June Justified

[Lavande]

June Justified

Good Saturday morning friends

No rain & I actually see some sunshine - yay!!

I'm going to put the flag out for Flag day & then spend the day pulling weeds!!!! They have grown like crazy this week.

I hope everyone is OK & has a great AF Saturday!

Lav

[dill]

June Justified

Late check in again. I didn't feel well today, must've been a bug of some sort. I slept a good part of the day! I started feeling better toward the evening. What a waste of a beautiful sunny day!

Star I hope all is going well with the move.

Lav, When you get done pulling your weeds hop on over to Ohio and get after mine!:H

Papmom yes the house is quiet. I am LOVING it!

[cyntree]

June Justified

Late check-in for me today - I took HB to a movie (!) for Father's Day; The Immigrant. Wow, not an especially uplifting film but the acting and scenography were really special. Not at all a Hollywood film, it unfolded very slowly. Like time travel...

Yes Lav I have gotten outside. Today was cool and sunny, with a great breeze to keep the bugs away...and I had to be inside writing! Actually, I was outside from 8 - 10 pulling out bittersweet and garlic mustard (this time the tiny seedlings, uuuuugh). But at least I was out there for awhile. I'm trying to get up early and get one inside-thing done, and at least 1 hour outside, and then get to 'work'. It's hard to work at home and look out the window at everything that needs to be done, but I have to stay on target, or I'll be frantic in August.

Dill, I hope you are OK with things being quiet - everything changes doesn't it? And any change is a bit of a challenge. Lav, you are a wonderful mentor for going with the flow and keeping your boundaries - laudable and smart.

PMom, I hope that you get a little rest over the weekend. A sail sounds just great - perfect Dad's day activity.

Star - travel safely. I sent good wishes for the showing; that's great news that you had a showing already. How well I remember those hard days of having our house on the market. But in a way it's good, because already you have to distance yourself from your house, and there is a different energy about it. Good luck with the interview (though you don't need it). Right after I finish this, I'm sending you a Dropbox link to a Move Toolkit.

Thank goodness for the AF life. A movie that I remember completely. The ability to feel the fresh and beautiful air, hear the rustling leaves - all without a hangover. Knowing that my fatigue is because of hard work, and being proud of that. The benefits never end.

Cheers to all for a beautiful Father's Day - thinking of all the Dad's in our lives...

[cyntree]

June Justified

X-post, Dill! Hope you are feeling better --

[Lavande]

June Justified

Good morning friends,

Happy Father's day, happy Sunday & all that
It was a brisk 55 degrees this morning, low humidity, nice!

Dill, hope you are feeling better today!
No fun being sick, that's for sure. I didn't make that big of a dent in the weeds yesterday so you didn't miss much.

Cyn, it is hard to work at home but I like the commute
Having deadlines actually helps me stay focused, otherwise I find myself outside talking to the chickens :H Great to hear you are enjoying all the benefits of an AF life!

Papmom, hope you have a chance to go for a sail today, sounds nice

My gang will be gathering for burgers & chicken on the grill tonight so I'm happy.
Glad we get to enjoy another nice day outside before the return of the heat & humidity.

Star, hope everything is going well for you!

Have a great AF Sunday everyone!
Lav

[Stargazerlily]

June Justified

Good morning to all...

Cyn, thanks for the pm and all the documents about moving. They do work and I have checked them out. There are so many things to do. I have to keep my wits about me, organization is key.

Lav, glad to hear that you and YB are doing OK. Even better than OK. I think that sometimes it just takes time to heal and lots of patience. Sounds like a fun cookout to look forward too. I was able to see my daughter this weekend and she is just waiting to have the baby. Those last few weeks are so hard. I am really excited and look forward to being a grandma.

Dill, hope you are feeling better. I woke up with a stuffy nose yesterday and it is still here. Darn, I am trying to feel better and eat better. Hope you have some nice weather and can sit on your porch and enjoy.

Pap, the weekend weather here is perfect, enjoy your sail.

Have a good Sunday.

[dill]

June Justified

Hello All,

Star, I'm so excited for you! You are going to be a wonderful grandmother, I just know it! How did your showings go? Did you hear anything from the realtor about them?

Lav, I bet your cook out was fun. The weather here is perfect today. Mr. D and I went over to visit our son and grand kids at their new digs. The children are very happy there. It is a large apartment and there are lots of children in the complex. There is a play ground there, too. As nice as it is here on our farm, the one thing that was lacking was playmates.

