Simple September

[SnoopyC]

Good morning...

Yay it is Saturday! Went out to eat last night, watched a little TV, then hot tub. I was tired, it was a busy week. I am going to exercise at home this morning, clean, then make a list of food to get and go shopping. Finally after all that rest, or go shopping or if it clears up go to a festival in the city. It has been raining off and on since yesterday afternoon, so we'll have to see.

Cyn, busy busy, Take care and have fun in the city.

Pauly, sometimes doctors just don't listen. The last one I went to did, and it made all the difference. Wish you could find that, a doctor who listens to you.

Lav, good idea to distract yourself, your DIL is out of control, and you are the victim this time. I wonder how she manages to keep a job. Sorry, I just feel angry thinking of your being treated abusively and then given the silent treatment. Hope your Saturday is good, how is YB doing this fall being retired? Is he enjoying it?

Shout out to Dill.

Have a great AF Saturday.

[SnoopyC]

Pauly, the coffee I mentioned is Michigan Cherry coffee, bought at a grocery store in bean form. I am crazy about it. They offer blueberry crumble coffee, carmel coffee, etc., too. I just like the Cherry, too much.

[dill]

Hello All, I'm just popping on to say a quick hello. I did my volunteering yesterday and all went well. Today the grandkids. I have a bunch to do before we go get them.

Moon set is beautiful this morning!

Cyn, Star, Pauly, have a great, self aware, AF Saturday!

[paulywogg]

Morning friends, having a hard time finding my grateful head this morning I hate when that happens, just gotta take it slow and focus nothing I guess, lots of small things like the stuff with Kell, Michelle and her bf asking if they can stay here...hell no! Trip we're trying to take around the first, I'm sorta worried about the car breaking down and being stranded in the middle of nowhere, works been yucky just the issues I talked about the other day, meh,I'm just gonna detach my new phrase is"if they don't care,why should I?" ButI do and iit's bugging me, I need positive thoughts thrown my way please, maybe it's the shorter days too,I have to turn on the living room lamp at like 6 pm crazy, anyway, everyone sounds great I hope we all have a wonderful AF Saturday

[Lavande]

Good evening friends,

Today just flew by!
Daughter & family came over & didn't leave until 9:30 but it was nice
Our son-in-law helped YB finish up the biggest part of the greenhouse. Now YB can hang the doors & get the benches put together for the plants - yay!
We are expecting rain for the next two days so maybe it's time to take a break anyway.

Star, YB is always happiest when he is busy doing something - keeps him from living in his head, if you know what I mean.
Your coffee sounds good, maybe I can find some.

Dill, I hope you have a good weekend with the kids!

Pauly, you seem to be creating more anxiety than you need!!! Goodness!!! Let's take some deep breaths & try to relax.
Why does your daughter & bf want to stay with you? Are they looking to move in permanently or is this a temporary thing?
Is there anyway you would consider renting a car for your trip? A lot of people do that so they don't have to worry about breakdowns on the road. Maybe a road trip & time away from those nasty people at work would be the best medicine for you

Hello to Cyn, busy as you are!!

I enjoyed time with my granddaughter today but I am missing my grandsons & don't know when I'll see them. Nothing has been resolved, nothing I can do about this situation either. One thing I can do is stay positive, that's my plan.
Wishing everyone a peaceful night.

Lav

[SnoopyC]

Good morning all...

It really feels like fall early this morning, a little cooler, loud cricket noises, certain smells...

Saturday was a good day for me, decided to go to a community yoga class and it was fun. The rain ended by early afternoon and I got my shopping done, watched a few hallmark movies (they are feelgood) and then went out and bought some makeup refills and a new fall top. The mall was a madhouse, it was fun to people watch. Sandwiches at home, Notre Dame Game, then hot tub. I slept really well. I am staying close to home and have almost a month AF, this time feels forever, I just am not going back, ever. When I drink my life is not worth much, feeling sick, blacking out, guilt, shame, remorse, not worth it. AF, peaceful, get things done, reading, exercise, gratitude, lots of self-care. Moving forward.

Lav, my heart goes out to you, hope the situation gets resolved. You can be sure the grandsons are asking about you, good you have your daughter around. Your greenhouse sounds very cool, can you take pictures when it is done? We are enjoying our backyard so much, it is so worth the money. I realize that home improvements are worth alot because we are home most of the time, so get to enjoy. A trip is great, but will be over, but a home improvement is the gift that keeps on giving. How cool to have plants in the winter...I would love it.

