Optimistic October

[Snoopy56]

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Good morning...

Had a rough day yesterday, but made it through OK. Plans with daughter fell through, went to lunch with my son, just had a cloud of depressing thoughts that were hard to shake. But I shook them eventually. It is supposed to get cooler and rain today, that will be nice. Have a good one.

[treegirl]

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Morning -
Star, so sorry that you had a hard day, darn. Keeping up a bright outlook when you've been sick is really hard. Sending you lots of loving light.

Pauly, hope that your work day went OK yesterday. I'm so impressed with you doing the hypnosis! Great job on that, you are a model! I need to get back to meditation again, it was so helpful when I did it regularly.

Lav, crazy weather! Loved the sound of your stew; I miss grains. I haven't heard back about the celiac test, we'll see. Your Monday plan sounds great; I actually ordered some clothes online last week - we'll see how that goes.

OK, signing off for now - will check in late tomorrow after I get home.

Peace today - hugs to you Star -

[paulywogg]

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Morning friends,Star,sorry your day was yucky yesterday,my mood was bad off and on too I'm going through something hormonal I think and I feel like it's making me a grump! This is TM I but we're all women here anyways but last month TOM lasted 10 days weird,then this month it's 10 days today overdue! I have an app on my phone that keeps track and it's usually spot on,this just makes me feel like crying really but I hafta keep my head up! It's just hard cuz crazy hormones make me feel crazy...Cyn,do you think you have Celiac's disease? It would explain a lot if you did from what I've read,Lav,that'll be a fun outing with your daughter,I love shopping wishing us all a nice AF Sunday

[Lavande]

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Good evening folks,

We had kind of a dark, dampish day today but I got out to meet my friend who will be heading back to sunny Florida soon. Her work brings her back to PA from time to time. It was nice to catch up!

Star, this changeable weather is getting on my nerves, honestly. I think I'm ready for the pre-winter air & sun to set in & just stay put for a while.
Sorry your plans with your daughter fell thru but you did get to go out with your son, nice.
I'm waiting to hera if my plans are still on for tomorrow, we'll see. I hope your day tomorrow is brighter!

Cyn, I'll be interested in hearing your test results too.
I've never been tested for Celiac but I have some of the symptoms & they happen to be identical to dairy intolerance symptoms
I think weight loss is more common in Celiacs & I do not have that problem. Until I got a real handle on my gut almost anything was giving me discomfort - even grains. That seems to have settled down now although I still cannot eat rye - weird. It will be good to know exactly what you are dealing with so you can gain the upper hand! Looks like the weather is clearing for this coming week, yay!

Pauly, what you described is very typical early perimenopause. I see it happening in my daughter now too.
Here - I borrowed this from WedMD
Women in perimenopause have at least some these symptoms: Hot flashes. Breast tenderness. Worse premenstrual syndrome. Lower sex drive. Fatigue. Irregular periods. Vaginal dryness; discomfort during sex. Urine leakage when coughing or sneezing. Urinary urgency (an urgent need to urinate more frequently). Mood swings. Trouble sleeping.
perimenopause - WebMD
Perimenopause: Symptoms, Treatments, Weight Gain, and More
I went thru all this too starting at age 40 & it goes on & on & on until ??? Then there are some women who experience practically no symptoms whatsoever. I definitely was not one of them, ha ha! Hang in there & just keep practicing really good self-care!

Have a nice night everyone!
Lav

[Snoopy56]

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Good morning...

Going off t exercise this morning, laundry, then as it is cool I am going to start cleaning out closets. Hope you all have a great AF Monday.

[paulywogg]

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Morning friends,Star come do my closets when you're done with yours I have one downstairs full of Lou's toys,mine is full of everything ugh just exhausting to even look at! Lav,it's not fair that women hafta go thru this crap it's uncomfortable and makes me feel like a grouchy old lady and in a way feels like a loss if that makes any sense,losing my youth or something and the transition should be a breeze if it's natural,not a torture,not whining just venting Cyn,hope your stay in the city was nice,I love ordering clothes online but dang sometimes when they come they look nothing like what I thought I bought,the material will be weird or the sizing sucks but then again sometimes they're better than what I wanted,wishing us all a nice AF Monday

[Lavande]

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Good evening friends!

I had a nice day out with my daughter, we hit a lot of stores at the outlet. Bought a lot of stuff, even some Christmas gifts

Star, we have a frost warning up for tonight so I guess the season has finally changed. I'll take it, ha ha!! I hope you had a good & productive day.

Pauly, do yourself a humongous favor & pick up a copy of Christiane Northrup's book 'The Wisdom of Menopause'. I finally read it after I was well into the process but I did get a lot of helpful info. I have loaned that book out over & over & it's now with my sister-in-law on the west coast.
Shifting your thinking helps quite a bit. Think in terms of the rest of your life without the monthly hassles, no pregnancy fears, etc. You are becoming the 'queen of your own life', Lol
Like I said last night not every woman has a hard time transitioning. It may not be as difficult as you think. Read the book & enjoy the Dr's wisdom

Cyn, I guess you will be dealing with frosty temps tonight as well. Hope you get home safely.