Cyn, I'm not moving but if you have any general purpose organization tips at the ready, I'd love to see them. Since my son is moved out now I am re-organizing my spaces and could use any help you may have along those lines. Only if you have something already, don't go to any trouble.:h

Papmom, did you have a fun sail?

I am feeling much better today, thank you all for your well-wishes.

[cyntree]

June Justified

Late hello to all, and hope that you've had a wonderful Father's Day with your families. We drove an hour to see SD and have brunch sitting outside (under a tent) right by a wonderful small river. That was pleasant!

Came home and got right to work, and am now falling asleep at the keyboard, so will just say a quick hello and goodbye.

Star - so glad the notes help. Yes, there are a lot of details to manage with move prep and execution. That's why people used to hire me! It's wonderful that you saw your daughter this weekend; I agree with Dill; you are going to be a wonderful grandmother. What do you want to be called?

Dill - I can give some general organizing pointers, definitely. In fact, I have a lot of organizing blog posts floating around in my head. I'm getting tired of ghost writing for other people, and I may take the plunge soon and start to write under my own name. (Eeeek!). The basics are: define a small space to work on, start with throwing away anything obvious, next put like items with like items, then give/throw away the things you don't want to keep (one hole punch is probably adequate, you don't need all 5...), have a box ready to put things in that belong in other rooms (do not feel like you have to put those things in the other room right away, they can hang out in the box for awhile). If you need containers, don't run out and buy anything: check around your house and use something you already have, at least long enough to test out your container theory. Most of all - make a system that works for YOU, no matter what the books or other people say. Hope that helps - please ask any questions that you have!

The high point of my day was first thing this morning when I fixed my mower that had stopped working (in the middle of my mowing) yesterday. I was really worried; I didn't want to have to pay to have it fixed...didn't want to have to get it in the car and take it somewhere, etc. So I did what my dad would have done, I figured out what I thought was wrong, took it apart, put it back together, cleaned everything well, and...pulled the cord....and....vroom! That put a big smile on my face - is that weird or what!?:H

Anyway, I'm off to dreamland early - didn't sleep well last night. Will jump in early tomorrow, and will be wishing you all a great day. Cheers ---

[Stargazerlily]

June Justified

Good morning to all...

Really busy week this week, two more interviews, definitely don't want the job I interviewed for on Friday. It is good to know what you don't want too. I am fighting a sinus thing, and hopefully winning. I think what happened is I ate junk while on the road and my system needs lots of fruits and veggies. So, I made a big pot of veggie soup and will focus on filling my system with that.

Lav, I am really working on positive affirmations, self-talk and being positive. It is alot of work. I hope your Father's Day was fun. What do your kids say about their Dad being back with you? Do they notice? My kids would. They are very invested in the two of us being together, I think our relationship gives them some kind of security.

Dill, how great for your grandkids to have others to play with at a playground. Wow, they love it I am sure. It is alot of work to reorganize, but it is so worth it. My kitchen took a few days to clean out and now i am enjoying the clean, organized drawers and cabinets.

To all, have a good day.

[Stargazerlily]

June Justified

I was just looking around the thread and noticed one of our threads on newcomers. My question, with this site not being monitored, is our anonymity safe? I am seriously thinking about not posting. Let me know what you think.

[Lavande]

June Justified

Good morning friends!

Didn't get everyone out of here until 10 pm last night (we had a late start).
The day was nice, younger kids were grumpy but enjoyed the bonfire :H

Star, I wouldn't get too upset about the spammers. RJ posted an update yesterday & said the issue is being worked on but is going to take a while to be resolved. I think we are perfectly safe to post here & as RJ mentioned our email addresses aren't available to them
It sure is good to know what you don't want! I hope this week's interviews are more to your liking.

Dill, good to hear the grandkids are happy with their new place! It is important to have friends nearby, that's great. I hope your son makes some friends too

Cyn, you can be my organizational guru any day
I can't believe you fixed your lawn mower!!!! I would have walked away from the thing & just had a glass of iced tea or something. Good for you lady!!!

My kids aren't saying a thing about YB returning. They are just as baffled with him as I am, no doubt.
It has come to my attention that YB did a LOT of shopping during his absence! He has tons of clothes that he now wants to get rid of & all kinds of misc. stuff. So that's what he did during his manic phase :H One thing I know for sure is that I am not lifting a finger to help him with that stuff. He created the mess, he can get rid of it too!

