January Jewel

[Lizann]

Star, good for you! I know it must be hard to detach but I think it's important for your health. There is only so much you can do and worry about it certainly won't help! Please tell me the chest pains went away! Take care of yourself. I used to get palpitations but I never had the chest pain.

Pauly, I hope Michelle comes to her senses with this guy. Good for her on the job. Does she regret the piercings at all?

My boss is quite upset about Ann's attendance as of late and will speak to her again tomorrow. Ann posted on fb that she still doesn't have water at home but she went to get her hair done. Really? This really is minor compared to what some of you are dealing with.

Hey, dill, Lav and Cyn, hope you're all doing ok.
Wishing you all a quiet AF Tuesday night.

[Lavande]

Greetings friends,

Well, I had a last minute visit from my son & grandsons for dinner this evening. First visit since Christmas so it was nice except the uoung one's behavior was as awful as ever. He doesn't seem to be making any progress & that's sad. His mother is the expert after all

The temp went above freezing today, yay! At least the chickens were willing to go out in their yard to play, ha ha!

Star, detach, detach, detach. You can't keep absorbing all of your son's drama without risking hurting yourself. Strengthen up those boundary lines & protect yourself, please :hug:

Dill, we found our credit union offers financial planning services (not free but extremely helpful). Ask yours if they have someone, I bet they do. Our guy travels around to many branches in the area, he's been great.

Pauly, the tattoos & piercings of the younger generation are a turn off for me. I just personally find it hard to take anyone seriously when they badically look ridiculous. I know many people don't agree & that's OK. I hope Michelle is OK & taking care of herself.

Liz, your co-worker could end up needing to look for a new job soon, geez. That behavior was never tolerated in the places I worked, never.

Hello to Cyn, hope you are well.

Have a peaceful night everyone!

Lav

[Snoopy56]

Hey all,

Thanks for the support. Another challenging day yesterday. Found out my son has to give 60 days notice to get out of his lease, so I signed a three month lease, more money of course. But, it gives me a reprieve with him in my house 24/7. So, he finally went to his place last night. What happened was my husband called him and told him it was time to stop grieving and start looking for a job. I think he may have yelled, I don't know, don't care, all I know is he was better at dinner last night and left. I fell asleep at 8:30, exhausted from all the drama. Just tired of the BS. Still lots to manage, but now that he went home, I have space and away from his negative energy. He applied for several jobs, so that is good. He has to work. Period. Shit happens, it is important to move on. I just cannot take him in my house. He is going to come over for dinner but then leave, and that is OK with me.

Liz, I hope your coworker is reprimanded. I see that at my job somewhat, a few call off frequently and the rest of us our left to fill in. That is the way it has been at most of my jobs. I try to help when I can, but you are in a situation that puts you under stress. Oh, and we have someone at work that leaves early for hair appointments and manicures, what the heck. And doctor's appointments. But, the manager should just say no, you can't leave. I am glad I am not a manager. I am too black and white.

Lav, awwww, how nice they came over. I bet your DIL misses all the babysitting you did. Your son too. I know you miss seeing them more regularly. My daughter started to judge me yesterday and I told her I was hanging up, then did and now she is saying I just hung up on her. I am fed up with this BS. I need PEACE. You can see where I was exhausted. Geez. You take care of yourself and live your own life. That is my goal today. Take care of myself.

Pauly, when all this life stuff hits, being AF is the best gift to give ourselves. Always and forever. I am coming up on five months, and I cannot imagine drinking now. If I did, it would be so bad at home, work, marriage, financial, just a disaster. Last night I needed extra sleep and went to bed early and feel better today. Will take vitamins, eat lightly, work hard at work, and make a good dinner. Hey, we started watching Orange is the New Black and it is soooo good. Binge watching at times. Have you seen taht show?

Dill, yes, the anxiety yesterday was horrible, centered in my chest, I had this happen when my son was in Junior High and the problems were getting worse. I knew it was not heart issues, but stress. At the time I was able to get medication to help when it was really bad. I could have used it yesterday. I forgot how extreme stress and anxiety can exhaust a person. My heart goes out to you with all you are taking care of and the lifestyle changes. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Hello to busy Cyn and have a good one all.

[Lizann]

Good morning all! Dog got me up early today so is figured I'd read a bit here. Wishing you all a happy uneventful hump day!

[treegirl]

Morning all -

Star and Dill, good luck handling all the stress! Star, sounds like some boundaries are getting set up, good for you. Pauly, that's a good recommendation for taking the magnesium.

