Genuine January, 2016

[Lavande]

I watch almost everything PBS has to offer on Masterpiece Theater

Dill, I almost always add a little something to the dry dog food, gotta take care of those girls too! If nothing else, a scrambled egg is appreciated by them, ha ha.

YB came home with a major case of manful today. Can I tell you how happy I am that I will be out of here by 6:30 am to go watch my granddaughter?? OMG!!

Hope you are better Pauly!

Peace to all tonight!

[SnoopyC]

Good morning...

Lav, a case of manful? What is that? I just think 63 is young yet (depending on your health) and I plan on working at this point till I am in my middle sixties. I did a new guided meditation and it took me ten years into the future. It was kind of weird to think about but good too. It is really a personal choice, but I doubt YB will learn to relax. He is who he is. Good luck. Getting older is alot about choices, I am finding out. I am so lucky in my new job, with great people and a director like no other. It makes all the difference. I was thinking about Papmom...I wonder how she is doing? Well I hope. I miss her posts, but I guess it was time for her to move on.

Pauly, I agree, I want to talk about AF LIFE, not just the struggles, although that is good too. Hope you had a better day.

Cyn, it would be hard to work from home, I might feel I could never get it all done either. Hope you visit with the naturopath goes well. I love both turkey and chicken broth and always have bone broth in my homeade soups. Yum. The costumes in Downton Abbey were gorgeous. Loved the story line too.

Dill, my son is waiting on internet to start applying for jobs here, he has another interview next week and a job fair. He is finding his way around the city, and lives about 20 minutes away, which is great. It is of course a huge adjustment to move, he knows no one, and had a group of friends in his old place, so that is hard. He will figure it out,he has too. Nice that you are going out for lunch and a walk with friends. I love my work friends, but have not outside of that. I don't even know my neighbors, working all the time, there is no interaction except for waving to each other.

Have a good one all.

[Lavande]

Good Thursday morning friends!

I am at my granddaughter's house after a rough commute. I came upon a school bus accident not far from home. Looked like a car slid out of it's driveway & travelled straight across the road into the side of the bus. No one appeared to be hurt. The back roads in cow country are still mot in great shape after the snowstorm. I made a U turn & had to find another way. That bus carries high school kids & is mostly empty when I pass by it in the mornings.

Star, I meant to say MANFLU. My dyslexia was showing last night, ha ha.
I am not overly sympathetic with attention seekers., obviously. I think YB would consider hanging in his job longer if the hierarchy wasn't in such a state of change right now. Who knows, he may stay a bit longer, nothing is written in stone.

My daughter has 1 more week left in her current clinical rotation. She certainly has learned a lot, LOL
She has found the 'little old lady' patients to be cute & harmless. She has found some other patients to not be so pleasant. She is taking it all in stride.
I hope your son finds employment soon

Pauly, I wish I could send you some healing chicken soup :hug:

Dill, Have fun with your friends, good to get out!
I need to gather my work friends soon.

Cyn, how are you doing?

OK, back to Mickey Mouse Playhouse, oh boy!
Have a great AF Thursday everyone!

Lav

[paulywogg]

Morning friends,Lav you did that yesterday talking about the bone broth too,you typed"brother" haha,Star,all of the jobs are online these days,I miss the days of getting a application in person,I too wonder about Papmom but I'm sure she's doing well Dill,seems like you really like historical settings in your books and shows,I've never watched "Downtown Abbey" it's very popular though,hi Cyn,well off to get ready,let's have a peaceful Thursday (I hope)

[treegirl]

Hi all -

Wishing all a great Thursday day and evening. Ups and downs here, I'm trying to learn to roll with things better. My dream life is even more as chaotic and stressful than my perceived 'stress' in daily life; always big projects that don't get done, hotels whose names and addresses I can't remember, the dog locked in the hotel room and I lost my purse and have no ID or key, uuuuugh. Sometimes I'm thrilled to wake up! Today's been cooking cooking cooking for either myself or the dogs. HB comes home tomorrow evening again for an overnight, so I'll get some food ready for him too - maybe the French Onion soup!?

