May Mojo ~ AF

[Lavande]

Good Sunday morning friends!

Just a touch of sun here, rain is moving in later tonight. I just heard we could get up to 4" tomorrow, geez!

Reading thru everyone's posts this morning just got me to thinking about acceptance. Boy that was a hard lesson for me to learn but once I got it I realized anything was possible. Thinking the same thoughts always brings you the same results. If you want real change then you have to change your thinking
Change is inevitable so we may as well accept it & make the most out of it, right? We can shape & mold our futures any way we choose & be the architects of our own lives!

Star, nothing thrills me more than a new recipe these days, ha ha! Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

Dill, yes, we are the keepers of our own sanity! We owe it to ourselves to keep working to find that balance we all desire. Whatever it takes, right?

Cyn, you need some AC friend. I just cannot cope without, not even a little. I hope we get into a somewhat cooler weather pattern after this rain moves through. Don't work too hard :hug:

Hope you are OK today Pauly!

How's your day going Eloise?

Have a wonderful AF Sunday everyone!

Lav

[paulywogg]

Hello friends, yes we are the keepers of our own sanity,who else can do it? Sometimes the mind is uncontrollable though Kell is going for hypnosis on Tuesday for anxiety/depression, she feels like she's tried everything (except medication) but I think my crazy Zoloft days scared her away from meds,in turn her anxiety makes mine act up cuz I don't want her to feel like that,health and happiness is all I want!! For all of us really, hmm,still sad Brady will be going but I hafta let him go,me throwing a tantrum or guilt trip and making him feel bad about leaving is justas selfish as my drinking days,no,no,no! II'm working on it but I'm kinda pissed at hubs cuz I found out he's been watching porn on the computer when I go to bed,I don't want to be stuck resentful of him for however long Bradys gone and I hafta be alone with him,sheesh,edit your history idiot! Ignorance would have been bliss in this case,I mean I care but I don't care,care,I'd just rather not know ya know? I too need to feel a real book,plus screen reading bugs my eyes after a bit,a book is comforting I kinda like Jumpin Jack,that way that song will pop into our heads everytime we see the title haha,I think we were Jubilant last year? I don't care as long as its happy and you all are here hope we all have a grand AF Sunday

[SnoopyC]

Good morning...

Dill, the Source is a great book, but long, and in the end, worth reading, know you will enjoy. I like the idea of audio too. I just needed a new cord for my tablet, I read most of my books from there now. I can't go back and read stuff, it would take forever on the tablet, but the library here has no books, you have to order them. Then go pick them up. Not for me.

Lav, acceptance of our lives is key...then working with what we've got.

Cyn, it would be hard for me to live without air conditioning, hope it cools off for you.

Pauly, glad you are thinking of June names!

Have a good Memorial Day.

[treegirl]

Morning all - cool rain here! Woo Hoo! I don't even care that it's a rainy holiday. Those little breaths of cool air are worth it all.

Lav - right on. Changing our thinking, (and also remembering that our thoughts are not US, they are just thoughts), and as you say changing those thoughts can bring us peace, not agitation. This is still big news for me, and I have to make it a HABIT not to buy into the hurtful messages, but to actively participate in making new grateful happy thoughts. Thanks for the reminder!

Wishing everyone a day where we consciously 'raise the vibration' of the energy around us, and bring ourselves and others lots of gratitude and smiles.

[Lavande]

Good morning friends!

It's a damp Memorial day in this neck of the woods. We even have flood warnings so I doubt the usual parades & celebrations will proceed, we shall see.

Pauly, men & porn, ugh! The medical community excuses them by telling us men are hard wired to view/see sexual images. What bothers me the most is the sneaking & lying involved. Just maybe if they were open & honest about their activities at least you could have an open & honest discussion

Star, if I could just convince YB to be happy with what we have.....he continues to want more & more. I removed myself long ago from feeling any responsibility for feeding his hungry ego. That's all on him now

Cyn, it's still very cloudy & damp here but the heavy rain seems to have moved out. We still have flood warning up though.
Stopping negative thoughts as soon as you are aware of them really works. It gets easier to do with practice & becomes a new healthy habit! I just flat out refuse to allow negativity to take root, never again!!

Hello to Dill, what's going on with you today?
Hi Eloise, how are you?

Wishing everyone a wonderful AF day!

