Happy New Year, 2017!!!!!!!!!!
Dill, you and I must have posted at the same time again, and I missed your post. You are in a really tough situation, the same thing happened to my good friend, with both her son and DIL having addiction issues and raising their grandson. The energy level to raise kids is just not there as we get older, so self-care is key. Do you have a support system in your area? It's not fair and it is so tough, we are here for you when you have time to post. It's OK to feel angry about it, and all the associated feelings of grief surrounding mental health and addiction. I got in an argument with my son yesterday, he was being very negative about many things, and I told him to leave my house, after asking him to knock it off. Then he kept calling me to apologize, kindof, and I would not answer the phone for hours, as I am just sick and tired of the drama. I realize this is not the same as your situation, but the inability to take responsibility for their own lives and figure things out is the same. It is wearing.
Lav, I saw the pic of your lasagna/pizza on FB and it looked delicious. I love tofu and have prepared it in the past. Last night I bought a pizza the stores were truly a madhouse. I waited in line for checkout for 25 minutes, could not get the fish as there were such crowds, and it was nuts. You were right and I was appreciative that you had warned me. I reread my journal for 2016 and realized it was a tough year in many ways, but also a good year too. Staying AF was easy last night, it is no longer in my radar to even drink ever again, but I am always watchful and on guard. When my son left in a huff my first thought was, I feel like drinking, but then I thought oh that would be really helpful, in a sarcastic way. So it was not going to happen. Reading my journal and reliving the agony I put myself though was therapeutic for me, I was in agony and will not let that happen again. Lavanitude right?
Pauly, so sorry you did not sleep well, that make it so hard to have a good day. Hope your NYE was peaceful.
Cyn, did you get any time to relax and have a little fun? Hope so, sounds like you were in a warmer climate and that is always good at this time of year. The yoga event yesterday with neon theme was so fun, it was challenging and exhausting, but energizing at the same time. I would definitely do it again ad plan to get into yoga more in the new year. I am thankful for your friendship and all the people on this thread too. No one knows how hard it is to be AF and the hardship involved in drinking in an unhealthy way unless they have been in it. The support and encouragement is so great.
Lizann, feel better you poor thing. Yuck, I hate the stomach flu the most. Hopefully it is over now and you feel better. Any plans for today? I am having family over, lots of food again, and then down with the Christmas tree tonight. Back to work on Tuesday.
Happy AF New Year!
Dill, you and I must have posted at the same time again, and I missed your post. You are in a really tough situation, the same thing happened to my good friend, with both her son and DIL having addiction issues and raising their grandson. The energy level to raise kids is just not there as we get older, so self-care is key. Do you have a support system in your area? It's not fair and it is so tough, we are here for you when you have time to post. It's OK to feel angry about it, and all the associated feelings of grief surrounding mental health and addiction. I got in an argument with my son yesterday, he was being very negative about many things, and I told him to leave my house, after asking him to knock it off. Then he kept calling me to apologize, kindof, and I would not answer the phone for hours, as I am just sick and tired of the drama. I realize this is not the same as your situation, but the inability to take responsibility for their own lives and figure things out is the same. It is wearing.
Lav, I saw the pic of your lasagna/pizza on FB and it looked delicious. I love tofu and have prepared it in the past. Last night I bought a pizza the stores were truly a madhouse. I waited in line for checkout for 25 minutes, could not get the fish as there were such crowds, and it was nuts. You were right and I was appreciative that you had warned me. I reread my journal for 2016 and realized it was a tough year in many ways, but also a good year too. Staying AF was easy last night, it is no longer in my radar to even drink ever again, but I am always watchful and on guard. When my son left in a huff my first thought was, I feel like drinking, but then I thought oh that would be really helpful, in a sarcastic way. So it was not going to happen. Reading my journal and reliving the agony I put myself though was therapeutic for me, I was in agony and will not let that happen again. Lavanitude right?
Pauly, so sorry you did not sleep well, that make it so hard to have a good day. Hope your NYE was peaceful.
Cyn, did you get any time to relax and have a little fun? Hope so, sounds like you were in a warmer climate and that is always good at this time of year. The yoga event yesterday with neon theme was so fun, it was challenging and exhausting, but energizing at the same time. I would definitely do it again ad plan to get into yoga more in the new year. I am thankful for your friendship and all the people on this thread too. No one knows how hard it is to be AF and the hardship involved in drinking in an unhealthy way unless they have been in it. The support and encouragement is so great.
Lizann, feel better you poor thing. Yuck, I hate the stomach flu the most. Hopefully it is over now and you feel better. Any plans for today? I am having family over, lots of food again, and then down with the Christmas tree tonight. Back to work on Tuesday.
Happy AF New Year!
just wishing us all a Happy New Year
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