Have a cozy night everyone!
Lav

[treegirl]

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Evening all,

Star, you feeling any better? How's your head/heart? I hope that you are able to shake the blues... might just be the dark side of the moon; I hope it passes.

Pauly, the clothes package was in the mailbox when I got home, but I was too tired to open it up, and a little afraid, just for the reasons you said. I rarely buy clothing... for the last few years I didn't want to invest in anything because I thought I would soon get my weight back, but I've given up on that and now am buying a few things,.. it's agony! I hope that you feel better soon - change is hard to get used to, but dr Northrup's' book is good, you might find some new thoughts there. Good luck.

Lav, sounds like you scored a good day with your daughter - is she really already perimenopausal? Any plans for a sibling for granddaughter? I think I always had hormonal problems, infertility for one. I was so disappointed that I couldn't have kids, but my life has been full and good nonetheless. I haven't really have any GI symptoms until just recently, but I have been avoiding gluten and dairy for respiratory reasons for a long time. Maybe that has protected my gut...

The celiac test came back negative, for which I am grateful, but I know I still do better without gluten. But at least I don't have to be hyper-vigilant. But it doesn't really give any information about the weight loss, so another dead end. Oh well, some day it will get figured out...

In the meantime I am so glad to be home safe and sound. Worked all evening, and just climbed into bed with a hot water bottle. Yay. Sleep, without the noise of the city! Wishing all sweet dreams and a good day tomorrow -

[SKendall]

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Hi everyone. I haven't been posting because I am in a real slump. I feel hopeless and helpless re 45. I read a profile on Rex Tillerson in New Yorker magazine. I had some feelings that were ambivalent,
here Trump pulls him out of Exxon and in a few months is humiliating him. The article talks about his childhood in TX, picking cotton and far from the privileged childhood that 45 had. So far, so good. Did you know Exxon has never paid ANY US TAXES?? So Rex comes on board and virtually decimates the embassies who are now barely functioning and other countries don't have any negotiation capabilities with our embassies. Very few diplomats who haven't either been fired or just quit.

Then the Weinstein stories, I always felt that looking at this grotesque monster that he had to use his power to gain favorable relationships with females and the old casting couch routines. I had no idea of the depth of his assaults. The positive is that his own brother decided not to keep it a secret any more. This may help women in the industry and all industries who will now think twice before demeaning women.

Before this happened was the terrible storms and then the Vegas senseless shooting. Who walks among us for heaven's sake. I chose last year to not watch tv, because the noise is intrusive and like Snoop. I would like to put nails under the seats of the talking heads. Since winter is coming I have ordered it for Vivian. ATT&T has canceled 4 times installing the service. There is no other provider in this area and a monopoly is a dangerous thing. AT&T and TWC have bought up the other providers except Comcast and they don't serve this area.

I am dangerously close to this being one long moan and groan. The problem is an oil executive who has no history of government, same examples for many of the other cabinets.

Someone (Pauly?) mentioned a messy closet. I have many comforters and spare pillows i n mine and Vivian likes to go "swimming in my closet" lol.

Tomorrow will be a better day, I'm sure.

[Snoopy56]

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Good morning...

Starting out with a good cup of coffee.

Cyn, I am starting to pull out of my slump, getting sick really affected my mood, then once it started it just kept going. In a transitional period, I often feel lost, yet all I have to do is join something, apply for jobs, and I will immediately be busy and get to know people. Just not ready yet, not sure what I want to do. Hey, good to hear you don't have celiac. I agree that you can still be sensitive to gluten, and I wonder if you are not gaining as your diet is restrictive? It's easy to gain weight when you can have gluten, sugar, all the heavier foods.

Pauly, I struggled with symptoms too, still do, and sometimes it is scary getting older. I agree with Lav that it is nice to not have periods though, they always were a hard on me. But, I miss all my family who passed, it is a different life without them. Dr. Northrup's book is so helpful, I have bought a few of her other books and found that she knows what she is talking about. She had to recreate herself and did a good job.

Lav, so happy you had a great shopping day! Plus, good company. I have been thinking of Christmas too, and lucky you to get some things bought already. I love this weather, it has positively affected my mood.

Skendall, lots of negative things happening with 45, very scary. Again, I am avoiding the news, nothing I can do about anything right now. Lots of natural disasters don't help with the feelings of impending doom either. Sexual harrassment and assault is very upsetting, I cannot believe that women make excuses for the sexual assaulter in chief, 45. Until that is addressed, what does anything else matter? I don't think anything will really change. I did what I could do yesterday, cleaned out drawers and a few cabinets, closets for later in the week. It made me feel better to do what I could where I was.