Dill, the weather here is just gorgeous, early fall is the best time of the year in some ways. Have fun with the grandkids.

Pauly, a getaway for you and hubby sounds like just what the doctor ordered. It can really help to gain some perspective away from home. How is your husband feeling about your AF time, this time? My husband told me last night that he loves living this way so much better and does not want to drink again. So great to hear that and be on the same mindset. Is your other daughter moving back to the area? Or just visiting? Hope your Sunday is relaxing.

Cyn, having a good time in the city I hope.

Looking forward to a lovely Sunday. Have a good AF day.

[paulywogg]

Morning friends, Star,I have 3 daughters so I can see it getting confusing who I'm posting about Michelle is the oldest and a chain weed smoker so doesn't have a full time job,it's her and her bf that want to stay here,no! I don't want 2 people laying around smoking weed all day in my house, Kells Louies mom and Bobbi is the Portland daughter and then there's just Brady haha,hubs never really talks about drinking, mine or anybody's when I'm not drinking, he only brings it up if I'm actively doing it,then he gets pissed,I feel better today about stuff, just trying to block it out the best I can,I feel like I just wish I would have guided these kids better instead of being stuck in myown bullshit drinking selfish time,meh,Lav,maybe you should give your son a call? It's bugging me now haha,not much planned for today, groceries is all,hubs is on call so he'll probably work most of the day,have Louie later that's about it, hello to Cyn and Dill,hope we all have a wonderful AF Sunday

[dill]

Hello All, grandkids still here so only a minute to pop on.

Cyn, that show you mentioned about the magician sounds pretty good. I'll check it out. Did you happen to watch the Masterpiece Classic last Sunday called Churchill's Secret. It was really interesting and well done. It focused on a brief period in Churchill's life when he suffered a stroke and went thru rehab without ever letting the public know! That could not happen today, that's for sure!

Pauly, I'm with you on saying no. Who needs the aggravation?! Sorry you are having a hard time getting on a positive keel. I'm actually having the same thing here. Sometimes it all just gets too much. But, let's focus on whatever positives we can find and move on. This too shall pass.

Star, I'm glad to hear you hb is of the same mindset re:drinking as you are. I remember when we first came on here that drinking was part of what you and he did. I think it is your influence that has brought him over to the light.

Lav, I don't envy your son. He is in a very precarious position I should think. I hope you DIL comes around and apologizes for her behavior toward you and then maturely tries to talk things out. I know it's a slim hope! LOL Hang in there.

Ok, gotta go! Have a peacefully af Sunday everyone!

[treegirl]

Hi all -

Sorry to miss posting yesterday --- I ran around like a crazy woman, getting all errands run and things accomplished before going to the train in the afternoon. HB and I had a nice time together in the evening in NYC - we went out to eat and right then back to his miniscule apartment; I was so tired from awakening early on Sat morning, that I went to sleep at 9 PM -What a fun date I turned out to be! Today we decided to go up to the Museum of Natural History where neither of us have ever been. We saw an IMAX presentation on Dark Matter, the solar system and all the stars - holy cow was that amazing! Then we visited a street fair (I got a broiled plantain with queso fresco and corn arepas - yummy! It turned out to be hot and muggy though, so that was it for the day. I got on a late afternoon train and am finally home.

Good to hear from everybody -

Dill, it sounds like having the grandkids each weekend is kind of hard - you and Mr. Dill are so kind to step up. Good luck.

Pauly, I think that the change of seasons (even though your weather hasn't changed at all yet, I'm sure) can be a uncomfortable emotional time. I feel a little that way too - I'm going to start an early morning warm-water-and-lemon cleanse, I think. They say that the change of season is a time to do some flushing out. I'm glad that you are doing a trip - maybe Star's suggestion is good - it's hard to relax when you're worried about the car! Good luck with everything, and good job of just moving on with everything.

Lav - gosh I wish this situation would be resolved. I'm sure you are missing the boys and that they are missing you. Gracious - time for them to find 'higher ground'! Funny to hear about you turning the hose on the rooster! No wonder those poor cooped up chickens at the fair were so stressed out!