Lav

[dill]

Hello Friends from soggy southern Ohio! LOL! We had a nice day for the most part yesterday and managed a grill out. The rain held off until late evening, but what a downpour! The biggest excitement for yesterday was the discovery of a good sized Paint Turtle in the back yard. It must have been on its way to the pond but it had to postpone its plans once Tessa (dog) came across it. She was making such a fuss I had to go investigate. Of course gdaughter was thrilled and we had to put it in a box for Daddy, brother and Pop Pop to see! That girl is a born Naturalist! Anyway, after everyone had a chance to see it, they released it at the edge of the pond and it went on its merry way.

Pauly, it made me so sad to hear about hb and his porn viewing. I believe porn is a terribly destructive force in our society and I have strong feelings about it. I hope you can figure a way to deal with this new piece of information. If Lav is right (as she usually is) and the medical community excuses its use that is truly upsetting to me. Anyway, support and hugs to you.

Cyn, I'm amazed that you have found time to post. I expected you to be absent for the duration of your special guest. Is he/she still with you? I'm on to season 3 of Prime Suspect this week. She is such and incredible actress! Speaking of incredible actresses, have you ever seen the movie Ladies in Lavendar starring Maggie Smith, Judi Dench and Daniel Bruhl? Incredible acting there. It's a drama, not suspense. I'm sure you'd like it.

Star, I don't quite understand a library with no books? I mean really? None?! Or do you mean just not much selection? My small town library has a limited selection I suppose, but I have not problem getting whatever I want to read by making requests. It does take a few days for the book to arrive from other libraries in the system but it works fine for me. I usually make the requests online right from home. My problem with library books is getting them read before I have to return them!

Lav, I think it's human nature to long for things, don't you? The 'things' don't have to be material things tho and it's too bad that YB has put the natural longing/wanting we all feel toward material things. I think we on this thread satisfy that longing in other ways, such as new hobbies, reading, new ideas, meeting new people, going new places, etc. Too bad he can't seem to do that.

We had our special activities yesterday so today will be just another day here. Thank goodness! Have a good af Monday everyone.

[paulywogg]

Morning friends, too true Lav,after I posted that I thought man,that's TMI but it was just bugging me and don't use the family computer for your shenanigans, men can be so draft,for some stupid reason my shop is open today,its always open I hafta work and probably do 5 haircuts,get mad that I went in,whatever, went to Buca do Beppo yesterday, any body ever gone? Bobbi's bf's mom invited us and I've never been before,sheesh talk about massive quantities of food! Did I control myself? No! But we did have great convo,everyone was drinking water so no issues with AL,Louie was a complete gentleman and ate his spaghetti surprisingly, I absolutely need to get to the chiropractor ASAP, my neck is in pain,in my x-rays I've got a c-shaped spine in the neck area from a frontal view,its been acting up so I'll probably go tomorrow, hello Cyn,Star and Dill,have a nice Memorial day

[paulywogg]

X-post Dill,I dunno how I feel about it,Ido think its destructive but men are always gonna be in to it,so im just burying my head back in the sand,too much wasted anger if I dwell,try Thriftbooks you guys,cheap and if I order $11dollars worth its free shipping,the only problem is after I'm done but I can donate them

[little beagle]

It was a busy weekend for me. Lots of work. I fitting in two extra jobs. Possibly three this week. I'm so glad I don't have to worry about a hangover with this schedule.

[paulywogg]

At least you're keeping busy LB,keeps us out of trouble how's everything else going? Not to be nosy but I was wondering how things are with your hubs,is he still away? It was heartbreaking to read about that awhile back but you handled it with your head up and stayed sober through it all,dunno how I'd react,grrr,don't wanna think about it,hope your nights going well

[SnoopyC]

Good morning...

Dill, the library here has few books, but access to lots, you just have to know what you want. I used to browse at my previous library, till I found something that looked interesting to me. Finding books that I want to read and then having to order them, then go pick them up. Working full time, it makes it difficult for me to make two trips to get books. I have been ordering alot online, so I am reading, but it is hit or miss alot of times. We had perfect weather, very dry here, we could use some rain.

Lav, I don't get this desire for more more more. Then, you are never happy with what you have, and that is the secret to happiness right? Being happy with what you have.

Pauly, glad you had a nice dinner out, sounds fun.

LB, you sound really busy, what kind of jobs do you do? Hope you are doing well.

Cyn, I was in New England one summer without air conditioning and it was really stressful, hot and sweaty. Yay for the cooler weather!

Short week this week, good for all of us who have to work. Have a good one.