I have been so low-energy recently that I thought a walk would help. It's sunny today, so in between things I went a mile up and back on our road. Wow, that wore me out! Ridiculous! But anyway I did it. Nice to feel the sun, even with a stiff breeze.

Hope all are well and hanging in -- take care --

[treegirl]

And PS, speaking of being behind, I think the last Downton Abbey episode I watched was in season 2 - I think that was a while ago, right? RE;costumes - I heard that there are knitting patterns for some of the clothes...mmmm.

[Lavande]

I think part of my typing problem is iPad related. My blueooth keyboard doesn't hold a charge very long. The other part is due to the deficient brain I was born with......dyslexia gets you into big trouble in school, ha ha!

I see Papmom everyday on Facebook, she is fine!
She got a new puppy a few weeks ago so there's been lots of pap puppy pics
I will tell her to drop in & say hello.

Glad to be home safe & sound! Accidents all over the place because people will not slow down on these icy roads - duh.

Have a peaceful night everyone!
Lav

[SnoopyC]

Good morning...

Lav, I didn't mean to make a big deal about a typo, sorry. Of course YB will do whatever he wants, and who knows, maybe he would find another parttime job to keep him busy! You just never know. Sorry your commute to granddaughter made you find an alternate route so early in the am. Geez. We are supposed to get a touch of snow, then 50 tomorrow. Not bad at all. So glad to hear Pap got a puppy, her dogs are such a big part of her life! My husband and I both woke up at 4:25 this morning, lots of time to drink coffee before work!

Pauly, you sound as if you might feel a little better. I hope so. When does it start to get warmer in Vegas? I just wondered if you got an earlier spring then we do here in the Midwest.

Cyn, what is going on with the low energy? This time of year is rough, cold, dark, it seems to encourage sleep and curling up in a chair, reading a book. I want to take some time on Saturday afternoon to just relax, read, and have time to enjoy. I have to set those times aside or they will not happen for me. I plan on making this delicious vegan spinach lasagna this weekend. It is alot of work, but so good and nourishing too. I have not made it since I moved. I have to find nutritional yeast again. How are your doggies doing?

Dill, hope your week is going well. I am going piano shopping tonight, I hope. I decided I want a piano for my birthday, which is in late March, and so will begin the hunt now. I may even take piano lessons. I want my grandson to have Christmas carols during the holidays, not just getting toys. Plus, I love music so much. We'll see. My mother played beautifully and this would be having a part of her with me.

Yay, it is Friday, hope we all have a good day!

[dill]

Hello friends, sorry I missed posting yesterday. I got busy very early in the kitchen making a couple of meals to take to my son. We had plans to work on that organization again but then he told me he had too much school work and no time for the apartment. But by the time he told me that I had already made the food so I decided to take it to him and drop it off. We'll have to try for another day. Anyway, it's a long trip over there and back, plus I met a friend for a walk and lunch before I went so it was a full day!

Star, I wish we lived near each other because I had a piano that I no longer played and was looking for someone to give it a good home! It was in my family since I was a girl. My mother played and we kids had lessons on it. I enjoyed playing carols on it! But I stopped playing and my skills grew rusty. And we didn't have room for it anymore for various reasons. Luckily, the sweet neighbors across the road were thrilled when I offered it to them and their girls will have lessons when they get old enough.

Pauly, yes I do love historical shows and books! You are spot on.

Lav, I have the dvr set to record masterpiece theatre no matter what show is on. Did you watch Poldark last summer? Loved it!

Cyn, those dreams sound awful! I sometimes dream like that but it usually has to do with being on campus and trying to find my schedule or classes, etc. Sometimes it is just better to get up and get the day started! LOL!

[Lavande]

Good morning friends on this Friday morning!