Star - I love to hear the strength and resolve in your voice, good for you. I'm also so glad that you are enjoying the landscaping and projects. I'm with you - I'd rather spend money on that stuff. But... HB has the travel bug big time, so I'm trying to do what I can by myself around here.

Wishing all a great Sunday night, and wonderful Monday --

[Lavande]

Good evening friends!

The end of the weekend is here, went fast!
I have a few greenhouse pics on my phone & put them on Facebook tonight. I'll get them on Photobucket so I can post them here - soon

Star, you do sound good so stay that way, ha ha! A positive attitude takes us far
I never, ever want to put myself in the position of having to start over!

Pauly, saying NO sometimes is necessary. They will figure it out at some point. I would not offer housing to my kid unless they were working & saving for their future. Take care of yourself now.

Dill, I watched the Masterpiece show about Churchill, it was interesting. I hope you have enjoyed your grandkid time this weekend.

Cyn, I can't go into an Imax theater again. The last time I did I can out dizzy & nauseous, ha ha. I apparently have motion problems. Glad you enjoyed the show.

No progress yet on the family issue & not holding my breath.
I know how my son processes information so giving him time & space is usually the best choice.

Wishing everyone peace tonight.
It has been a rather violent weekend across the country. Philly had many shootings this weekend including police officers wounded. I hate that damn city, glad we are no longer nearby.

Lav

[SnoopyC]

Good morning...

Pauly, I wouldn't let anybody in my house if they were smoking pot, I don't care if people do, but not on my property. Good idea to let her figure it out. Please don't blame yourself for actions of your adult children. They make their choices like we make ours. Pot is very addictive, some get caught up in it. Hope your Sunday was nice.

Cyn, what a great time in the city. How fun. It is hot here too. It is always great to get home after being away. I am feeling better and better, AF for me all the way.

Lav, I am determined to continue on this AF path. Period. Never a day one again. It is off the table and that is the difference this time. I am too old for that stuff, I want something so different for myself. Next, cutting out sugar. My arthritis has been getting worse and it has to be the ice cream I have been having a few times a week. Have you noticed that sugar increases inflammation? Painful. Focusing on salads for lunch and no desserts.

Dill, we had two little boys over yesterday and it was tough. Their parents were not watching them and I was doing everything I could to not have my house destroyed. Very stressful. I love having people over, but realize how hard it is on me. I had one heck of a nightmare last night and felt anxious for hours after they left. Hope things go better for you this fall. Hot weather in the forecast this next week. How is your son doing? My son has now worked three months, says he likes the job. He is still working on the health issues. Just want the best for him. Hope your son is doing well.

Monday again, let's make this a great week. AF all the way.

[dill]

Hello All,

Nice to start the day on a positive note, focusing on the positives of the AF life style. I love not spending half the day recovering from the night before. I love feeling more positive because I'm not being brought down by a depressant coursing through my body. I think of all the years I lived imprisoned in that cycle! No more!

Star, my son is just doing OK. Not really great. He is not working at the moment so living on his tiny disability check from his injuries in Iraq. He has PTSD which is a real problem for him. It's an invisible problem. He seems fine on the surface. But he is not. Thanks for asking. I am glad your son has been liking his job! Sorry about his health issues tho. I hope he finds some relief soon.

Pauly, I watched FTWD last night. It is much more interesting than it used to be but I find it hard to follow. They jump around too much and it is difficult to keep the characters and the story lines straight. Do you find that too? Mr. D is constantly stopping the DVR and asking me what's going on. I can usually explain to some degree, but I'm just saying, we both have a difficult time following it! Sad about what happened to Victor. Totally unexpected. Crazy lady! And now it looks like they may be bringing crazy Chris back into the mix!

Lav, New season of Poldark starts next Sunday with a two hour episode! Can't wait! I have a check up with the doc tomorrow with a bloodwork review. I'm going to talk to her about my should problem. I hope I can get her to order x-rays. This has been going on too long! It doesn't hurt chronically anymore, although there is a chronic dull ache. But when I move it my arm in certain ways there is a shooting pain that is unbearable.

Cyn, Wow, that Dark Matter sounds awesome! Hey, it seems to me you were in NYC when all those terror events were going on. What a scary world we now live in. Even a mall in the middle of Minnesota is not safe. Mr. D and I are driving up to northern Minnesota to pick up our camper. It was once a pretty reliably safe place to travel. But now we will have to be vigilant even there.