Lav, sorry the little one is being out of control ... I bet a week with you would solve that! Oh well, as you said, she's the expert. Just so glad they came over.

Pauly, good luck to Michelle - I personally hope that she gets free of this guy. Good job setting those boundaries for yourself.

Liz - that's just ridiculous, this coworker leaving you to work alone -- nurses have so much responsibility! I hope the situation gets solved - the management are not taking good care of this situation, it looks like.

I looked out the window yesterday morning, and saw the western reflection of the sunrise, just gorgeous with snow, black tree limbs, and a painted sky. Now the snow is gone, oh well. Rain forecast for awhile.

I am done with my demon job as of yesterday evening... I calculated around sixty round trips on the stairs - down to the basement with boxes, up two flights to get more, down again. Thank goodness my knees are OK today! Well, off to get more jobs.

I am wishing all a happy hump day, and some ease in life. Take good care of yourselves when you can!

To the light ---

[paulywogg]

Morning friends, Cyn,,it really is a great mag for anxiety just thought I'd mention it, my house is so cluttered ATM! I am moving stuff around and more stuff keeps popping up,driving me nuts! So cute I found a teeny caterpillar out back and put it in a Tupperware for Louie, he takes it everywhere, calls it his friend,even had it watching the laptop with him haha! Star,glad you get some peace by having your son out into his own space again, sheesh,now your daughters acting up?! What is it with these kids,I always say when mine are driving me crazy that I shoulda just got dogs!much easier I think, I need to tap into Bradys Netflix so I can have more shows to watch like OITNB,only problem with that is I'll be watching it all the time,that's why I've hesitated,Lav,is the younger grandson hyper or what? I remember awhile ago one of them had an attitude with you can't remember which one it was awhile ago, waves to Dill and Liz,wishes for a peaceful, happy AF Wednesday (full moon tomorrow!)

[Lavande]

Good evening friends!

Hump day here & done already.
My ailing older dog had me up twice last night so I've been dragging my tail all day, oh well.

Geez Star, glad you finally got him out of the house. Adult kids are wonderful until they are having a bad day & find it necessary to turf it on you, ugh. Here's hoping he finds another job quickly. Remind him this is not the time to be too picky.
Keep taking care of yourself & feel free to help yourself to all the Lavan-ittude you need

Cyn, you are getting some awesome exercise doing all those steps & carrying boxes - wow!
The snow is gone here, we had rain overnight & it felt like spring all day - not complaining!!!!

Pauly, my grandson has more of a personality problem than anything I think. Of course I am not the expert - his mother is, ha ha!
This is a kid who needs a good deal of one on one attention & he does not get that from his expert mother. She claims she's been 'working with him' but we can't see any improvement. His behavior is just as annoying as ever. Personally, I think some good old fashioned limitations & discipline are in order. Positive reinforcements worked wonders with his father at that age. Punishment just seems to make them angry, they don't get why you are punishing them. If you reward him for good behaviors he's much easier to deal with in the long run.

Hello to Dill & Liz.

Have a peaceful night one & all.
Lav

[Snoopy56]

Woke up late so no time to post. Things are OK and work is busy. Support to everyone. Have a great AF Thursday.

[paulywogg]

Morning friends, guess my post will be short and sweet too and I'll just wish everyone a nice AF Thursday

[dill]

Sorry I was missing yesterday. Just life getting in the way. Actually posting will be difficult for the next couple of days bc daughter arrives in an hour's time! This morning I was up early making breakfast and getting the grandkids on the bus. Then took a dear friend to her oral surgery appointment. Poor thing had a major extraction and a bone graft. Yuck!

Star, I was watching BBC World News this morning. They did a brief segment about stress and heart attack/stroke. They said researchers have found that during stressful times there is a part of the brain that reacts by causing the body to produce more white blood cells. This apparently leads to blockages and clotting. Very important for us to try to dial back the stress response if we can! I think I am going to have to dust off my meditation CD's....oh, and find a CD player! LOL! Haven't used one of those in quite awhile now what with the ipod and other options.

Pauly, thanks so much for the heads up about the magnesium. I will look into that for sure! Funny about Louie and the caterpillar. Was it one of the black and brown striped wooly worms? We have been seeing a lot of those since the weather warmed up a bit. Granddaughter is keeping one in a box at the moment too! She loves her little critters.

Cyn, I got up very early and happened to glance out the window this morning and was treated to a view of the loveliest full moon! I paused and stared up at it for several seconds. I was glad to know it was still there! I haven't had time to be aware of things like that lately. I am glad you weren't sore from your up and down the stairs job!

