New Kid on Block needs support

[DaisyMarie]

Hello All. I posted yesterday on another forum, so this may be repetitive to some of you. I am a drinker! And I don't want to quit. But I'd love to learn how to drink (wine, my specialty) in moderation. I'm so glad I found this site and will read the MWO book and start taking Kudzu. I will also start to think about how MUCH wine I am drinking! I have driven drunk many times and last year, got into a car accident. I have 2 young daughters, so you'd think that fact would wake me up to my careless behavior -- doesn't seem to. I just go out, (or stay in) and drink away (always thinking - hA - I can handle this - no sweat!). A full bottle is easy for me to drink. I'm starting on getting the big bottles and going through quite a bit of it on the first night. I'm am so afraid of killing myself or someone else one of these days -- I've GOT to get a handle on this. I'm here for the help -- and I hope perhaps I can help someone else sometime. Thanks for listening - and the suggestions some of you have already sent my way. Last night, I had wine, but there's some left in the bottle this morning! YEA! I drank in moderation!:h

[betty boop]

New Kid on Block needs support

Hi Daisymarie & Welcome .....

My story is somewhere on the tell us your story part of the forum ....

Like you I was driving drunk, drinking more and more and got scared.

I cut down gradually over 2 months and then did 17 days af in january.

Since then I have never driven even after just one drink, and unless its a special family occasion I never drink before 7pm, and only buy the small bottles. I try to make 2-3 AF days every week.

That is far from perfection but compared to where I was last year then I call it moderation.

Hope that helps.

BB xx

[fsophiah]

New Kid on Block needs support

I think the line we wine lovers tread is a very fine one. It is easy to convince ourselves that it makes us sophisticated and worldly. And, for me, so difficult to give up. I find that medication helps me enormously. I took topamax last summer, and I thought it was wonderful, but the side effects were very troublesome to me. Now, I am taking naltrexone, and I'm happy with it so far. You have set out to change things, and that's the important step. Once, you've done that, you will probably keep at it and succeed. I also think that there is so much money to be made from a good, reliable craving drug that a new one is going to come along soon. Keep at it. We have a wonderful group of friends here.

[DaisyMarie]

New Kid on Block needs support

Thank you both for you replies. I am thankful to finally have the nerve to speak up about my concerns and fears. It's also SO VERY NICE to have others in the same situation - where we don't want to give up alcohol altogether, but definitely need to curb our appetites. Every day is a step at a time. I love the advice though - so keep it coming! I will be checking into this forum often, and I think it will help. Thank your for caring!

[Beaches]

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Welcome Daisy, glad you joined us.
Moderation means different things to all of us. But the common denominator is that it means that we all have cut back or are actively trying to cut back on drinking.
I graduated into the hard stuff when it got really bad for me and that's when I found my way here. I was scared for me, my children and my whole family. I didn't even recognize the person in the mirror, my behavior and HATED how I felt each morning.
Today I wake up feeling great, still have a few days here and there that remind me why I started moderating but find it so much easier to get back on track. I don't go for days or weeks anymore in a slump. I am taking the Kudzu, LGlut and Topamax right now and they all seem to be working very well together. Well actually I am waiting for my order of kudzu to get here because I ran out and I can tell the difference.
Good for you that you had some wine left over! I wish you the very best!!

[betty boop]

New Kid on Block needs support

Daisy just a quick word of warning, this place could easily become your new addiction LOL XX

[Saint Jude]

New Kid on Block needs support

Hi Daisy! Welcome aboard. Lots of great advise & support here. Keep reading & posting. Looking forward to getting to know ya!:welcome:
:l
Judie