It's been a tough week, mostly due to the blizzard aftermath. Light snow showers predicted for today even though we still have plenty of snow on the ground. My patience only goes so far with this stuff

Star, I really don't care what YB decides to do with himself. All I want is peace! He either has to learn to choose happiness or keep working until he drops. You know this is all ego related with him, right? I'm out of patience with that nonsense too, ha ha.
About the dyslexia thing - kids now a days don't get punished for having it, they get help. When I was in first grade & spelling cat - cta I just got yelled at. The thing is, you don't know you are doing that & you don't see the error. If I don't take the time to very carefully look back at something I have written or typed then mistakes occur. I have screwed up my check book by inverting numbers too - not fun. Hence my frustration with timed tests & whatnot in school.
I've been making a vegan lasagna for some time now with a recipe from the Save Our Bones website. I make the ricotta 'cheese' with raw cashews & use almond mozzarella I buy at the supermarket. It is better than the real thing, everyone loves it

Dill, I don't know how I missed the Poldark series last summer but I did. I have a new membership to a PBS station in Maryland which gives me access to shows on demand. I think I will see if I can catch it there.
Cooking for your son & grandchildren is a nice thing to do
I am sure they appreciate some homestyle meals. What is your son studying? My daughter is doing well with her program but it does involve a lot of studying time too.

Cyn, I find I have 'nightmare-ish' dreams when I am stressed. I guess that's a normal reaction for most of us. I know I sure did when YB blew out of here so suddenly. The nasty dreams stopped when I detached myself from him & all his nonsense. Survival of the fittest & all that. Find your balance & keep yourself centered, right? We owe ourselves that much

Pauly, how are you today?
YB went back to work after two days of feeling awful. Not sure he should have gone but he did.

Wishing everyone a great AF day!

Lav

[SnoopyC]

Good morning all...

Well, went shopping for pianos at a music store and they had some thing called digital pianos. You plug it in, it looks kind of like a real piano, depending on what you buy, but you can do all types of different things with it. It can sound like a piano, organ, harpsicord and who knows what else. But, they don't deliver or put together, so I am going to continue looking. It was a nice piece of music though. I am excited. I looked online and found my old piano learning book, from the 60s.

Lav, would you mind explaining what your mean by it is all ego related? I am not sure what you mean. It's all about him? That I understand. . Learning about dyslexia is interesting, thanks for explaining. Turns out I am not making my lasagna this week, we are having leftovers tonight and then going to my daughter's for dinner tomorrow. So, no cooking for me this weekend. That is fine with me.

Dill, how sweet of you to cook for your son and his kids. We live about 45-60 minutes from my daughter too so it is not a casual trip as it takes a big hunk out of the day. But it is worth it. Hope you had fun with your friend. I have been really missing my friend, it is a month now. I have a few nice friends at work, two from where I used to live that I still talk too, but wish I had someone close around my new city. I have to be patient and keep looking.

Hello to Cyn and Pauly. Have a good one.

[Lavande]

Good Saturday morning friends!

Sunny & heading up to 40 degrees so I hope some of this snow disappears. You get tired of looking at it after a week

Star, my daughter is hoping to get a digital piano at some point as well. They have a very small house, she thinks it would fit in better.
YB is a classic egocentric. His concerns are first & foremost about him. He is unable to see someone else's point of view, he is harshly judgmental & just plain difficult. He has a history of appearing to say & do things to be liked but they may not be in line with his inner beliefs. Does that make sense? It's hard to explain & it has just plain worn me out over the years. That BS is definitely not in line with my desire to live in peace. The worst part of all this is that somehow he has turned into my father....that same 'I am always right, everyone else is wrong' persona
The best chance for my survival is to remain detached, stay positive in my thinking & live each day to the fullest just as I have been doing.

Hello to Dill, Cyn & Pauly!
I hope everyone has a great AF day!

Lav

[treegirl]

Morning all -

Good to read all the news -

Dill, you are great to make food and take it to your son's family. I agree with Lav, that they are probably so appreciative for home-cooked food. I am amazed that your son can handle 2 kids and going to school. (But only with your help of course!)

