friday twenty oneth feb

[Mick]

well here we are again tis the weekend almost here ..apart from upside doon land where they are already into it..how are yizall?ok I hope ..bit of a frost here today...took my rabbit to the vet yesterday...she has got a neurological infection ..and is on a months treatment course for it..she has got a head tilt to the left..some big massive latin name ,,see told you it would come in handy...
going to jetwash my green house out today...so far plated seeds for chillies,peppers,cauli,cabbage onions and 3 different types of tomato and broad beans.

right on we go..before we start...despite tt s disparaging remarks about dodgy jockanese food....:H I saw this on the news here yesterday..it is really interesting

Welcome to the Scottish Diaspora!

well worth a look ..dont join it or subscribe..just look at the tapestry panels from all over the wureld ...Lav think you will be interested.It certainly makes you proud of your heritage!

tea n cawfee on the go....

hiya Det ,,how are you today? any better? hope so mate ..you home for the weekend?

hiya sf...how are you ? ok I hope..yes you are right ..the process starts before the first drink..kinda like astone rolling down a hill..once it is on the way ,its pretty hard to stop!!the key is to get to it before it starts rolling!

hiya Sam...wow thats ace 40 acres...thats exactly what I wanted to do..get the land behind my house ..like you I would never build on it ...still waiting for the farmer to come back to me..sadly methinks its a non starter because of the logistics of the fence and boundary moving but who knows ..he might.

hiya SL...was gonna say how are you today? ..but reckon I can guess! your stone started rolling the minute you went into that shop and let yourself be coerced into buying wine!!!
lets look at what what you wrote..and answer them...and lets me totally honest about it too..

I am angry that school will not help me to help my daughter succeed...right lets have some wine ..bollox to them Ill show them I can do it and I dont need them..how dare they not help me.they dont have a clue ...nother wine ?thanx

I am tired of trying to fight alone..its so tiring ...never mind ,have a glass of wine ,then things will be ok..in fact Ill just chill with this bottle,and it will be fixed..there will be whole bloody army behind me when I wake up!!

I am not hungry, but might of been when I shopped,hey but look on the bright side ..look at the calories Im saving plus I dont have to make anything now, I can have another few wines please ,,thank you very much oh and if I get hungry I will just have some crisps sweets, burgers to tide me over.
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I am lonely as I realise that I am raising two teenagers alone and I am alone.....ok..so what can I do about it..shall I kick my arse into gear and snap out of it,and deal with it?Im raising 2 teenagers and that aint gonna change ..so shall I do something with them together?or even get involved in some activity,that gets me out and about meeting people?..what do you say wine?sit in with you instead and be miserable? ok deal ..you win!

Now do any of those answers make sense ?cos they dont to me....

turn the diary page and make it a good one today

hiya ppqp..how are you?ok I hope whats on the cards for today?you the boss lady today? just been taking some pics of the rabbits ..weather is nice and they are both out..he ..the white one has sneaked into the flower bed and is havin a ball..she is happily munchin away despite a tilted head!!!garden nearly finished...now they have ot their own playground with the pipes etc!!!


right peeps time to go ..big shout to all those not postin ,but still there,also any I have missed..stay sane safe n sober ...have a good one...

got some pics ..but will put them on next post the smiley police have got me!!!!

Facebook has bought whatsapp , they are going to call the new venture.

Whatafacapp

News: Facebook buys Whatsapp for $19 Billion, and in other, totally unrelated news, the NSA seems to have "misplaced" $19 Billion dollars and cannot account for it.

I promised my wife the earth today.

But gave her the live, and electrocuted her.

Job interviews are so silly, they always ask the same mundane questions.

Like "Why are you naked?"

The internet is a sad place, it's full of people with no balls typing abusive things to others behind the safety of their computer screen.

And if you don't agree with me, I will f.cking kill you.

Two big stories on the News tonight ;

Ukraine , and UK rain.

"Well Mr Smith, I am sorry to inform you that you have one of the worst cases of leprosy I have ever seen." Said my doctor as he put my penis in the bin.

I have a 48" snowboard for sale in a small ads paper.
*SNOWBOARD FOR SALE*
Unwanted gift, call for details.

A guy called earlier. "Is it four feet?"

"Of course it is!" I replied, "You don't snowboard on your fucking hands!"

