Optimistic October - AF

[paulywogg]

Cyn,you must be a math wiz to do all those financial things yourself, I am self employed too but I just hand it over to the tax lady and have her deduct everything not glued down haha,I too use turmeric but it's in a capsule form,do you just use the spice? Made chicken noodle soup for dinner, Louie helped me with it plus he's helped with a lot of things today,carrying the paper towels out of the store,loading the groceries onto the conveyer haha,hea been a great helper today, hope everyone is having a nice evening

[Lavande]

Good evening friends!

Well, we just had to take a ride to go see our ailing daughter, glad we did.
I have a strong feeling she is going to end up having a surgical repair of these fractures. I would be more than happy to have her recuperate here since we have everything on one floor, unlike her house. But there's the problem with the granddaughter & school, I just don't know. I am trying not to over worry ahead of time. She will get a plan of care tomorrow.

Star, she was sent home from the ER with crutches & orders for no weight bearing. Makes life very difficult when the only bathroom is upstairs, geez.
She did take her state boards last Thursday & was told she would get her results in about 10 days.
Feeling fall-ish here today as well. The rain & wind moved out by midday, the skies cleared up for a very pretty sunset. Glad you are doing well.

Dill, brain fart days are typical, we all have them. I remember having no clue how to boil a pot of water once when I was pregnant, haha.
I have really had fewer days like that since I started the high dose B-12 supplement. We will never be able to think like a 20 year old again, we shouldn't beat ourselves up about it either. I am famous for my last minute packing!!!

Cyn, yesterday I found out my daughter has foot fractures, today I found out today that my 68 year old sister-in-law also has foot fractures! What the heck is going on? My foot still hurts off & on from my 2 year old stress fractures. Glad you are feeling perkier today!

Pauly, I love it when the kids joyfully jump in to help with something, ha ha! It's nice to see them happy

Well, I am keeping my fingers crossed for my poor ailing kid, will know more tomorrow.
Wishing everyone a peaceful night.

Lav

[SnoopyC]

Good morning...

Got up late today, watched the debate and stayed up late. So, no time to post. All is well, have a good one.

[paulywogg]

Morning friends, just a quickie from me too,I'm a bit worried cuz Kells'anxiety has come back again, her hormones I'm guessing, I dunno if she should try low dose birth control or what,she had that nuvaring thing but it was causing her massive headaches,we're trying to seek out a natural hormone helper any thoughts? Hope we all have a great Monday

[Lavande]

Good evening friends!

Drama update - my daughter saw the surgeon today & will be having surgery to fix her foot fractures on Wednesday morning. I am going out tomorrow to take her to the hospital for pre-admission testing. This whole thing is going to be rough in her but we will do our best.

Pauly, I'm sorry Kell is not feeling great. What has her doc said re anxiety treatment?
You know I like natural supplements but sometimes it's better to let nature fix things after a pregnancy. I hope she gets some solid & helpful medical advice.

Hello to Star. I watched that stupid debate too, ugh.

Greetings to Dill & Cyn.

I hope everyone has a peaceful night!
We have a possible freeze warning up tonight which seems odd because the AC was still on two days ago - weird!

Lav

[Snoopy56]

Good morning...

Hey, I had to reregister, create a new name, they do not make it easy on this site, for no reason.

Lav, so sorry for your daughter, she is very lucky you are there to help. What a great mother you are!!!!

Pauly, your daughter has been through a traumatic experience, I don't know if medications would be helpful, maybe counseling, grief counseling and CBT to learn coping skills to help manage anxiety? Community Mental Health Centers have sliding fee scales so everyone can afford it. It may take time to get in, just to let you know. I am so sorry for her, she is lucky to have you too.

Shout out to Dill and Cyn, have a wonderful AF day.

[treegirl]

Hi all -

Lav, what a trauma for your daughter! Wow, she is lucky to have you there - I'm sure it means a lot of driving for you. Sorry that it won't work for her to come and stay with you. Of course, this year your gdaughter's school is working out! Sorry to hear about your SIL - be careful yourself!

Dill, my moon friend - I thought of you yesterday in the late afternoon - I was lucky enough to catch a glimpse of the rising harvest moon - just a half-a-moon, but so huge and beautiful against the autumn blue sky.

