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    april 8th

    mornin all ...and howz the world with you today then?..good bad or indifferent?over here tis a wee bit cold,but never the less the sun is out so it promises to look good even tho it might not feel it at the mo...checked the seeds I put in pots last week..courgettes cucumbers tomatoes and peas are all through already!! also the first flowers on my camellia bush is out....

    well here we go ..sitting drinking a cuppa peppermint tea at the mo...anyone else or is it java joe all round?

    firstly det ..if you can mate give us a shout..let us know how you are doing....

    hiya Lav...A QUIET DAY? you dont do quiet days!!if its not the kids you will be at something else!youve got 1 kid till 11 today? plety of time to have a looksee at Longwood afterwards Ive got 2 gerboras ..and after a while the heads get too heavy ,droop and snap down..da da ..fixed! using green plant ties ..look as good as new..brew time for you ..here you go...

    hiya ppqp ..hows you then?take it you had a chilled out evening then?hows the work front going now ?whats happening there?

    hiya pie ..did you get any work yesterday?when you said you go for work on a daily basis is it through an agency or something?you could always teach project planning..

    hey pauly ...hows you then?stop knocking yourself down...you are normal!!!!well as normal as any of us...no smart ass comments from the crowd pelease!!seriously tho..just chill it along...:hug:

    hey bear ..you never said which coast...what was the weather like ..it was grand here..tho today looks better...surfing defo is the way..with anyhing its just getting over that crest

    hiya SF.....wow that was some passionate post....this thread is about getting it out ,so hopefully it did that with you...ther is a lot of angst,anger and hurt in there..I am not qualified or indeed entitled to meddle and mess in your private feelings,but if I can,couple of points came to me ...opinion wise only....
    they have been married for 60 years...its a heck of a long time to be with someone that you dont want to be with.....
    love ..what does it mean?has it got a meaning? would it not be better to say "this is me" my choice..this is the person I choose to be with ,I am happy ,content,and thru thick n thin thats it..love has got this over encompassing picture of hearts n roses and walking off hand in hand into the sunset etc..when sometimes its actually just about saying thanks..without you I couldnt have done it?
    no quality of life..Im sure along lifes path you mustve heard.."Id rather be dead than.......we ve all said it along the way...and yet no one has actually ever said tell you what choose death its great..better than whats on the cards just now...
    this is not meant as a debate or anything,because in there you have got some serious thoughts about it of your own..but hope it helps you in some little way ..if not bin it :hug:
    folks for the offski now ..take it easy have a great day and a big shout to all are mms ..missing mates!!

    Mark Simpson, the man jailed for twelve years for selling sub-standard building materials to the government, escaped from Pentonville Prison this morning when the front fell off.

    Lawyer "You said the plaintiff was shot in the woods?"

    Doctor "No, I said he was shot in the lumbar region."

    Trump this one!!

    During lunch at work last week I ate three plates of beans, which I know I should not have. When I got home, my boyfriend seemed excited to see me and exclaimed delightedly, "Darling I have a surprise for dinner tonight." He then blindfolded me and led me to my chair at the dinner table.

    I took a seat and just as he was about to remove my blindfold, the telephone rang. He made me promise not to touch the blindfold until he returned and went to answer the call.

    The beans I had consumed were still affecting me and the pressure was becoming unbearable, so while my boyfriend was out the room I seized the opportunity, shifted my weight to one leg and let one go. It was not only loud, but it smelled like a fertilizer truck running over a skunk in front of a garbage dump! I took my napkin from my lap and fanned the air around me vigorously. Then, shifting to the other leg, I let three more go. The stink was worse than cooked cabbage. Keeping my ears carefully tuned to the conversation in the other room, I went on releasing atomic bombs like this for another few minutes. The pleasure was indescribable!

    Eventually the telephone farewells signaled the end of my freedom, so I quickly fanned the air a few more times with my napkin, placed it on my lap and folded my hands back on it feeling very relieved and pleased with myself. My face must have been the picture of innocence when my boyfriend returned as he apologized for taking so long. He asked me if I had peeked through the blindfold, and I assured him I had not. At this point, he removed the blindfold, and 12 dinner guests seated around the table, with their hands to their noses, chorused, "Happy Birthday."

    My son's tooth fell out yesterday.

    So last night my wife asked me to tiptoe into his bedroom and replace it with a £1 coin.

    I did try but unfortunately he woke up as I was doing it.

    Must've been the taste of the superglue.

    I said to my girlfriend, "I've opened us a joint account so that we can put all of our money together."

    "Aww, wanting to take our relationship to the next stage, are you?"

    "No," I replied. "I've lost my job."

    Dwarves are often born with an extra toe.

    It's a little gnome fact.

    The police sent me a photo of my car speeding.

    So I sent them a picture of my cheque.

    Two medical students were walking along the street when they saw an old man walking with his legs spread wide apart.

