AF Thursday Feb 27

[Samstone]

Ha!
Morning TT!!
Det hope you're doing better!
hellos to Mick,Lav,PQ,Yah,SL,SF,Pauly any one else missed
late night signing off but couldn't resist starting the fred.(that's Virginian for thread)

[treetops]

AF Thursday Feb 27

You old trickster Sam. You might have started something - the daily Abs thread - who will start it?
Its 8pm Thursday night here and I am staring at the screen - mind going blank. Mick will have to add the jokes and provide the tea and coffee.

Hope you are resting up Det and that everyone else is gearing up for a great Thursday.
I am probably having my winter flu shot (already!) tomorrow.

I see that the weather in the US is looking bad with more winter storms on the way - not sure exactly where though.

[Mick]

AF Thursday Feb 27

wowee...19 replies yesterday after such a slow start!!!so mae all and how are we today then?

Sam what are you doing ...staying up half the night to start the fred??youll be gettin like one o them upside downy people soon..but cheers for the start anyway.weather over here is back to usual...pouring down with rain....got quite a lot done in the garden yesterday,thankfully.not long now till the offski..cant exactly say im bubblin with excitement ..never do ...once Im at the airport thats it for me.

ok on with the show..tea n cawfee on the hearth !

hiya tt..how are you today?Maudlin drunk mum no more...sounds like one of the lines from the Proclaimers letter from America :H what are you doing this evening?chilling or scribing?

Right Det my friend ..lets look at what we have got mate..read thro your posts about 3 times now..just to make sure that I havent missed anything...its easier to just sit and read as an"outsider" and pick out the salient points.

you got called into work and you werent feeling well..that happens maybe you could have gone sick ,but I dont know how your company works

Driving to Sacramento you feel lousy, end up going to the toilet in the wrong place and having to stay in a cheapo hotel......again that happens...not one of us can say that it hasnt happened to us to some degree......its nature ...stomach says "dont want this ,time to get rid!"

then bang on the money with your next statement..."feeling sorry for myself walked to the 7/11 for a 6 pack"that one line says it all ..the intent ,the focus, the no ifs buts or maybes ,just a straight I am gonna get booze..an feck it all.....why didnt you think?what made those 2 scenarios come together?If there hadnt been a 7/11,if you had been in the middle of nowhere and had to clean yourself up...there would have been no booze?so you were feeling lousy just got cleaned up etc..I know this sounds silly,but did you not think of doing some exercises? not a routine ..just punching lumps put of the pillow or press ups or running on the spot ?its a recognised method of destressing.
Then follows pissed off with the world .com..Det mate we all get into that one questioning the meaning of life ,death and its gonna end so bollox...Believe you me been there got that t shirt..last time was not so long back when my friend died...the bottom line tho is you need to snap out of it..and yes I know you have been here before..and I also know that our first line of defence is to put up a wall to keep everyone out..so look at what you have got ..you enjoy your life,and your wife,and vice versa,and you realise that you hurt her when you do this..so choice is ..put it behind you and move forward,and enjoy your time on this planet with the one you love.....or do you sit with the woe is me head on pissing yourself off and your wife and making her time a misery too?Answers on a postcard please!!Appreciate there ae issues from the past too...but not too sure what part they play in this....
as far as cognitive behavioural therapy goes..I dont know enough about it to make any sort of value statement...I did touch on it many moons ago when I did a mental health awareness course at uni..but?what I will say is the journalling is a brill idea,,,I write a diary every single day and have done since 16th Sept 2010..the first day I came out of hosp after my stroke...no one reads it and actually dont really care if they do..but it has my fears worries and everything written down ..it also records how I felt records my strategies when I stopped drinking and how I wrote everything down..it is a great tool mate honestly ..if more people imo took the time to write things down when they were low there would be less failings..its easier to look at things in black and white then to unscrabble a million thoughts at once..where do you think brainstorming ..or starbursting or whatever pc name they call it now came from?
bottom line mate ...we are with you all the way and will support you..but you are in the driving seat..so lets engage forward and move on!!
Sorry for this being so long but I feel it is important as do quite a lot of other on here ..so chin up and smile !!!

Hiya Lav ..hows you today? fancy a brew ..I do ..finger is about 3" shorter now :H an plans for today?

