Sweet September
Hello All,
Lav and Fly, interesting perspectives on sons vs. daughters. You've probably heard the old saying, "A son is a son 'til he takes a wife. A daughter's a daughter all her life!" I'm sure there are variations on it, but it is a general truism. My son would have spun away had he married a more suitable woman and things had gone more smoothly for him I think. But in our case, he has needed so much help with the children that it has kept us closer. However, as he has become stronger these last few months, he has become more independent and is in contact less. Which is why I am feeling the empty-nest feelings I guess. I'm happy that he is growing stronger tho, so I'll learn to adjust!
Star, I found your comments about your son interesting. I think it is a tendency of males to be that way to some extent but he seems perhaps a little further along on the continuum! My son is pretty needy too but he sometimes stops and asks me how I am doing or feeling and he asks it so sincerely it takes me aback. He isn't just asking perfunctorally. (Well, often it is perfunctory, but just once in awhile there is that sincere question and I know he really cares.) He often expresses gratitude to me and his Dad for being there for him. I know he badly wants our relationship to get more in balance along those lines so that he isn't always needing our help.
Papmom, you must be the only one on the thread who has the weight going in the right direction! Keep it up, girl!
I spent a great deal of time outside yesterday too! It was a perfect Fall day and my daughter, Mr. D and I took a long walk at a nature preserve nearby. Daughter is in fantastic shape. She joined a gym and goes there as often as her schedule allows. Mr. D and I couldn't really cover the ground she wanted to cover so we split up for a little while so she could go the the spots she wanted to visit. I am sure this weekend has been a nostalgic one for her. The wedding took her back to her home town (different from where we live now) and old friends and haunts. She wanted to visit spots in this nature preserve that she had spent time at with her high school buddies. We had a great visit yesterday, talking and laughing. It felt wonderful! More to come today!
Still thinking about Mr. G's thread. It could morph into a Tool Box thread for the 30+. I hope it does. Mr. G has always been an interesting presence here and one of the best reasons is his honesty. A close second is his tenacity. And then, there's just the plain fact that he's an all-around good guy!
Out of time now. Have a lovely AF Sunday. Seek your higher power today, and feel grateful to be AF!
Hello All,
Lav and Fly, interesting perspectives on sons vs. daughters. You've probably heard the old saying, "A son is a son 'til he takes a wife. A daughter's a daughter all her life!" I'm sure there are variations on it, but it is a general truism. My son would have spun away had he married a more suitable woman and things had gone more smoothly for him I think. But in our case, he has needed so much help with the children that it has kept us closer. However, as he has become stronger these last few months, he has become more independent and is in contact less. Which is why I am feeling the empty-nest feelings I guess. I'm happy that he is growing stronger tho, so I'll learn to adjust!
Star, I found your comments about your son interesting. I think it is a tendency of males to be that way to some extent but he seems perhaps a little further along on the continuum! My son is pretty needy too but he sometimes stops and asks me how I am doing or feeling and he asks it so sincerely it takes me aback. He isn't just asking perfunctorally. (Well, often it is perfunctory, but just once in awhile there is that sincere question and I know he really cares.) He often expresses gratitude to me and his Dad for being there for him. I know he badly wants our relationship to get more in balance along those lines so that he isn't always needing our help.
Papmom, you must be the only one on the thread who has the weight going in the right direction! Keep it up, girl!
I spent a great deal of time outside yesterday too! It was a perfect Fall day and my daughter, Mr. D and I took a long walk at a nature preserve nearby. Daughter is in fantastic shape. She joined a gym and goes there as often as her schedule allows. Mr. D and I couldn't really cover the ground she wanted to cover so we split up for a little while so she could go the the spots she wanted to visit. I am sure this weekend has been a nostalgic one for her. The wedding took her back to her home town (different from where we live now) and old friends and haunts. She wanted to visit spots in this nature preserve that she had spent time at with her high school buddies. We had a great visit yesterday, talking and laughing. It felt wonderful! More to come today!
Still thinking about Mr. G's thread. It could morph into a Tool Box thread for the 30+. I hope it does. Mr. G has always been an interesting presence here and one of the best reasons is his honesty. A close second is his tenacity. And then, there's just the plain fact that he's an all-around good guy!
Out of time now. Have a lovely AF Sunday. Seek your higher power today, and feel grateful to be AF!
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