[dill]

Hello Friends,

Star, loving some cool weather this morning here, too. Yesterday was warm but pleasant if you were sitting in the shade. We ended up having a little company which was nice. I made New England Clam Chowder in the crockpot because I had a hankering for it. In spite of it being hot soup on a warm day, everyone seemed to really enjoy it. We also had burger and brats on the grill. Odd combination, but oh well! I've been making slow progress in The Source but it is definitely a book I will enjoy and savor. I like books that entertain and educate if they are well done. I suppose that is why I am so drawn to historical fiction.

Pauly, when does Brady go? I don't think you told us when and for how long. You will need extra support during that time so I hope you can stick close to the forum. Do you have anybody in your real world that you can talk to when you are feeling cravings? I don't and it's made my journey so much more difficult! When I was still working I had one friend I could talk to about it bc she was trying to quit too. She was actually much worse along than I was and I'm afraid she wasn't much help. She often called me in the afternoons/evenings after work and would just blubber to me about how sad she was. I don't know if she remembers doing that. I doubt it. She is the one I passed my hypnosis CD's on to, thinking I was done with them. I regretted that and asked her once if I could have them back for a bit. Well, she couldn't find them. Her life chaos.

LB, you sound very busy. I'm with Star on being curious about what type of jobs you do. I used to do speech therapy but I retired 3 years ago. I miss working with the children but I miss absolutely nothing else about it! LOL. I'm so busy in my retirement that I don't know how I ever found the time to work!

Hello dear Cyn, I saw a good show last night on netflix: historical drama about Mary, Queen of Scotts. I know it's silly but I don't remember the name of it. I am only halfway thru it so when I watch the second part I will make not of the name and tell it to you if you are interested. Did you see Mars last night? It is supposed to be visible just this week. I think I saw it last night but I'm not sure. I saw a big star in the northwestern sky that was orange. I bet that was it!

Hello Lav, what's cookin' for today?

Let's all have a good af Tuesday!

[paulywogg]

Morning friends,Dill,your dinner sounded good,although odd haha,Brady leaves the 14th,he says he's only staying a week but the whole point I'd Bobbi's bf's mom has work for.him on her property,I'm thinking she's thinking longer,I think she'll get irritated if he leaves after a week since she bought the ticket,I'll be on here a lot when he leaves,even though its dead,I have nobody in real life to call,I can talk to my coworker about it and she understands cuz she's one of us but after we leave work she's pretty much unavailable, I'll bet your friend never even popped one of those CD's in,I know the addict mind and if still actively drinking a lot,no ones gonna mess with help CD's or books,in the rational recovery book he says right off the bat if you've drank today put this book down and come back when you are sober,today is Kells hypnosis appt,I hope,hope,hope she gets something out of it,I was reading last Junes thread yesterday cuz I was bored and just poking around, Michelle had said she heard voices last year,it had to be the comedown off of some drug cuz she never said anything else about it,anyway, hello Lav,Star,Cyn,LB,Eloise hope we all have a terrific Tuesday

[Lavande]

Good morning friends!

Not too much on my day plan, yet! We all know how that can change in the spur of a moment. For now it's a trip to Curves & a stop at the supermarket.

LB, are you dealing with super duper heat as I imagine you are? I am such a wimp, can't deal with the heat & humidity. My daughter wants to plan a trip to the beach for a few nights so I'll have to look into that.

Star, YB's never ending desire for 'more' comes directly from his parents, especially his mother. She was the same way, she was never happy either. You just can't talk sense with people who are so ego driven.

Pauly, as much as I love Italian style food I just can't eat it anymore because of all the cheese, ugh. I have been successful making some dairy free versions at home
I want to see you put a plan together to keep yourself happy, healthy & busy while Brady is away. Do something good for YOURSELF. Don't worry about the boy or the husband, focus on yourself, OK?

Dill, I'm going easy in the kitchen today, ha ha. I grilled up 2.5 lbs of chicken tenders yesterday. We had big dinner salads yesterday. Today I will be putting together a big pot of chicken fried rice (think leftovers), Lol
Glad to hear you are having cooler weather, hope it gets here tomorrow.

Cyn, I hope you are not overdoing & wearing yourself out!

Have a great AF day everyone!

Lav

[treegirl]

Hi guys-just a quick hello. Last full day of our VIP guest, who is sweet and fun and handling all this heat with great generosity, even though she is used to life with all the comforts. Dinner party for 6 tonight - hopefully I'll find some cool place to feed them - not sure the porch will do; I bought a banquet table in case I have to set up downstairs where it stays cooler.

I'm tired, and really need some time off of this craziness -- but that will happen sometime tomorrow, so I just have to hang in there --- thank goodness for the AF life!!!!

Good luck to all - LB, take care with all those jobs. I hope everyone has a good start to the work week -- Cheers --