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    Saturday 1 Nov

    MAE everyone – new month and Muggins has to remind us that it is getting close to Christmas. I hope you all survived Halloween – which was a non-event in this household. It was my partner’s birthday so I cooked a low-key meal. Daughter was out for the night.

    Sorry to hear that you drank Pauly and what can you do – except pick yourself up and get back to being sober Pauly who dosen’t have to post that she hates things and what she has done. Of course you are very miserable with your girl moving away and the other one getting up to those activities. I know what the latter is and have no advice here. What does your hubby say? Don’t bother answering if its not appropriate – or you can PM me. Just don’t let this drinking become a drawn-out binge.

    Sounds like the schools are next to useless for you SL and SF. Hang on in there and get what other help you can manage and afford. I would be so angry if the school told me I had to be there for my daughter’s help during school-time – or even after school. Most parents are in paid work for long hours these days (if they have work that is). There are usually few alternatives and its no indication of your parenting. As for your daughter being lazy – these things are called disabilities for a reason and any reasonably clued-up counsellor or teacher should know that serious learning problems don’t always lead to high motivation. It's a complex issue and requires a bit more insight than this! Sorry I rabbited on.

    How’s the renovations going Mick? Lav – hope you enjoyed the evening with your family.
    Sam – off to the market this weekend or something else maybe?
    PPQP – you too look out for some downtime. Auditing – ugghhh. It's the bane of my life and I don’t even deal with the numbers side – just the information and getting folk to submit theirs. In my line of work we have an audit for everything – yes, almost even breathing! I am so so sick of everything being measured and evaluated. Its such a stress inducer and does not always lead to quality or creative solutions. Ugggghhhh!!!

    Det – sorry I thought you had bought the house – not that you were still at the moving out bit.

    OK – I better get back to work. Hope everyone has a good sober weekend – and that's you too Paulywogg!!

    #2
    TT....I hated all the paperwork!

    SL....I wrote you a reply and lost it. This new system is harder to use via an iPad. Just know I hear you on the schools and share your frustration. This week we studied two nights for a vocab test and he knew the words....but ended up with a 60 on the test.....he was so deflated. Plus, some of the stuff they are teaching is such rubbish.....I hardly knew any of the words...much less seeing them ever being used in my vocabulary.

    The Amoryn seems to be helping me get into a better sleep routine.

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      #3
      hiya folks....got the sparky in this moning...at present drilling a 4 inch hole thru the outside wall for the ext fan housing..place is covered in dust ..Julie done one out of the road ..will try and get on later...out at 5am in the morn ..thats after taking the outlaws to the airport at 3!!pauly you were doing so well....thought you had got it this time..yep i know its hard...but it doesnt get easier as the number of quits increase..is there any tools in the toolbox that might help?maybe do the same as SL..when she started aaalllllll those months ago..before you take a drink..get your butt on here..and dont even consider it till someone replies..it does work
      SL....I had the same with Amy..they said she was lazy too...and yes it does get you down...what we did with her was scuse the french..but lazy...we will show the f.ckers!!so it then became a mission..more so for Julie to prove them wrong ..and as time got on then things improved..if you want to pm me about it please do...Iaint going into detail here..hi everyone else will try to see you later
      af since the fourth of July 2012...howzat then America..now proudly marching into year 12

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        #4
        Good morning Abbers,

        Happy Saturday to all!
        Dark, damp & chilly here - typical fall day.

        Pauly, I know you are sad about your daughter moving on but choosing to drink won't change the outcome. My kids moving on was very hard on me as well. Although I was happy for them I remember feeling 'orphaned', left totally on my own because there was no emotional support for me. YB's head was completely up his ass & he's not capable of feeling any real empathy. Is that what's going on with you too? Looking back now I wish I had found some support somewhere other than the wine store Please use us as your support system, we do truly care about each other here. Sending you a great big understanding ((HUG)).

        TT, thanks for the start up & I hope you had a good day!

        Mick, sounds like you are making one gigantic MESS!!!!
        Have fun & be careful not to inhale all that plaster dust ~ been there & done that!

        SL & SF - I found dealing with my son's teachers & guidance counselors to be a big waste of time. Once I found outside help for him I took that information back to the school psychologist & insisted she make the teachers understand & do their damn jobs! Yeah, I behaved like the mother lion but it all worked out Good luck to both of you & don't be shy to speak up for your kids!!!

        Greetings to everyone & sending wishes for a wonderful AF day for all!

        Lav
        AF since 03/26/09
        NF since 05/19/09
        Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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          #5
          Mae everybody,it is true that i thought i was done for good,i felt stronger than i ever had! so stupid,no excuses,i'm the one who chose to drive over and buy beer and to spend my last nite with Bobbi totally drunk,and of course it changed nothing,except i dissapointed myself and feel sick,TT,hubs doesn't know what Michelle is doing for work,i'm not even supposed to know but Kell got it out of her and told me in secrecy,i just wish things were different,and i am trying to work on myself,but it's frustrating not being able to change other factors in life,grr,have a good weekend,and thank you guys for being here
          I have too much shit to do today and tomorrow to drink:sohappy:

          I'm taking care of the "tomorrow me":thumbsup:
          Drinkin won't help a damn thing! Will only make me sick for DAYS and that ugly, spacey dumb feeling-no thanks!