Busy day today, remodeling a bathroom, so lots of workmen in and out, then driving to get my grandson for an overnight. Have a good one.

[paulywogg]

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Morning friends,Star glad your slump is on its way out! Cyn great you don't have Celiac's,hope your package turns out good Lav,thanks for the info again,sheesh research doesn't tell me much except basically"deal with it" I'm not going on birth control or antidepressants either like the articles suggest,having a fall allergy flare and dammit I forgot how torturous it is! Hubs has it too so we're sneezy twins,wishing us all a great AF Tuesday hi SK

[treegirl]

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Evening all -

SK, nice to hear from you. I truly get it, it does seem like some dark violent cloud is blocking out The Good. I am like you and only read the news so I can pick what to see when I think I can handle it. I do receive a few specific 'calls to action' that I try to do to stay active... it takes the sting out a little, but the state of our country and the world is pretty chaotic. Good luck taking care of yourself!

Star, I hope the path becomes clear for you soon! I remember in NYC in January of 2002, right after 9/11, tons of New Yorkers were out of work, and I was looking for a temp job -- anything! I ended up working Convention Services, checking people in, etc. So each day I made my way to the Javitz Center and did whatever they needed me to. One day I did nothing but hand out bags... but I was still grateful for the work. It was something to get me out of the house each day. I will always remember that time as interesting and fun. (And I got to walk around each of the convention's booths... fascinating.

Lav, hope this fresh crisp day has been good to you - I actually got some leaf work done today - a little bare grass and walkway was a great payoff.

Pauly, hope you are feeling a little bit better - these things sometimes come in cycles.

Well, off to try to get a few things done for clients... wishing all well for a sweet evening and happy Hump day tomorrow ---

[Lavande]

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Good Hump day eve everyone, ha ha!

Blessedly cool again today - this IS my time of year, oh yeah!!!!

Star, glad to see you feeling more like yourself. I hate being sick, that's for patients & other people, Lol
Enjoy your grandson time, it's precious! haven't seen mine for almost 3 weeks & there's no excuse for that except my son is avoiding us for some reason.

Cyn, glad you are back on your home turf & enjoying some outdoor time too.
Mothers & daughters seem to go thru change of life issues around the same age. I was just 40 when my symptoms started too. There are no more kids planned, my daughter is happy with just one. I thought that was weird but just one kid seems to work for them. My daughter is up to her eyeballs with her job & girl scout leader duties, gardening, dealing with aging in-laws, you name it

Pauly, as soon as the farmers finish clearing their fields around here my allergy symptoms will calm down. It's rough here in the Fall. They create so much dust cutting corn & hayfields it's unbelievable! Be sure you read some of Dr Northrups's books & look at her website too. Lots of good & helpful info there. We have to be proactive in doing all we can do to support ourselves during the transition to the next part of our lives. Sometimes it is actually helpful (definitely was in my case) to think about HRT when appropriate. There was very little choice for me in reality, I was practically disabled until I was put on HRT. Something to consider in the future anyway.

SK, I've been wondering about you, glad to see you.
The state of our union is upsetting, to say the least. I do watch the news to stay informed primarily because I do not like surprises. I purposely stay away from the news a day or two per week so I don't go on overload. I signed up for Daily Action texts many moons ago so I do makes calls, write letters & emails especially to our senators & reps here in PA but I have also called Paul Ryan's office & others. I have the Countable app that keeps me informed on what the idiots are voting on in Washington. I take a day 'off' if I feel anxious or start having nightmares ;( so you have plenty of company.
Having fun & distraction with your granddaughter is wonderful, enjoy!
We recently switched from cable to Direct TV (AT&T) to save a little money but I am not all that thrilled with it, ugh. All these companies promise you the best & then raise their prices whenever they feel like it, not good.

Have a nice night everyone!
Lav

[Snoopy56]

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Good morning...

Busy day yesterday, park, ice cream place and pumpkin patch! Kids are alot of fun. Another sunny coolish fall day, the best.

Pauly, sorry your allergies are bothering you, I have been taking benedryl at night, it helps.

Cyn, know you enjoyed your day outside. Thanks for sharing your past job experience, I will eventually figure something out.

Lav, love the fall, it is so beautiful outside. Sorry you haven't seen your grandsons. Lots of people only want one child, and if they are in daycare, they get lots of social interaction, I know you enjoy your granddaughter. 45 is now attacking more people, he is so crazy, wants to actually hurt the American people. Avoid the political news often to keep my sanity. Our bathroom project is moving along, tomorrow I will be in the house with the workers so will really get in and get those closets reorganized! It will be nice.

Have a good one.

[paulywogg]

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Morning friends,just a quick flyby to say hi and wishing us all a happy Wednesday