Pauly - so sorry to hear about Kell - good luck, it must be hard to see her in distress. Glad though to hear the Louie was such a helper -- how nice! I hear you about taxes -- I keep the receipts for all the deductibles, believe me! It's the only way for us --

Star - Yes, right now I am wishing for a smaller yard! I am trying to decide how to deal with the leaves here; I usually pay $$$ to have them blown off into the woods, but it is not helping the woodland recovery, and I'm tired of seeing weeds in the lawn, so I'm seeing if I can mulch the bulk of the leaves and corral them on the parts of the lawn that I want to make into meadow gardens. We'll see!

Sorry not to post yesterday; HB was home, so we did many of the tasks that are hard for me alone - A/C units out, replace screen doors with glass, etc. I was pooped by the evening!

I hope that everyone has a great AF Tuesday - good luck with all of the stressors and worries out there. Remember to breathe!

[paulywogg]

Morning friends, Star,I wonder why you had to reregister,I always just stay logged in on my phone, Kell seemed better yesterday, she struggled with anxiety before the pregnancy which is why we were surprised when it magically went away during it,docs only want to prescribe an antidepressant to any female over the age of 12 that's why I HATE the generic "go see the doctor"answer, they don't know everything and are too prescription writing happy in my opinion, I believe that there's more natural ways to handle things, Lav,I wish your daughter speedy healing, such a bad time of year for this to have happened, it a gonna be cold,the holidays are coming, etc but I'm sure you'll all handle it well hello to Dill and Cyn hope everyone has a nice AF Tuesday

[treegirl]

Evening all -

Just doing an evening check-in, because I can!

Hope all is well tonight. Dill, are you OK? Probably overwhelmed by getting ready, and all the life issues you juggle. Wishing you well in all things...

Star - so sorry you had to change everything to get on the site! Thanks for the effort.

Pauly - we must have x-posted this morning! I hear you about the docs; good luck. So you are able to do MWO on your phone? I tried once, but nothing got posted. Hmmm.... operator error!

Lav - I hope that your daughter is doing OK - looking at surgery does not sound like fun. Sending best wishes.

[Lavande]

Good evening friends!

Long day but all good.
Got my daughter to the hospital for her pre-admission testing - no easy feat for her on crutches but it's done.
I left a roasted turkey breast in her fridge so they have something to munch on for a few days. She has to report in by 9:30 tomorrow morning, having pins inserted & the foot & leg casted. I ended up bringing my granddaughter home with me because they have no school tomorrow ( for some reason). I just may keep her a second night, she can miss a day of kindergarten I think. Her parents are going to need some quiet time I think.

Star, sorry you had trouble with the site - weird. Just glad you are here regardless.

Pauly, maybe your daughter might be interested in trying Amoryn. Get her to take a look at the website. It could be the answer for her.

Cyn, nice to see you twice in one day
I'm not going to worry about weeds & the thousand other things I was thinking about doing outside. I've got to focus on the people first, right?

Dill, hope you are OK & will check in soon.

Peace to all tonight!
Lav

[Snoopy56]

Wow, the site made me login, luckily I remembered the info from yesterday!

Pauly, my son is living in fear too, with anxiety, etc., I have directed him to a counseling place, but have had to detach and have limited contact with him because he sucks the spirit out of me with his emotional issues that I CANNOT SOLVE. There I said it. I have felt guilty and worried for years, and I just don't want to anymore. It doesn't help, I can't reason with him, I have supported him, I want peace. So, limited contact, I guess unless someone has other ideas? The Louise Hay site is offering her move for free in October off of FB and I watched most of it. I have read her books for years and she is very helpful with dealing with negativity of any type. Good healing stuff.

Lav, what a great mother you are, your daughter is so lucky to count on you and I know she will be glad to get it over with and start the healing. Lucky to have your granddaughter with you!

Cyn, so happy your hubby was home an able to help with the big stuff. We have found a guy who will take care of stuff like that if we need him too. My husband works so much I want to keep his home duties limited to yard work. It has really cooled off and I love it! We have been enjoying the moon too, from the hot tub! Fall is the best.

Dill, you are probably on your way to Minnesota, so hope you are having adventures!!!!

Feeling good physically the AF way, 52 days and going strong! Have a good one all.

