crazy

                  Hello to Dill, Rusty, papmom, cyn, DTD & anyone stopping by today!
                  Have a wonderful AF Sunday!

                  Lav
                  AF since 03/26/09
                  NF since 05/19/09
                  Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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                    #10
                    February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

                    Good morning friends,

                    Good to see you twice in 2 days, Rusty! What a treat! I'm glad you had such a special birthday celebration, you are special and you deserve it!:h Why do you have a full day of work to do on a Sunday? I hope it is work you enjoy. I did Church yesterday afternoon for a change. It was a nice way to spend a cold afternoon. Funny about doing work while sipping wine or vodka. I may have mentioned in that past that I did that too. Not cool. I would read reports that I had written and think, "Wow! I don't remember writing that!" The amazing thing was, they were accurate and well done.. I guess that puts us in the "high functioning alcoholic" category. I was that for a time anyway. But eventually it got too much and I fell out of that special category....

                    Hi Lav, Swedish fish candies? I've never heard of such a thing! Is it really made out of fish? I shall google.

                    Star, I didn't get anything for V-day either. I think it is the first time that Mr. D and I both let the day go by without giving each other anything. I can't be mad at him because I was bad, too! I think it has to do with our home life being so chaotic. Sorry your day was a let down for you. Tell Mr. Star to shape up or we'll all come after him and make him sorry!:H Thread Power!

                    I had a friend tell me yesterday that her hb had bought too many radishes and she was trying to figure out what to do with them. She decided to roast them. What?! I had never heard of such a thing. My only experience with radishes was to eat them raw. So, anyway, I had to google it and I found this great little link which I thought you might enjoy. It's a recipe but also an essay written by a daughter for her mother. Hope you enjoy:

                    Roasted Radishes | Side dish recipe | Spoon For Bacon
                    Dill

                    Dont forget, you can: start late, start over, be unsure, try and fail AND STILL SUCCEED!

                    If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse.

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                      #11
                      February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

                      Lav-I read your post on YB's gift. I thought it touching that he got you a red rose plant and Swedish goldfish. Isn't it the thought that counts? At least he thought about Valentine's Day and acted upon it. You know he can't/won't apologize for his transgressions but he does seem to be making small efforts. It seems to have no effect on you. You've never discussed what would make you happy when it comes to your relationship with him. Care to disclose?

                      Dill-I have been thinking about you and found some passages I will share with you later in an email from my work drudgery. I hope you and Mr. D. find some private time today.

                      Back to work. Back later, though.

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                        #12
                        February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

                        What a great idea Dill - roasted radishes
                        I'll try that because when eaten raw they cause me mucho hearburn :H

                        Rusty, the reason YB's small efforts have no effect on me is because they're all bullshit/more of the same. All I want from him is all I've ever wanted - truth & honesty!
                        He knows this but apparently still can't deliver so nothing has changed.....really. Sure, he's a lot less depressed than he was but still has to live in a cloud of secrecy
                        I don't know how to ever trust him again - it's too much.
                        AF since 03/26/09
                        NF since 05/19/09
                        Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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                          #13
                          February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

                          Good morning to all...

                          More snow here, and I don't have to drive to work! I am so happy not to be in that mess today and tonight.

                          Lav, I hear you with YB, "too little, too late." At least he gave you something, and showed he realized and thought about it. I also know that you have to protect yourself, you cannot let yourself be hurt and vulnerable as you were in the past. It would just be too much. Being a healthy AF means to take care of self, first. It has to be this way and I understand. In fact, I find it healthy.

                          Rusty, yeah, Valentine's Day stunk, but letting go and moving on, we had a lovely weekend. I realize in the big scheme of things this was not worth getting upset for too long, BUT, I do expect some things and that is OK. He realizes it and I am sure this willnot happen again. How fun to have a family birthday party, your family sounds great.

                          Dill, it is hard when family drama goes on for long periods of time. I hope you and Mr. D. get a chance to go out to dinner or something else for just the two of you. My husband and I visited our son yesterday in his new place, and it was so good to have him living on his own. This will happen for you too, in time.

                          I bought a new computer for my new job, so today will be spent setting it up and figuring it out. I have some errands to run, exercise, and so will be busy all day. Stay safe and warm.
                          Formerly known as redhibiscus

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                            #14
                            February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

                            Good morning Star & everyone,

                            It's a frosty 14 degrees here, snow doesn't arrive until tomorrow. So much to look forward to, honestly :H
                            I am getting snow weary as is everyone else around here. I'm running through my list of favorite things to do to keep me distracted - enough.

                            Thanks for understanding my position where YB is concerned Star.
                            It's not easy dealing with a 61 year old with a lifelong history of distorted, child-like thinking. I will never know what he is protecting with all of his hiding & secrecy, it's just plain ridiculous at this point. I'm still offended that he tried to blame me for his thinking. That's just wrong.
                            Good to hear your son has settled into his new place!

                            OK, I hope to get my sorry self to Curves this morning. Driving/parking conditions have kept the place closed so much this winter. I have put on a few pounds 'comforting' myself with good food since Christmas :H

                            Wishing everyone a good AF Monday!

                            Lav
                            AF since 03/26/09
                            NF since 05/19/09
                            Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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                              #15
                              February Freedom Fighters ~ week 3

                              Hello Friends,

                              Lav, I'm enjoying the Daniel Amen book and getting good information and ideas. It's not so much that his information about how to improve your mental health is so new, but some of his techniques are good. Also, I hear you about YB and the blame issue. The book was covering that yesterday and it was pointed out that during the "Blame Game" a person shirks responsibility for their own unhappiness by shifting the blame/responsibility on to others. It therefore turns one into a victim, powerless over their own destiny. Something like that, anyway. Yes, it is important to see one's own part and take steps to improve one's one condition. It sounds like you are doing what you can to preserve your own peace and happiness.

                              There is also a segment on avoiding negative people. Once again I wondered what you do if the negative person is a family member. My thinking always goes to difficult DIL. Because I try to be a compassionate person, I can't help but want to help her. But I simply can't give her the help she needs, not while I'm helping her children and my son. Part of helping my gkids is that I give them space away from from her negative influence. She is a mess. I don't want to go into it now, but maybe I will some other time.

                              Star, a new computer! What fun! I am assuming you got a laptop. What kind? Will you be needing it to work from home? How nice to get to go visit your son at his own place. Is it very far? I hope he continues to grow and flourish.

                              Greetings Rusty, Cyn, Papmom and lurkers. Aren't Monday mornings AF a particularly special gift?
                              Dill

                              Dont forget, you can: start late, start over, be unsure, try and fail AND STILL SUCCEED!

                              If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse.

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