Star, I am focusing on staying positive too! I know what happens when I turn to the dark side & I'm not going there again.

Papmom, how are you? How was your weekend?

OK, I'm off to Curves to get my day started.
Have a great AF Monday everyone.

Lav

[dill]

June Justified

Hello All,

Star, I haven't been reading much on the boards lately aside from our thread. I do often do that, but I've just been too busy of late. Anyway, I used to get email notifications if I received a PM. That no longer happens. I wonder if it's part of the effort to work on the security issues and problems caused by the spammers that Lav mentioned. I am enjoying the process of reorganizing because I am going at it at a snail's pace. I'm just doing a little bit at a time because fortunately I don't have the kind of deadline you had. However, I am trying to get it done by August 13. That is the day my daughter and grandson will arrive for a visit. I want the upstairs rooms back to 'normal', meaning a pair of guest bedrooms and a sewing room. That's what it was before I rearraned to accomodate my son and grandchildren.

Cyn, thank you for your timely tips. They were very helpful. I applied some today while reorganizing the greenhouse. I really liked your suggestion to not go out and buy containers before I looked around to see what containers I had here that could be re-purposed. I found 3 perfect containers that I had in our pumphouse that had been used for something else that we are no longer doing. I was actually kind of shocked to find them! I cleaned them out and they now will be used for potting soil, growing medum and miscellaneous pots. I know it is a simple thing, but it still makes me feel so accomplished, and it didn't cost a cent! Greenhouse looks great, thanks to you! OH! Kudos on fixing the lawn mower!:goodjob: What a tribute to your Dad!

Lav, I love the thought of you and your family outside enjoying the bonfire last night. I'm actually amazed you got everyone to leave by 10 with a bonfire in progress! Did you all do marshmallows? Did the kids capture lightening bugs? Was Mr. Lav participating right along with everyone?

Hello Papmom!

We spent the morning floating around on the lake in the boat. Mr. D fished but came up with nothing. He didn't mind. He enjoyes the process as much as catching any. I sat and watched the water, looked at the sky and enjoyed the sunshine and breeze. I am so happy that I could enjoy that with such clarity and UNHUNG! I am so grateful to be out of that daily cycle.:h

[Nursie]

June Justified

Hi Everyone,
I haven't been on in a while. I've missed all of you. I've been really struggling and I want to end the chaos once and for all. For some reason, despite all my knowledge and experience, I get the crazy notion that I can drink again like a normal person after long periods of sobriety. I quickly find myself worse off than my previous relapses, and wake up to say "I just cannot do this anymore". It's as if common sense, education, previous failures, etc, are blocked from my consciousness as I take a drink.
I don't know how many times I have quit. I don't really remember the longest I have ever made it, but I think it was up around 100 days.
I feel insane, ashamed, sad, and grateful that I am coming back to fight another day.
So here I am with open arms, I have absolutely no control over alcohol. I need help to stay sober and claim all that is good in my life.

[Lavande]

June Justified

Welcome back Nursie, you made a good decision to stop the madness once & for all!
Try to let go of the shame & guilt, they are useless heavy weights. Get yourself in to positive thinking, it really helps. I talk about a zero tolerance policy all over the threads & that really helps as well. Get your plan together, dump the AL & stay in touch, OK?

Dill, so glad to hear you had a good day on the boat! Now that's what we should be doing at this age :H
The organizing thing is such a morale booster. I am currently emptying closets - look out
Mr. Lav was the one who got the fire started Sunday night & he did enjoy the kids fussing about. Lots & lots of lightning bugs were captured but released!

Time to call it a day!

[Stargazerlily]

June Justified

Good morning....

Nursie, welcome to this thread. I love the way you set small goals, 1 day,7 days, 14 days, that is the way to do it. Also, post, post, post. If you get a craving post and someone will help. You will start to feel better within a few days and you want to keep it going! Looking forward to hearing more from you.

Lav, the cookout and bonfire sounded so fun. YB and his shopping is so odd, I like the fact that you are not making it YOUR problem. Interesting that the kids don't say anything...

Dill, how lovely to have your burdens lighten for a time...you deserve this and now can begin to enjoy our retirement. I love being outside, nature is especially lovely in June.

I am going to another interview today, long drive, very hopeful. Send positive energy. Thanks.