W/c July 2

[Mick]

Oops. .please see end of last weekz Fred. .I forgot ������������

[paulywogg]

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Mae everybody, SF,sounds like nobody's listening to you and what you want to do,,very frustrating! I think better to not go than to be in a pissy mood the whole time, Mick sounds like you're enjoying yourself Det,how'd it go?much love to all will be back,wishing us all a happy AF Sunday

[porqoui]

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MAE ALL...

SF...I could sure feel your frustration in your post. :goodjob: on not drinking! Made him take the suitcase back. :lmao2: Vent anytime!

Mick...you're forgiven. We'll just wait till you get back for the pics. Enjoy yourselves.

Pauly...has it cooled down yet? I hear marijuana is now legal in your state. Just what Vegas needs, booze and pot!

Shout out to Lav, Snoop, Pi, Det, Sam, TT and anyone else lurking.

Will head over to water the garden later and other than that I have no plans. Hope we all have a Super Sober Sunday....:smile:PPQP

[paulywogg]

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Don't forget the legal brothels PQ haha

[porqoui]

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Don't forget the legal brothels PQ haha

:harhar:

[Determinator]

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Hiya ABers, oh my what an experience. I got my treatment yesterday afternoon and still quite groggy.
It's NOT for the faint of heart lets say. Just laying down a lot as I reenter reality here.
I'll post more when I get my stamina back but I'm home, AF and ok thankfully.

Sunflower, happy belated birthday.

Mick, have fun mate.

be well loves

[Lavande]

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Good evening Abbers

Mick, I think you are doing a pretty good job from your phone, it's not easy! Enjoy the rest of your trip!

SF, oh my! Reading your post gave me chills, I understand all of it, believe me. Just last night I posted my shitty anniversary history on the other monthly thread & how a MAJOR 25th anniversary disappointment led me into my troubled drinking years, Please don't go there, you already know it won't help. I ended up hurting myself pretty badly drinking AT my clueless spouse. You deserve to do whatever you want to do, remember that :hug: Happy belated birthday to you!

Pauly, I really think there is just too much sin in sin city for me - I am way too old for all that, ha ha!

PQ, we keep getting thunder storms so we don't have to do too much watering......almost a blessing I guess. The humidity is gross though, ugh.
I hope you are doing well.

Det, I was worried about you & that treatment - glad to see you checking in with us. Take good care :hug:

Hello to the rest of the crew & wishing everyone a peaceful night!
Lav

[TheSunFlower97]

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Lav-I just read through your story and you certainly have been through a lot. I can see where this would lead to drinking, but since I have been down that road its really not an option. Plus, I am a much more effective at putting my foot down sober. I know too many times in the past it was easy for me to let things slide because I was drinking. Then for special events as long as booze was around I was pretty content to just get drunk. Now that whole tide is turning and it is not ok to be a shithead. Not on my birthday or when you plan vacations that cost thousands of dollars. And it is not ok to teach my boys to be shitheads. His behavior really changed when it became him making the bulk of the money. I'm just done with it. I need to just shut off the valve that gives a shit when it comes to him. I will never cancel plans with friends, because he wants me to. I will not be guilted into this "mommy crap". Quite frankly, with this last go around I have absolutely no expectations when it comes to him. Can't let me down, when I didn't expect crap to begin with. We've been living separate lives for the most part and that will continue---and may expand into me leaving. Right now we would have to sell the house and uproot the boys from the schools they are attending. There are still things that we need to get them to and from. Honestly, its just easier to live in the same house for now.

I did cancel the October trip. My intention to re-book it for another week and go off by myself. I would make it a "girls trip", but I really don't want to deal with everyone wanting to do something different at different times. Those things sound all fun and they can be. But I want to be on my own time, do things when I want and go where I want.

Sorry its all about me. Worked late and wrapping the night up. Catch up over the next few days.