It's a quiet day for me today. Well needed! Let's all have a peaceful AF Monday.

[paulywogg]

Morning friends, I'm trying to find my positivity cuz I know if I don't the negative will fester and spiral before I can stop it,there's just sooo much going on right now, I mean most of its small things but it's just adding up,I'm ready to be left alone, Dill,I'm thinking the same as you, FTWD is all over the place but I'll probably keep watching haha,there's only 2 weeks left I think it said yesterday, that was quick, Star,you sound really good, I feel positive that I don't want to drink but I don't want to feel stressed out either I need to find a good way to unstress cuz al doesn't work anyways, I think hubs is right on when he calls me a drama queen, I do feel like I turn a tiny issue into a huge ordeal need to work on that too,hello Lav and Cyn,I hope we all have a great AF Monday

[treegirl]

Evening all -

Star - how right you are - never a Day 1 again! I'm so sorry that your guests were so inconsiderate -- some parents just don't get that their kids need to behave, at least when they're at someone else's house!! I'm sorry you got so stressed by the whole thing. I'm with you - any kind of entertaining is hard nowadays; maybe I just don't have the energy that I used to! Glad your son is liking his job - how did the health thing work out?

Dill- so sorry to hear about your son. It just makes my heart ache - he's in this position because he wanted to help our country, but the armed services seem to have failed him. War is terrible, and the repercussions are felt by a huge circle around every man and woman that serves. Sending you and your son special support thoughts.

Pauly - get those meditation/hypnosis CDs out, girl! It's the only way I can relax - I can't eat anything that helps, can't drink anything that helps, exercise is OK but not enough... but giving myself permission just to let my mind rest and feel how my body feels moment by moment has turned out to be a huge break for me. And now that I have done it enough, I know what to expect and it all works out. Good luck!

Lav - sounds like the greenhouse is special - can't wait to see the pics. I think maybe you are right about Philly - We have a dear friend whose mother (78 years old) was hit by a truck as she walked across the street with the green light, just minutes from her home. Her father had been killed by a burglar and her husband killed by a knife wound all in the last few years. Such terribly sad endings for lovely people. This woman was incredibly full of joy and life - I still can't believe she's gone.

Yes, I was in NY just when the blasts went off - but we were 30 blocks away and had no idea what was happening until we heard the news the next morning. Yes, Dill it is everywhere - little St Cloud, MN! So bucolic there. Ah well, it's a different world now.

So let's all decide to live each day to the fullest - get all your documents in order, then go out there and enjoy every moment of every day!!

[Lavande]

Good evening friends,

We had a rainy Monday here but I used it to my advantage. Did a little work, then took care of some personal stuff this morning. This afternoon I made a pot of veggie soup & some homemade dairy-free granola & I even found a loaf of dairy-free pepperoni bread in the freezer to go with the soup. Good day, ha ha!

Star, boy do I know what 2 little boys can do to a house. Sorry you had such rude visitors, I know the anguish.
I still haven't heard anything from my crew yet, ugh. Glad you are feeling determined, keep taking care of you.
I have been feeling a little arthritic lately, I think it's due to changing seasons, weather, etc. I really use little to no sugar in my daily life, I know sugar makes everything worse (including hot flashes for me). If you find you are having real sugar cravings try some L_Glutamine for a while. I did that when I first quit & it was helpful.

Dill, I am definitely looking forward to the Poldark series.
When you see your doc about your shoulder ask for a PT referral. I think it sounds like you may have a compressed nerve in there & PT can fix that most likely. I hope you get some relief soon.
I am sorry your son is having a hard time. Are there any VA services available for him? I sure hope so.

Pauly, I am going to search for some meditations for you so you can learn to center yourself. Honestly, the MWO CDs seriously helped me with all that & it has stuck with me all these years. I would gladly send them to you but the person I loaned them to just disappeared & I can't even remember her name. You are not a drama queen. I think you are a lot like me & feel things very deeply & we can get hurt easily :hug:

Cyn, this past weekend was just horrendous on Philly, multiple shootings & all kinds of mayhem. We stopped going into the city a long time ago, ugh.
I am glad you were not any closer than you were to the terror in NY. I don't know how our country is going to get a handle on all this ugliness. Grateful you are OK.

Wishing everyone a peaceful night!

Lav