Idiot

I arrived at the Psychiatrists to speak to him about my Kleptomania.

"Morning Mr Jones, take a seat".

"I thought you were meant to be helping!".

I was sat in a pub pondering and looking into my glass when a stranger said to me,

"Alcohol won't solve your problems mate," he said,

"what makes you think I have got problems? " I replied,

"your bus parked outside full of people is a bit of a clue, " he said.

I was driving along when a man tapped on my car window.

"Hello sir, I was just wondering, how do I get to the cemetery?"

"Well usually you die." I replied.

Just lost my job at KFC. The boss told me to go and bone a couple of birds at the back of the shop. hmm dont think that went quite right !!

A Londoner is visiting New Zealand. He watched a shepherd tending his sheep and decided to join him for a chat whilst on his rounds in the field. After a while they came across an ewe with its head caught in the fence. The shepherd dropped his trousers,got down on his knees and had sex with the ewe. Satisfied, the Shepherd buttoned up and turned to the Londoner and said "Fancy a go?". "Dont mind if i do" said the Londoner. So he dropped his trousers got on his knees and stuck his head between the fence.

[Mick]

friday twenty oneth feb

this is how it looks this mornin ..needs painting up and tidying up a wee bit ..but Sandy certainly doesnt look ill!!





I shouldnt be here but hey!!

[TheSunFlower]

friday twenty oneth feb

Good morning Mick!

PPQP....I think you and I have the exact same T-Shirt collection

SL-Be proud of yourself for throwing the wine out. I have that T-Shirt too. Don't be too hard on yourself. You are doing a great job.

Looking back I see the clear signs I was headed towards some sort of relapse. Pressure seems to be high in every area of my life, I was becoming very uncommital to anything and I actually thought seriously about giving up yoga. I was a relapse waiting to happen.

The thing with "prior" relapse is that you don't recognize it when it is happening. It is all going on around you with flashing lights....yet you don't really see it. Last night they described relapse as it happens in this order....emotion to thought to action. Addiction refuses to be ignored or forgotten about. Every damn day I have to do the things that keep me sober. With distance actually consuming AL most days are easy.....then sometimes you get the ones that knock you to your knees. Every damn day....trying to seal that one in my head. Every damn day I have to remember that I am vunerable to being sucked back in. From what I have seen of this thing....it really doesn't matter how long you have or how strong you are feeling....it can come swinging.

Actually the worst relapses I have seen are from people who you thought for sure would never, ever drink again. People who have a ton of time, always seem to be on their game...and boom it gets them in the stranglehold and literally chokes the life out of them. And every damn day I need to remember that.

[Lavande]

friday twenty oneth feb

Good morning Abbers,

I'm just hanging out with my coffee pot, waiting for the fog to clear. Thank goodness the fog is outside & not in my head

Mick, great pics!
I wonder how your bunny got that infection! Did the vet give you any ideas?
That tapestry project looks awesome! What a unique idea
We are expecting heavy rain & warming temps today so hopefully this lingering snow will melt. I'm jealous seeing the green grass in your pics.

SL, I do honestly understand your frustration but a pity party won't change a thing. Been there & done that myself
The American school system is a bit different from what you are used to but it is fairly straightforward.
When your child enters high school they choose either a college prep course or a business/technical course. It's hard for any freshman to know exactly what they want to do for the rest of their lives. They can always switch from one course of study to another.
High school guidance counselors are not always as helpful as they could be but you have other avenues. Does your daughter have a favorite teacher she could use as a mentor? A carefully worded letter to the school principal or school board doesn't hurt either (been there & done that too).
I would not rely on phone calls in dealing with the guidance counselor. Make an appointment & get in there in his/her face!!! I found that to be much more effective!

Hi there SF!
I imagine there are no guarantees where relapses are concerned. I believe we need to keep our focus, stay positive & truly believe deep down that AL is never the answer to our problems

Greetings to everyone else!
Hope you are feeling better Det!

Have a great AF Friday everyone!

Lav

[Mick]

friday twenty oneth feb

hiya peeps ..when you click on the Scottish diaspora home page..scroll down until you see the facebook symbol...that will take you to the facebook page ...(really ??? the mans a genius!!!:H) you can see the panels that are being made for it all over the world

[TheSunFlower]

friday twenty oneth feb

I've just had a bad week with work and raising a teenager. I took the day off to freaking clean out his room without him home. He is not doing well in a few classes because he is being a teenager. I am in one of those moods...."he'll be lucky to have a bed to sleep on when I get done cleaning the room out".