Star - a piano! how great! I think it's wonderful for you to pursue that. I keep reading that playing the piano is one of the great things for brain health - along with knitting, I just read. RE; tired. I actually love winter, I like the dark and don't really mind the cold. This is a different fatigue - looks like low adrenal functioning is at the root of the problem. Fortunately, I have a new regimen in place that should help. And I did my first Bodyscan yesterday! I find that I am more impatient than I knew - I kept worrying about how much time it was taking - good information for me to have...

Lav - sorry about the snow causing such havoc. I hope things get more back to normal for you. We are to have bizarre warm weather next week - maybe it will hit you first. My dreams are from anxiety - but totally self-imposed! I am a tough boss to myself - I told myself to 'back off' yesterday!

Pauly - how's it going - are you feeling better?

Well, off to make brekkie for HB, who came home for an overnight...

Have a great Saturday all!

[SnoopyC]

Good morning...

Had a great day yesterday, worked out, accomplished cleaning, hair done, grocery shopping and a new soup, Panera Lemon Chicken Orzo Soup - Girl and the Kitchen
that was just delicious. Plus, it felt like spring yesterday, sunny and in the 50s, unbelievable. We have a new neighbor and I went over and said hi. Today work out, and then to daughter's to visit. It will be more relaxing and I love when my house is clean.

Lav, OK, I get it and it would be so hard to live with someone who is not on the same page with you. Why, when we are young, do we pick the difficult guys? Is it a challenge or something? Learning to accept and live in peace and gratitude is so much better, but you have to want it. Thanks for your comments about the digital piano fitting in a small space better. True. I have just a corner of my dining room, and the digital piano I looked at would be perfect there. An acoustic piano would be much bigger and not look right. Still, I am taking my time, it is the last day of January and my birthday is not until March. I get it about the snow, so glad I moved farther south. This time of year with lots of snow always got to me.

Cyn, I like all the seasons too. Winter is cozy and soup filled, candles, warm sweaters and of course, lots of cute boots. Good to hear you are easing up on yourself and expectations of what you should do. Shoulds can make us all crazy. However, I think the way we talk to ourselves goes a long way as to how we feel. Didn't you love the body scan? I still have some CDs with that recording, I found it really put me in a deep state of relaxation. A few weekends ago I spoke to a foot reflexologist who said that we have to relax to let the body heal from whatever it needs to. That body scan done on a regular basis would go a long way towards that goal. Hope the new regimen is helpful.

Hello to Dill and Pauly. Have a relaxing and lovely Sunday.

[Lavande]

Good Sunday morning friends

Hoping to get some sun & warmer temps today & see more snow disappear!
I ended up feeding the entire family yesterday except for my son who was at work. EB stayed overnight, oh joy.

Cyn, hard working women are harsh to their adrenals. I think a lot of us have a tendency to work until we drop, I know I sure did. Remember my fall down a flight of steps 15 years ago resulting in a skull fracture? Yeah, I believe that was orchestrated by the universe, a major message to slow the heck down.
I know you are smarter & will manage yourself better than I did. Do whatever it takes to be kind to yourself :hug:

Star, I keep asking myself why? How did I not know that YB was not on the same page? I think there is no simple answer because it involved a lot of lying & manipulation on his part. I figured it out before we were married a year & considered leaving but I stayed. It was my choice because I was filled with hope that he would grow up, relax, see the light & all that. I suppose I manifested my own destiny back then. Our son & DIL have had their younger boy evaluated by the school psychologist & again by an independent psychologist. He has been acting out in school & at home as well. The boy told the psychologist that he thinks people are mad at him. When asked who, he answered YB. My DIL told me this last evening & I just nodded. I gave YB that message this morning & he did not take it very well. Now YB is sulking - how's that for manipulative, childish behavior??
Enjoy the rest of the weekend & your warm weather. I am profoundly jealous, ha ha!!

Hello to Dill & Pauly!

Have a wonderful AF day everyone!

Lav