    One of the students said to his friend: "I'm sure he has Petry Syndrome. Those people walk just like that."

    The other student says: "No, I don't think so. The old man surely has Zovitzki Syndrome. He walks just as we learned in class."

    Since they couldn't agree they decided to ask the old man. They approached him and one of the students said to him: "We're medical students and couldn't help but notice the way you walk, but we couldn't agree on the syndrome you might have. Could you tell us what it is?"

    The old man said: "I'll tell you, but first you must tell me what you think."

    One of the students said: "I think it's Petry Syndrome." The old man said: "You thought, but you are wrong."

    Then the other student said: "I think you have Zovitzki Syndrome." The old man said: "You thought, but you are wrong."

    So they asked him: "Well, what do you have?"

    The old man said: "I thought it was wind, but I was wrong."

    I remember when I was a kid and all I wanted for Christmas was an Action Man.
    I got this plastic doll with a cord on its back and when you pulled it it said "30, 30, 35, 35, 35, 40......"
    I looked on the box........Auction Man.

    I'm keeping a few jokes about crash mats till later.

    I always like to have something to fall back on.

    My mate just asked me, "If you were stuck on a desert island, and you could have 3 records, what would they be?"

    I said, "The long distance swimming one would be good!"

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    6am this morning

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    6 this morning...

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    af since the fourth of July 2012...howzat then America..now proudly marching into year 12

    #2
    Good morning Mick and all to come,

    Lovely pics from your world this morning, Mick. Only edibles in my garden so far are rosemary and oregano. Want to add a basil plant, and that will likely do it for me. Figure I can support a local farmers market for fresh vegetables.

    Sorry to hear of your troubles with elder relatives, SF. I've been through something similar where family dynamics get very complicated, and simple solutions to complex questions are hard to come by.

    Looks like no work today, so will be figuring out door issues. Need a replacement on the back, and a couple interior doors need attention.

    Back later...

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      #3
      MAE ALL...

      Mick...thanks for kicking us off this morning. I think I'll stick with joe this morning. Wow you do have the proverbial green thumb don't you. Looks like a grand morning over there according to the pics. Sandy's looking good. We're supposed to see the sun here today as well, we'll see. Got to work yesterday and the first time I looked at the clock it was 3:30pm. I usually like those kinda days but there was still soo much more work to be done. Managed to accomplish all that was needed so a very productive day. Which of course lead to the chilled out evening, good sleep and ready for what the day throws at me.

      Pi...supporting the local farmers market sounds like a plan. Gardening can sometimes result in "What am I going to do with all this!" We're going to have to start calling you the "door" lady. Glad the "no work" is not a big issue with you at the moment, you do seem to keep yourself busy.

      SF...:hug: Sometimes life just sucks! With all that's going on just remember one thing...Do what's right for you. I'm grateful that my parents presented a loving and compatible relationship, now the siblings however......

      Round one of pancakes over and round two being called for. Off to hit the grill. Have a Wonderful AF Wednesday all and all to come....:smile:PPQP

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        #4
        Mae everybody, ooh pancakes sound good PPQP seen an ad for "perfect pancakes" some pan that makes perfectly round pancakes, how lazy!haha,Mick,it's so bright at 6 am there, Sandy looks adorable, my Zygo?cactus bloomed one flower the other day, I should have snapped a pic while it still looked good, now it's kinda shriveled, as far as being "normal" I just hate not feeling well and able to watch Louie, Kell was pissed last night cuz on Monday when the other gramma took him,she left him in a poopy diaper the whole 5 hours!!!!and told Kell"well your mom didn't give me any diapers" bitch go buy some!or at least take it off and let him go commando with some paper towels in his pants, anything is better than letting him sit like that, yesterday he had a red bum cuz of it,slathered him with coconut oil poor baby, SF,I dunno what to say about the situation, lady sounds evil to me maybe she loves him in her own way,60 years is a looooong time to be with someone, maybe cuz she's older she's getting a titch of dementia, that can make people crabby, who knows but I'm glad you vented we have to vent it out or it sits around our minds, I like talking out stuff here cuz when I vent to hubs or other people, you can see their eyes glaze over like"yeah,alright I've heard this a gazillion times" haha,well gotta go give hubs my keys so he can warm up my car,hope everyone has a nice Wednesday, hello to all
        I have too much shit to do today and tomorrow to drink:sohappy:

        I'm taking care of the "tomorrow me":thumbsup:
        Drinkin won't help a damn thing! Will only make me sick for DAYS and that ugly, spacey dumb feeling-no thanks!

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          #5
          hey everyone, first day back at work done,not too bad almost enjoyable.
          Had a lovely skate with girl from round the corner,sadly me new skates don't work very well for me - ended up in old ones - and now I've worn them outside don't think i can get refund.can sell second hand though - oh well - you live and learn.It could be worse.