[dill]

Hello friends, sorry for being away so long. I'm afraid posting will be spotty. Getting ready for the trip, having Mr. D's sister overnight the day before we left (she is house-sitting for us) all just proved to be too much, time-wise. We were on the road all day yesterday and will be today. I just have a minute to jump on here and thank you all for your concern and to tell you not to worry, I am just fine! I've been thinking of all of you. I will post when I get the chance. I hope to have some time for it soon.

Happy AF Hump Day everyone!

[treegirl]

Morning all -

Crisp autumn day here.

Dill, so glad to see you! I well realize how trying it is to get one's home ready for someone to come and stay there to take care of the dog. Exhausting, right? And then you have to get yourself ready! Sounds like you are on your way - I hope that you are seeing some beautiful colors. Wishing you safe travels.

Star - 54 days!! Wow that has gone fast - congrats, and so glad that you are feeling well. I'll check out the L Hay site - is she providing some forum other than FB? About your son; it sounds like you have made a good decision. I am always reminded of the airline attendant's saying "put on your own mask before assisting others". Good to take care of yourself first and foremost - that will benefit him in the long run. Good Luck!!

Pauly - how are things for you? I hope there is a cooler breeze coming in for you - I remember that October can still be a little warm...

Lav - you are the prize-winning caregiver (no surprise there). How on earth is your daughter going to cope with a bathroom up the stairs if she has a cast? Ah, the challenges life throws at us. I'm sure gdaughter is SO happy to have some time dedicated to her. Enjoy.

My client canceled yesterday, so I took the opportunity to do some work putting the front gardens to bed and working on the perimeter mess (dang raspberries and nettle -but i uncovered some lovely ferns, so that was a perk). I'm feeling all that activity this morning, ouch. Off to do a quick meditation and some stretching.

Wishing all a great Hump Day!

[Lavande]

Hello friends,

Almost 11 pm but I wanted to say hello & report everything went well for my daughter today. She was home before dinnertime & texting me
She was pleased to wake up & not find a huge, heavy cast after all but a new fiberglass splint - still awkward but not nearly as heavy. She was given an Rx for a 'knee scooter' which will help with mobility but the steps will still be an issue. She's a creative girl, she will figure this out.

Star, I am sure you are doing the right thing with your son. We love them & support them but if they are consuming ALL of the oxygen in the room then something has to give, right? Great job on your 52 AF days, yay!

Dill, wishing you a safe & fun journey

Cyn, the weather is nice & I actually feel like working outside a little. Little means just a bit, ha ha!
My granddaughter has been happy & is staying overnight again tonight. But I have to get her home tomorrow afternoon so she can return to school Friday & dance class Friday afternoon. She's been practicing her ballet moves, ha ha. Her mother went to a few ballet classes at that age & hated it, go figure.

Pauly, how are you?

Peace to everyone tonight!
Lav

[Snoopy56]

Good morning...

Dill, take care and have a great trip. Traveling is fun, but much work. It is really cooling off even more so I know Minnesota will be cooler too, pack some sweaters!!!!

Lav, upstairs bathrooms are one reason I prefer new houses, your daughter is a trooper. Fun with your granddaughter, she is having fun at Grandma's!!! Thanks for the support re: my son, love him, can't live his life for him. Very grateful he has his own place!

Cyn, what a lot of yard work, watch out for that darn poison ivy, it is out even in fall, that is when I caught it before. It's worth the hard work to get the yard looking nice. Thank you for the support re my son, I often think of that airplane example, and it is so true. Having firm boundaries seems cruel to some, but it is healthy on so many levels, we all have to learn to manage our emotions appropriately. I am very calm and peaceful about my AF days, it is the last time, I am never drinking again, I will die if I do. Having it off the table, completely and totally, both my husband and I, is working for me in a different way this time. And about time too. I just felt like an idiot, I know this, know it is deadly for me, have experienced negative outcomes again and again, what was I thinking? Feeling better and better, thinking of going on the Liver Cleansing Diet for a few months, did it in the past and felt great! We'll see. Regarding the You Can Heal Your Life movie offered for free, I bet you can go to the Louise Hay website and access it too. I fully believe in her stuff, having used it and continuing to focus on positive thoughts and know they create my life.

Pauly, hope you are doing well.

Have a great Thursday, AF and peaceful.