This whole teenager drama is really wearing me and the hubby out. Our together time is mostly consisting of us passing out on the couch from exhaustion. I broke down in tears this morning as I opened another e-mail from yet another teacher telling me how he is screwing off in school.

I am already anticpating the great fight that will occur when he gets home. Off to google Military School If that doesn't work out...I may find an ashram to hide out in for the next five years.

[treetops]

friday twenty oneth feb

Thanks for explaining a bit about the high school system Lav. I think its far less streamed here but that won't help SF or SL. The 'advice'I ws trying to give SL was similar - try different avenues,go to the top (or near-top - as in my experience its the sub-deans, deputies who often are more in touch with the kids) and try to meet them in person for a dedicated meeting. If anything, this helps the parent know they are doing their best.
E-mails and phone calls don't cut it.

Off now to the Farmers Market to see if I can find fresh strawberries for my girl's 16th birthday on Monday. She wants a strawberry birthday cake - and a meal at home with just us. So I have to get into spoil-is-ation mode. (pretty certain a celebration with her pals will follow at a later date). One of her subjects this year is Media Studies -which is fun - as we get to analyse movies, news and advertisements together when we are travelling in the car.

Stay cool SF! This too will pass.

[treetops]

friday twenty oneth feb

What a tapestry the scots have stitched Mick. Great link:thanks:

[scottish lass]

friday twenty oneth feb

Oh SF - it is so hard isn't it? My teen is delightful and we talk so well, I don't have your struggles - she is basically a good girl who is bright but seems to be slipping thru the cracks - but it is totally exhausting me - wish I had a hubby to share the wealth (just not the one that i had!)
TT and Lav, thanks so much for the pointers - I have taken some of your advice Lav - I think we have identified a teacher who seems willing to help, that my daughter respects. I have a meeting with the counsellor and all her teachers to discuss accomadations (she has ADHD which I haven't brought the equation, but it seems it is time to) and if those steps don't effect change then I will take it up the ladder - I really apprciate the input.
Mick - you are right, nothing was any reason to drink. You are spot on, the answers did not work did they! As SF says, my relapse started days before - I was also telling myself that I would not buy wine at the store, but I needed to decide that I knew I was vulnerable, and I didn't need the ingredient - shopping at 6pm when I am stressed needs to be a NO NO! I have been out and done grocery shop for weekend first thing this am.
I feel pretty crappy today - not sure how I functioned if this was my baseline. I am also let down with myself and so stupid. But, continue to be more and more determined that I will win this fight ( the alcohol one - as well as others). I just filled out the MWO survey - hoping that there are not too many changes to my safe place!
Thank you all for your honest talk, and great advice - and for not throwing me off the island....I will finish Feb with just one red dot day, and all the rest green dots...

[TheSunFlower]

friday twenty oneth feb

The day turned out delightful. I super cleaned out the room, even taking out the video games. We don't allow video game playing during the week, so I thought it being the weekend he would explode. Instead he was so thrilled that he did not have to clean up the room, he thanked me multiple times, could have cared less about the video games and did his homework all night....on a Friday night!

SL-he can be be he sweetest child one day....and the next a holy terror. My youngest is very driven, knows exactly his plan for life and knows that he needs to get the grades to get there. I wish I had half his ambition at his age. My oldest has a good head on his shoulders, just really normal teen stuff.

Everyone is thrilled that the bill has passed to sell wine in the grocery store....in July 2016. My wine shop is not so thrilled. Honestly though when I am there it astonishes me the amount of liquor people buy. Waltz in and buy 7 bottles of the same vodka and say, "see you next week". This is a regular occurance, not just the one off.

I get to be the star witness in a drunk driving incident that happened in our neighborhood, because I was the only witness. The girl drove straight across the road, through a fence and knocked over 3 brick pillars. She calmly got out of the truck and walked away. I didn't know she had been drinking....I honestly thought she did not know how to drive a stick. Apparently she had gotten mad at her boyfriend, took his truck and crashed it through the fence. The joys of alcohol. This happened a few weeks back and apparently she is pleading "not guilty"....thus I get to go to court.