          SF thinking of you at the moment and sending you some positive thoughts.

          Mick - went to Brighton - was lovely,saw the sea and lots of shops!

          hey Pauly - poor baby!

          Hey PQ - save me one please!

          Have a good AF evening everyone.

          Det - hope you're doing ok
          one day at a time

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            #6
            Finally getting a chance to say Hello Abbers!

            I actually had a good morning with my grandson, dropped him off at preschool then came back home & got involved with making a pot of soup & I actually figured out how to make a gluten & dairy free 'cheesy' flat bread - yum
            It was pretty damn good if I may say that, ha ha!!!

            Mick, you certainly take lovely pictures at 6 am - don't ever catch me at 6 am, Lol
            I will probably have a couple of gebera daisies in pots on my deck this summer as usual - love them.
            Smart thinking giving yours some support!

            Pie, I have an herb garden that goes nuts every summer. Love the fresh herbs
            Have you ever grown chocolate mint - makes great tea!!

            PQ, you are a busy girl & making pancakes too - woo hoo!!!!
            Temps dropping to the high 30's tonight - cold for this time of year, ugh.

            pauly, I'm sorry Louie's other grandmother is so useless. How can anyone let a toddler run around with a dirty diaper like that? What a shame! I've always kept a supply of diapers, wipes & all the necessities for the kids here. All the kids are potty trained now, glad the diaper stage is history here, yay!

            SF, that's a sad situation with your in-laws. It's actually not unusual for elders to react inappropriately at high stress times. I've witnessed some of that in my own family. I think they just don't have the ability to cope (as we think they should) so they turn their attention to themselves which makes them look mean or cold. Dementia rears it's ugly head in lots of different ways too. Make sure the patient is comfortable & having his needs met & try not to worry about her. I just keep reminding myself that we don't have to have all the answers. We have to trust that the universe has a plan :hug:

            Nothing from Deter yet? Check in friend, let us know you are OK.

            Greetings to everyone, Sam, NS & anyone stopping by.
            Have a peaceful evening.

            Lav
            AF since 03/26/09
            NF since 05/19/09
            Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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              #7
              I'll never have her watch him again, I told Brady if I'm having a bad day when I hafta watch Louie,he'll just have to help me out, that's unacceptable to me,and he was probably telling her the whole time he pooped, he always tells me, he's too sweet to be neglected like that, horrible hag!!!
              I have too much shit to do today and tomorrow to drink:sohappy:

              I'm taking care of the "tomorrow me":thumbsup:
              Drinkin won't help a damn thing! Will only make me sick for DAYS and that ugly, spacey dumb feeling-no thanks!

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                #8
                Thanks for allowing me to vent....yes, lots of emotions. I guess I just have never really seen anything like this. My grandparents were married for almost 60 years.....and it wasn't always rosy, but at the end they were both there supportive of each other. Not flower and roses, but they were a great example. And I would not call it a great love affair.

                I just have watched this woman be so unkind and utterly mean and demeaning to a man who really does not deserve it, for years. It has been hard to watch.

                Today we saw his "Living Will" and actually, it would not have supported a DNR. He can recover, but at 84...there is only so much "quality of life" and he is in the early stages of Alzheimer's. But, her meanness was long before even a remote sign of it. Honestly, it is hard for me to comprehend where it came from.

                She got a school of hard knocks from the doctor today...it is not her decision. It it was up to her she has clearly stated that she wants him to die, so that her life will be easier. It breaks my heart to see such a good man be at the end of his life and literally see the woman he loves trying to kill him.

                My husband and I could be "much like them". He is so like his Dad and isn't perfect, but usually I get my way. (Maybe not a good thing).....he doesn't see that he is actually his Dad. But, he is siding with his Mom....and that is hard for me to understand. We had a fairly heated conversation in our car ride home today. It kind of ended with...."well, I am glad to know that when you need me most.....I am welcome to walk out on you".....because that is what you are saying to your mom.

                I would understand truly if these were "heat of the moment comments", but they are not. She will be relieved when is gone. I guess for me, I can understand if that means it was best for the person I just spent 60 years with. And that is not the case. She is disappointed to find out that all his vitals are returning to normal....he will most likely recover....and she has to be there for him.

                Watching something like this....kind of makes you scratch your head and go....WTF....I understand that most marriages are not forever....but when you get to 80....come on..."SOMEONE WAS GOING TO HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF AN OLD PERSON"...and for quite a few years "IT WAS YOU".

                However, I am trying to have compassion. It is just hard when there is no compassion from her for a person who did so much for her.

                Anyways, we are back home. Hubby and I had long talks.
                Last edited by TheSunFlower97; April 8, 2015, 10:42 PM.

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                  #9
                  day two. trying to get my head out of my ass.
                  nosce te ipsum
                  (Know Thyself)

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