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            #6
            Btw Mick,i put a little red bowtie on my bunny for halloween,he was cute and wore it all nite,and Winslow was a devil and surprisingly kept his costume on too
            I have too much shit to do today and tomorrow to drink:sohappy:

            I'm taking care of the "tomorrow me":thumbsup:
            Drinkin won't help a damn thing! Will only make me sick for DAYS and that ugly, spacey dumb feeling-no thanks!

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              #7
              hiya folks...well thats the wall core drilled, extractor fan in,new power points in old ones isolated..oh and the mess cleaned up ..and another cupboard off the wall..there is certainly some muck when you drill thru breeze block..long shower coming up ..then bed about 9...up at 2 off to the airport,home at 4.30 then getting picked up at 5.20..pretty tight schedule....Pauly you thought you had it too..well now for future reference you know how shit you feel after it...if only...but if only just doesnt win prizes..but enuff of that...knuckle down and lets beat that beast!!no more pity part or false starts..this is it ..agreed ????big hiya to everyone else too..will jump in sometime to morrow ..happy bonfire night!!!
              Last edited by Mick; November 1, 2014, 02:15 PM.
              af since the fourth of July 2012...howzat then America..now proudly marching into year 12

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                #8
                Warning -I have started Sunday's thread as its here already!!!!!

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                  #9
                  Hi - so many thanks for your words about my girl (and SF's struggles too) - you will have no idea as to how it has made me feel today to get such understanding. Your ability to understand my frustration is a great relief. We will prove the teachers wrong - and hopefully we can look forward to doing it. She loves her tutor so getting her to pick up and go in at 7pm is not being a struggle, and for that I am grateful. Lav - I am not sure how to demand in this sort of situation - it is so not my nature - I had asked for the school psychologist to be present, and they told me they would - instead it was a special grade teacher who revised the test results and said she is scoring way too high for special ed - well no duh! Then he went on to say that if I had only asked, they would have done all the testing for me and would not have needed to go privately (and then today insurance just denied the claim for treatment - so $2,000 out of pocket so far )
                  I will stop going on about this soon I promise - thank you all so much for hanging in with me!

                  Pauly - when I started to turn the corner and realized that I was getting more and more AF days, I started counting the days I was free - they are in my signature - this was a huge motivator showing me how far I could go and only needed a small tweak to make it stick. Sometimes it is hard seeing how little is mucked up and how much it got me down. Start looking at what works and do more of it - so not dwell on what does not work or that is what will stick. Sorry about both your girls. I am sure it is heartbreaking - I want to go back to toddler days - I thought they were tough, but it gets tougher on our emotions the older they get and the more serious their struggles are.

                  Amoryn came today and took the first one. Sadly they put a sticky label over the instructions, Lav - it says two a day, up to three if no response - correct? And one in am, one in afternoon???

                  OK - time change tonight - thank goodness as it is up early for the 5K run - never, ever thought I would be in a run - my girl talked me into it and it has been so good for us to do this together when struggling through this period in our journey - would NOT have managed anything close to this if I was still drinking - it would have seriously cut into wine time!

                  Today I am feeling so grateful for each one of you - Lav, TT, SF, PPQ, Mick, Sam, Pauly and Det - you have steered me through another storm, and I feel that I am coming out on the other side stronger, and more grateful.... Have a great Sunday all...
                  “The only courage you will ever need is the courage to live the life you want"

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                    #10
                    Hey SL - glad you got your Amoryn.
                    I've only ever taken 2/day & in the summer months I can get away with just 1/day.
                    Take one in the morning & one in the late afternoon. I never take the second one after 5 pm. Those B vits could keep you up you know. Be sure to look around the website, there's lots of information there. www.amoryn.com

                    I wouldn't (and didn't ) rely on school district employees to help with my son. I'm sorry but they seem to have their heads up their asses most of the time. My son THRIVED on the one to one attention he received outside of the school district. I'll bet anything your daughter will as well. For the love of God these kids do not need special ed!!! They need patience & understanding & someone able to teach them the skills they need to succeed! Btw - my ADHD college grad, Eagle scout, married father of two (son) is on the promotion list to become a lieutenant in the Washington DC FD. See??? These kids are smart & they will succeed given the right foundation. Stay cool, calm & collected ~ everything will be OK

                    Looking forward to turning the clocks back an hour but my dumb dogs will take weeks until they get it, Ha HA!!!!
                    AF since 03/26/09
                    NF since 05/19/09
                    Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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