[Mick]

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Morning all. .yet again from sunnysville hope we are all doing OK. ....we are going into Los Cristiano today for a bimble around so will take some pics when we're out..in the meantime. .are you all over there ready for your 4th of July thingy....remind me again what that's about..number 45....ha
Brews all round....interesting thread sf..love to reply but it would take ages on here. ..in the main I agree though. .haven't read yours though lav but I will in the meantime have a great day folks

[paulywogg]

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Mae everybody, Mick I look forward to see in the pics SF,I completely spaced wishing you a Happy belated birthday yesterday,sounds like you do have a strong grip on the situation and know that drinking would only loosen that grip,Det,hope you're feeling better today,I read that's why people hafta have that done under a doctor cuz it makes you spacey,Lav,yep too much for one place thats why I go to work and home,that's also why I never wanted to effin live here in the first damn place but we needed money,still need money so here I am,hubs has bad stomach flu or ate something off,he's been on his chair all day yesterday except for bathroom trips hope I dont get it! PQ,hope you have a nice day much love to all and I hope everyone enjoys their day AF of course!

[Samstone]

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happy pre forth!

looking like a hot day ahead. thinking of a motorcycle putt putt around, maybe up to the Skyline Drive. I need to pick up my "old man" park pass. They cost $10.00 for senior citizens for lifetime pass to national parks, after October they go up to $180.00, course that is if there are any national parks left.

be well good friends
Sam

[paulywogg]

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Have fun Sam

[Determinator]

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Heya ABerooos,

back in one piece again, wow that was way too intense. I won't do that again unless my doc can adjust my dosage. I literally had no idea if my eyes
were open or shut, where I was, who I was, what year/century it was. very difficult to describe. Thankfully I feel ok and will monitor myself over the next
few days as my subconscious falls back into place.

Sam, a motorbike cruise sounds grand.

SF, I'm the same way... when drinking I just don't stand up for myself. Has to do with the nasty guilt complex and feeling unworthy. Screw that. We all deserve to be healthy and happy.

Lav, Canadian geese are indeed crapping machines too! we have loads of them here.

well, just back from the lake and no pelicans yet...the hunt continues.

you won't believe what i found at the market:



no, I didn't get any. But i got a smaller icecream that seemed less creepy
now I must repent and exercise tomorrow for sure.

Anyone out to see fireworks tomorrow? if I'm feeling energetic i might drive to a location to do
firework pictures.

anyhow, holiday weekend etc and zero thought of AL which is very good. Waiting to hear if my therapy group
is meeting tomorrow.

be well loves

[Lavande]

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Good evening Abbers,

Det. Twinkie ice cream? Eeeewww, ha ha! Glad you didn't buy that nasty looking stuff.
Glad you are feeling more like yourself today. Please don't rush into any more treatments like that.....sounds super scary to me. I hope your group can BBQ a burger or something, that would be nice.

SF, I really, really had no choice but to lower my expectations where the other one is concerned. I was like you, damn tired of being disappointed over & over. Fairness, understanding & empathy were never part of his persona apparently. You know what you want & you're a smart girl. I made my choice to stay put not knowing if anything would get better or even improve & I paid dearly for that choice. I don't think I would make that same choice if I had to do it all over again. I just know that keeping my focus on what makes ME happy & healthy has been a huge help in keeping me stable. We're here to listen

Sam, you old man, Lol
I sure hope our National Parks don't disappear. How sad would that be??

Hi there Pauly & everyone!

Mick, I am looking for a cake or something for you but in the meantime - HAPPY 5th AF Anniversary :yay:

Be well everyone!

Lav

[porqoui]

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MAE ALL...

Just waiting for the thunder booms to start. We're supposed to be in the mid 80's all week. Spent the weekend watering the garden and putzing around. Back to the grind tomorrow.

Mick...hope you enjoyed bimbling around Los Cristiano!

Pauly...hope you don't catch whatever hubs has.

Sam...definitely sounds like it's worth the trip!

Det...wow, you be careful! Will have to do some more reading up on this.

Lav...yup, that's the ticket, do what's right for ourselves.

Haven't been sleeping great the past couple of days, money problems on the brain. Looking forward to heading to bed soon and reading. Another author that I won't be buying again. Hope we all have a peaceful evening....:smile:PPQP