Lav, my guess is that your grandson is perhaps going to grow up to be a lot like his mother. I know it isn't my place to say, but just thinking about her behavior as described by you. He sounds very similar. You've heard the saying, "The apple doesn't fall far from the tree"?

Hey Liz, Does your boss have access to Ann's facebook page? Unbelievable that she posted that she skipped out on work but was able to make it to a hair appointment! That kind of reminds me of that old tv show they used to have on showing dumb criminals caught in the act! LOL!

Have a lovely and peaceful AF Thursday everyone.

[Lavande]

Good evening friends!

Wow, did we ever have a mild day - it was 60 something out there - nice

Star & Pauly, I hope you both had a nice day. Same with you Cyn & Liz!

Dill, I saw the moon last night & thought, uh oh, there goes my sleep BUT I actually slept for 8 hrs! Unheard of for me, ha ha!
My grandson has definitely inherited his mother's drama gene. I see them both as egocentric & that's not good. There is absolutely nothing I can do about either of them but I will be sure to not let either one of them step over my boundary lines again, that's for sure.
I hope you have a fabulous visit with your daughter & grandson
Taking care of your friend was a very kind thing to do :hug:

Have peaceful night everyone & I hope we all get 8 hrs of sleep, ha ha!
Lav

[Lizann]

Good evening!
Lav, it was warm here as well! I ran around without a jacket all day today! I love it. Took Lucy for a walk today, even though it's a bit muddy. She's good and tired now!

Busy day shopping and cooking. Bought a dress for my daughters wedding, which is September. I wasn't actually looking yet but just happened upon it. Glad that's taken care of. DH and my daughter love the dress and the color happens to match her color scheme. Couldn't have planned that better if I tried! Broiled some pork chops for dinner and they were so good! Tried a new marinade and it's a definite make again.

Well, tomorrow is my early day and I'm already not going to get 8 hours of sleep tonight.
Wishing you all a peaceful nights rest!

[Lizann]

Dill, yes my boss has access to fb. Ann has doctors notes to cover her absences. This last one she used an emergency vacation day. In her post she mentioned the burst pipe and the towels, but her hair looks fabulous. I am hoping she will be good for awhile now.

[Snoopy56]

Good morning all...

Slept pretty good last night, a full seven hours which is usually good for me. Grateful to have a three day weekend coming up. I want to attend yoga classes and have some alone time. Went to a neighborhood meeting last night, some people are really picky, I found it kind of irritating. The head lady or whatever her title is, was intense, to the point of rude, I thought. Now I know why I don't attend those things normally.

Dill, you are a busy lady, glad you saw the moon, this warmer weather is soft, kind of nice for January. Today, it is colder again, so I have to bundle up.

Lav, getting along with others is challenging. I was asking myself what I need right now and I came up with kindness, patience and generosity. I love people in my life, but some are really hard to get along with so lots of forgiveness and deep breathing is needed.

Lizann, hope your work situation settles down soon. Love that you found your dress for the wedding already, wonderful.

Pauly, hope things are going well for you, this is a boring time of year, almost half way through January.

Shout out to Cyn.

Yay, it is Friday!!!!!!

[treegirl]

Morning all -

Glad to hear that all made it through the full moon without too much trouble! Dill, I saw the moon rise the night before last, huge and beautiful. Glad that things have settled enough for you to 'see' beautiful things - so glad you were able to take a moment to enjoy. The meditation cds sound like a good idea. Star, I hope you get some peace this weekend, happy Friday. Sorry the neighborhood meeting wasn't pleasant; some times these people get power hungry, it's almost comical! Wishing you peace of mind. Pauly, good that you aren't finding any scorpions as you clean! I understand how things seem to multiply when you start to clear out - it's amazing, isn't it? Good for you for doing the work. Lav and Liz, we had an amazing January thaw, right? Now it seems that we'll get a little cold spell again. Lav, I hope Maxie is feeling better. I have had great success with the full moon and the dogs by completely covering the dog room windows so that no light gets in... they sleep right through a full moon now! Liz, so happy to hear that you found a dress already, that's a real bonus!

Off to find more clients... I am doing another presentation next weekend (21st), so I'm trying to get all my materials and giveaways put together. I hope a good number show up again. In the meantime, time to light a fire under the people that I have. If I can't make this work, I'll have to make some major changes....

Wishing all well; enjoy the growing light. I'm thankful for this community...