After struggling back and forth with my BF for the last 6 months or so, I finally told him that it was over this weekend. I have had a relationship with him for the last 4 1/2 years and it's been really difficult most of time (bordering on abusive). When I really sat down about a month ago and made a list of the things that I liked about us being together and the things I didn't, the things I didn't outweighed the good things.
I basically was being taken advantage of. He has had no interest in having a partnership, It was all about what he could get.
I for some reason allowed myself to believe that things would change, they never did.
My ex promised me over and over that he would get his job back, and never did, even though he saw that I was struggling financially. If I wanted to sit down and discuss some solution to the problem he would leave the house or say that I was annoying him.
I now feel drained and resentful. when he left he said my attitude wouldn't change even if he got a job and started being responsible. I told him it's too late. I am too resentful and tired of this situation to try and save the relationship. He can live on his boat and turn into mister homeless for all I care.
He won't return the keys for my apartment, which means I have to change the locks. (Will do that tonight) and since he won't take his belongings (few) I'll have to get rid of them some how.
He is extremely skilled at manipulating me and other people, so I have to be really strong and not speak with him at all.
I am asking my friends at MWO to help me stay strong and say no, no way! hasta luego sinverguenza!
I need him out so I can really focus on becoming a healthy drinker. My xbf is such a big drinker with no interest in quitting or slowing down, but with lots of negative criticism towards drinkers.
Please help me keep my word and my foot down. This person must stay out of my life if I want to move to the next level.
Thank you all in advance for support and suggestions
Trixietrack~
I basically was being taken advantage of. He has had no interest in having a partnership, It was all about what he could get.
I for some reason allowed myself to believe that things would change, they never did.
My ex promised me over and over that he would get his job back, and never did, even though he saw that I was struggling financially. If I wanted to sit down and discuss some solution to the problem he would leave the house or say that I was annoying him.
I now feel drained and resentful. when he left he said my attitude wouldn't change even if he got a job and started being responsible. I told him it's too late. I am too resentful and tired of this situation to try and save the relationship. He can live on his boat and turn into mister homeless for all I care.
He won't return the keys for my apartment, which means I have to change the locks. (Will do that tonight) and since he won't take his belongings (few) I'll have to get rid of them some how.
He is extremely skilled at manipulating me and other people, so I have to be really strong and not speak with him at all.
I am asking my friends at MWO to help me stay strong and say no, no way! hasta luego sinverguenza!
I need him out so I can really focus on becoming a healthy drinker. My xbf is such a big drinker with no interest in quitting or slowing down, but with lots of negative criticism towards drinkers.
Please help me keep my word and my foot down. This person must stay out of my life if I want to move to the next level.
Thank you all in advance for support and suggestions
Trixietrack~
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