AF Saturday St Valentine's Day

[treetops]

Hi there it is Saturday afternoon here. Valentine’s Day I guess. It all seems to be over”shaded” (pun!) in the media with the release of that dreadful movie that involves 50 shades of boredom…

I am not sure what happened on Friday but the pickings were slim – last time I checked the posts. Well sometimes that happens for whatever reasons. I was flat out and couldn't post my time Friday.
Mick – you said you were having problems with the computer so I hope that gets sorted. How was the trip to Stafford?
Sam – thanks for starting Friday’s thread. Don’t be shy! You – or anyone in starting it.
Bear – glad that you are dealing with the anxiety and that the new meds are helping. Enjoy your weekend and we will hear from you after the roller-ing. Well done on clocking those AF days.

SL and Pie – let’s hope those irritating voices dissipate. I think Fridays are a bit ingrained as the end of the formal working week for many of us – it was the day we let loose and relaxed. We used to have our liquid playmate. But I sure got into a lot of trouble (and some was serious and not the fun kind) on Friday nights.
We still can relax and let loose but let’s not get nostalgic about Fridays and that nice glass of whatever.

PPQP – really glad that your eyes are getting better. You have a good weekend.

Hi there everyone else – Narilly, Pauly, Det, SF, Lav.

[Roadside]

Fridays should be filled with winding down on TEX MEX!!! ( or the fave food of choice)

That'd put you out just like booze used to, especially OD'ng on chips n salsa.

[TheSunFlower97]

Just poking my head in. There is a great conference going on that is called "Recovery 2.0"....and you can listen to some really inspiring stuff that is recovery related. Some is 12 Step heavy.....but, others not so much. It is free all weekend.

[Samstone]

morning everyone!
thanks for the start up TT, probably close to being Sunday for you. Not shy, just gun shy... usually I miss that someone else has started a thread, then we have 2 going.

Ah, yes, the Friday voice... actually that little bastard can show up for me just about any evening, it just that it has to compete with another voice; ME!! When it talks I remind myself of the last hangover. It is a thought that I've kept stored away for such occasions. I also give myself the big reminder of where it all leads. It is just too much physical and mental anguish to go through quitting again for me. My time is short enough here and I've got other stuff to do other than nurse myself because of daily hangovers. I know we all have our own coping mechanisms. I'd be interested to know anyone else's. Tex Mex sounds like a good one!!

Enjoy your VD day all!!
Sam

[NoSugar]

Good morning, Abbers!

I finally have a few moments to myself and came looking for Mick's Brainteasers. Where is our game show host??? Hope you're doing something fun, Mick!

Sam, I feel disconnected from those thoughts - kind of like they are those of someone else, which in many ways, they are. I rarely need to play it out anymore - just think "yeah, but I don't drink". When I look back, I can hardly believe it was ever such a huge problem. If I were to list my current life challenges, not drinking would be far down the list - and that is in what currently is a very content, fairly low-stress life. To anyone struggling, please give yourself enough time!!!

Happy Valentine's Day to all :heart:!

[Lavande]

Good morning Abbers & Happy Valentine's day if you choose to celebrate, ha ha!

Thanks for the early start up TT!
I was busy all day yesterday & away from all computers for a change

Hi there Roadside & SF!
I saw the links 'G' posted for the recovery conferences.

Hey there Sam!
Keeping myself busy & avoiding self-pity have been vital for me!
It took SO much effort to drag myself out of that dark hole I simply refuse to fall back. I'm am not sure I have any more quits left in me so I am protecting this one like a mother bear

I hope we see everyone check in today, I worry when our regulars don't stop in.
Let's al remember to stay calm & be kind to each other with our words :hug:

I'll stop later to see everyone!

Lav

[paulywogg]

Mae everybody, I'm worried about Mick, usually he'll at least check in quickly by phone, Happy Valentine's day I just got hubs some candy,silly boxers and a mug with wiener dogs on it,plus I paid for a memorial tattoo in honor of his mom,so he's good, good enough anyways, I'm glad you guys are sharing your thoughts and feelings, I agree that MWO won't work if we don't use it for the support we need alrighty off to fix this stupid hair for work have a great day

[Pie]

So, I just want a glass of wine with a meal in a very nice restaurant. What's wrong with that?

No, make that two glasses, large ones, please.

And now I'm considering how little wine is actually left in the bottle, because I want more. I want a lot more.

Thanks for replying to me yesterday, SL and NS. I've been off reading in the relapse threads, after playing out in my mind where my thoughts are leading. Not sure what else to say right now, but thanks for shoving me in the right direction.

MAE, TT, Roadside, Sunflower, Lav, Sam, Pauly, and everyone.

[NoSugar]

Pie, I had to buy a bottle of wine for guests recently and even though I'm just fine 99% of the time, that bottle looked really little to me - and it contained 5 "servings" :wink:.

[scottish lass]

Quick post as things to do, places to go - just wanted to check on you Pie! So get it! Have not had a steak in forever and bought some for bbq this weekend - and yes wanted my habitual accompaniment! I do miss my wine as I loved it, but can't have it as I can't stop - so i just have to get on with it! So happy to be unhung (as Nar says) this morning, and will be unhung tomorrow after my steak tonight!
Think the thoughts thru and stick with us Pie.....

[treetops]

Yes, I enjoyed my wine (and my gin when I sneakily bought it) but like you guys say its too easy to have more than just the one. When I think like that (which is rare by the way) or when I am in a restaurant or something where good wine is being served, I recall all those dreadful bottles and boxes of disgusting crappy wine, the dregs and the horrible smell. Good aversion therapy. It ain't no glamour-puss moment anymore. And the romantic solitary writer with her glass of wine or gin (another old image) just reminds me of scrawls that I can't read the next day, or hours of wasted time and regrets. Lav's right - its great to have moved out of that shitty pit.

Nice that you did something for hubs Pauly! He is lucky to have you.

[Determinator]

Hidy ho ABeroooos!

got in an ass-kicking workout at fencing this morn, not BBQ'ing some rosemary/garlic chicken and
spending a nice quiet Valentines at home with my dear wife.

Pie, take it from me, having relapsed not that long ago that it's never fun to go back out again once we know the
pain and humiliation of letting the demon back into our life. I just immediately became anxious, worried, then freaked out,
jittery and sick. somehow the whole 'fun' part didn't even pay a visit. ick!

time to check the bbq

be well loves

[Byrdlady]

I came over to read Mick's jokes and they (and HE) are missing. I need some new material! I know it takes considerable time to post those everyday, I dont know how you do it. I wanted you to know that I appreciate the time and effort you put in those personal posts and jokes. I dont often post over here, but I read all the time and there is a huge hole here without you.
Happy Valentines Day, fellow Abbers! B

[paulywogg]

Seriously, I'm about to put Mick's pic on a milk carton!he's NEVER missing!!! TT,thanks for saying that,actually I'm lucky to have hubs, he's stuck by my side through all of this mess,anyone else would've left a looooong time ago,hi Byrdie

[Lavande]

Byrdie, I think we could convince Mick to come back if indeed we all show a little more appreciation for his Herculean effort in posting those page long jokes for us each & every day. We don't all have to like them, none of them have ever come close to being offensive. I'm afraid he may have had his feelings hurt a bit & for that I am sorry :hug:

Pie, don't let those 'thoughts' take hold. Get into the habit of recognizing them for what they are - just thoughts & you don't have to act on them. We all have been thru this stage & it will go away soon enough. You will feel great pride & relief when that happens, I promise!