Pauly ..hows you today? ok and the bougainvillea ? still kicking is it?good ...hows the no booze cruise going for you..still doing it ok?good ..hey we ll get there stick at it :goodjob:

Hiya SL..foos yer doos quine?nae sae bad? hows your daughter? has she passed on the lurgy to her sister or you?doubt it ..she has got Scottish blood in her ..sh will be giving nothing away!!an plans for today or are you working?

morning sf..hows you today?ok ? goood strangely enough ..I was in a charity shop yesterday and there was a book there full of the ads from when round about when I was a kid...frys five boys, esso blue, tizer and all that..Strange when you look at them ..how tame they are in comparison to todays all fast action glitzy ones..and of course the method of delivery

right peeps time to ge ..jeez didnt realise the time!!!have a good one all..dont forget det..you take care

cya

A Jehovah's Witness knocked at my door this morning.

"Could you spare a few moments to talk about the Judgement Day?" he asked.

"Well," I replied, "I'm not a big fan of the Terminator series."

I called my boss this morning and said, "Steve, I'm not feeling too clever."

"You can say that again," he replied, "You've got the wrong number."

Google news - Bride attacked on her wedding day.

Of course she was. What other time do you call a woman a Bride but her wedding day?

A man in America has shot himself in the head while attempting to prove to his girlfriend that guns aren't dangerous, I think we're safe to say that backfired.

I tried to watch the Childrens channel with my kids today but I was shocked by not just the amount of adverts but by all the Product placement in the shows.

I told them they can't watch that, it's just exploitation of children to try and sell products.

So I decided to take them to the Cinema instead to see The Lego Movie

In his latest track, Tiesto sings, "We could just run them red lights."

This is highly irresponsible and not a very good example to set for young people.

He should sing, "We could just run those red lights."

My boss asked me if I wanted a pay rise today. I nearly bit his fecking hand off!

To be fair, what actually happened was he said to me "Will you stop biting my hand if I give you a pay rise?"

I still have the jacket my mate lent me a year ago but you know what they say:

"Keep your friends clothes...."

My wife really hates it when I steal her pillow at night.

Especially as I moved out six months ago.

My girlfriend says I'm prone to exaggeration. I say girlfriend, apparently we're just friends.

Jason Collins became the first openly gay player to play in an NBA game. He also became the first NBA player not being pursued by a woman for child support.

[Lavande]

AF Thursday Feb 27

Good morning Abbers,

Sunny, dry & a super frosty 9 degrees at the moment. I'll take an extra blanket & a larger cup of coffee, please!!!!!

Thinking of you this morning Det & truly hope you are feeling better!
We really need to watch out for one another here. Collectively we have the strength to get over these hurdles

Sam, you were up pretty late last night!!!!!
Thanks for the start up. I hope it's a little warmer in your neighborhood

Greetings TT, glad to hear you are getting your flu shot. I wouldn't miss mine for anything. The last time I had the flu it put me out of commission for a solid week, my employer was not pleased.

Mick, I think your journaling has been a good tool for you. it seems to help a lot of people make sense of all the conflicting thoughts, relieve stress & work thru problems. Do you use pen & paper to keep your journal or software? I think it's interesting that you can purchase software to do your journaling online & store it up in the cloud

Greetings pauly, SL, SF, PQ, YahYah & anyone popping in today!
I am going to head out in a bit, missed Curves yesterday due to crappy weather. I also need to haul in supplies, the fridge is getting empty.

Wishing everyone a great AF Thursday. Grateful to have such a good group of people on this journey with me

Lav

[YoungAtHeart]

AF Thursday Feb 27

MAE All,

It's going to be a busy few days here, so I probably won't get to post, but I will be lurking and reading, and of course, thinking of all of you.

Deter, special thoughts and hugs for you at this time. I'd give the CBT stuff a try. Have you also had a physical workup? I think your busy life with lots of travel leaves you open to lots of physical stress and vulnerable to illness.

Okay, gotta get moving all! Lots of driving to do today.

Did I mention that Maddie is moving out in two weeks? She was starting to look and BOOM! found a place she wanted right away.

:l
YahYah

[paulywogg]

AF Thursday Feb 27

Mae everybody,i am totally irritated with my daughter! she was late to her test yesterday so has to pay 100 dollars and reschedule for march 11, it just bothers me cuz im never late for anything and she needs to be more responsble,thats her license to get a job,very important you dont mess around,especially cuz she has Louie to support,meh these kids!At work yesterday,my friend/co-worker/quit buddy left to run to the store,turns out she bought a little bottle cuz she was stressed,i couldnt believe it just because even back in the day when i drank at work she'd never partake,it took me by surprise and maybe sparked a little thought(aint gonna lie)but nah,my thinking is drink=sick so fork it! Det,i hope youre feeling better today,listen to Mick,he's the man! and know we all have your back,and do truly care about you,thanks for kicken us off Sam,hello to TT,Lav,PPQ,Yah,SL,SF,everybody else who may stop in to our awesome thread,off to fix my fro and face for work,im off tomorrow woo-hoo(except i have dr.app,i cant stand the guy)have a good thursday everybody

[Mick]

AF Thursday Feb 27

Lav I use pen n paper ...old fashioned I know, but I find it takes more for me to write it,also if I want to it is there if I do need to look back..Pauly pretty irresponsible of your daughter that was..what did she say about it?

[scottish lass]

AF Thursday Feb 27

sneaking in when sitting at my desk trying to look as if I am being busy!!
Hope you are feeling ok Det?
Pauly - you were so excited for your daughter to get her license - I so get it to have hopes up and then to go back down again - especially when it is totally preventable!
Sam - that was a surprise! Instead of my sticking my nose into tomorrow, I could actually start tomorrow - what a concept!
Lav - you are so right, this thread is a great place - I love this team! As Pauly states - "awesome"
Mick - haven't been called a quine for a wee while - decided to look up meaning for teh sake of educating us all and not sure I like what I see..."?Quine ? this one is used a fair bit back in certain parts of Aberdeen, it means ?girl? or ?lass? and not just young girls. I have even heard old strong Doric speakers use quine to refer to auld grannies" - I had only heard it for young girls and that was ok - but auld grannies - well now!!
Better get back to it then....

[paulywogg]

AF Thursday Feb 27

So i guess Kell,isnt talking to me,i havent heard from her all day,why is it that kids do something wrong,we get upset and they act like theyre irresponsibilty is OUR fault?bleh

[treetops]

AF Thursday Feb 27

I guess she is embarrassed or ashamed and wants to avoid you???
That's how I would read it .

[paulywogg]

AF Thursday Feb 27

Probly TT

[paulywogg]

AF Thursday Feb 27

Probly TT

[Determinator]

AF Thursday Feb 27

thank you loves for all your help and input and support.

I finally made it home very slowly driving through a snow storm. it's just not been a good week at all.
well, day 1 1/1 here. I've an appointment with my doc tomorrow to inquire about some better strategies including CBT or possibly looking to see if citalopram is not right for me. it seemed to work for a good bit but lately I just can't seem to get my mojo going. I'm sure being depressed all the darn time just isn't normal and i'm certainly needing some help with it......so tomorrow will be interesting.

I certainly do seem to have that 'high/low' tendency in my brain. it's either 'look mah, no hands' or face down in the gravel.

looking forward to learning to use my brain. sigh.

be well everyone and thanks again

[paulywogg]

AF Thursday Feb 27

Hey Det,you sound better im glad,sometimes a.d's have poop out it seems,i think the brain gets used to it or something,glad youre seeing the doc,im off to see mine tomorrow too(even though hes creepy)see what he says,have a good nite

[Lavande]

AF Thursday Feb 27

pauly, our adult kids will still always be our kids BUT they do need to learn to toe the line at some point, right? I hope your daughter can pull herself together soon

YahYah, since Maddie is moving out will you be looking for a new roommate? Would you be upset if I showed up at your door with 30 chickens, 2 dogs & a goldfish?? :H
I hope your busy time goes well

Det, so glad you popped in to let us know you are OK.
I hope you are able to articulate your concerns to the doctor tomorrow. Being depressed all the time is not something we choose but it can be managed. The mood swings are a concern as well. Please be sure to tell your doc all that. We all want you to feel better real soon!