Mods Shout Out

[treeman]

Mods Shout Out

Sunday morning.........

A sticky day down here in the southeast. I will be trying to get some things done inside and out.

Just setting some small goals for today but will concentrate on doing them as best that I can.

Everyone have a happy day filled with smiles.............

[Ask For Help]

Mods Shout Out

The stormy weather has left the northeast and the birds are singing. I am dressed and plotting my 30-40 mile bike ride for today. Looking forward to dinner with an out of town friend. All is well here, except a very dear friend's mom is in final stages, in great pain. Very sad.

Hope everyone meets their goals today. Today marks 5 months of Modding for me. WOO HOO!

G

[treeman]

Mods Shout Out

Hey all of you MODS..........

Saturday morning in the southeast. I swam through the humidity to the curb for the morning paper.

Hope that everyone had a great friday night. I played albums and cds for my 8 yr old son last night: Tragically Hip, Stevie Ray Vaughn, Robert Cray, Clash, U2, Ziggy Marley.

Teaching him about good music..............imho

Painting the ceiling tonight, will be AF. 4 hrs per coat, 17' high, working on scaffolding. Even Michaelangelo kept promising the Pope that the Sistene Chapel would be completed one day.............

Moderating is fun because you can boss yourself around.

[betty boop]

Mods Shout Out

Treeman, how high are your ceilings????

I'm in a victorian house with 9' ceilings and they are bad enough .........

Be careful up those ladders ........

BB xx

[flyinhigh]

Mods Shout Out

Good morning

Hello modsters.....
I hope this finds you all doing well on this sunday morning.....how was everyone's weekend?
How did you all do with your goals?

I went out to dinner and had 2 with over a 3hour meal....and then came home and went to bed. I feel really good this morning and am looking forward to keeping up the good energy on this modding journey!!!

I hope the modster can be out and about more!

I am about to start my summer vaca and would love to connect with people who are doing this mod journey. Don't worry, I am not needy, but I do hope to connect with some of you!

xo
flyin'

[betty boop]

Mods Shout Out

Hi all ............

Feeling good here too, hangover free for 107 days now ..........

Welcome flyinghigh .........

BB xx

[Ask For Help]

Mods Shout Out

Sucessses and Thinking about my limits

Hi Flying, Treeman, BB and all modsters to come:
We're having a heat wave in the northeast this weekend, after it being 60 rainy and chilly all week, so it's sort of a "jolt of summer". Kind of a shock.

I had a great experience last night, but am also chewing on something that I think is OK, but I'm still not sure enough to put it down.

Great experience first: I went to a casual dinner party at a friend's house. This is a friend and her husband who drink infrequently and clearly have no issue with alcohol. So when I set my goals for modding, I said to myself "I'd like alcohol to have the same place in my life as it does for my friends David and Janet". So we had Gin and Tonics on the porch and I drank mine slowly and noticed and enjoyed that I was not finishing mine faster than everyone else (and anxiously waiting for refills to be offered as in the old days.) When refills were offered I was very content and said no thanks. This was just very very cool for me to be 100% enjoying the company, the conversation and the G+T, without focussing on getting more. It's exactly what I wanted when I started MWO and I feel I've gotten what I wanted. Just wanted to share that.

The thing I'm chewing on is that I have a goal of drinking only 3 night/week, and I had already had drinks (2 each night) 3 other nights this week. So whille I don't in any way feel like I'm on the path to ruin, and I'm quite sure I can get back to 3 days/week this week, I am finding I've lost my willpower for going AF in social situations llike this one. Is it OK to drink more than 3 nites/week as long as it's controlled and because of social invitations (rather than drinking at home alone?) I have to continue to noodle this one. I don't have the answer right now.

Thanks for listening though, and I'm open to your ideas.
AFH

[givingitago]

Mods Shout Out

I'm so glad to find this thread/ part of the site! I am new to the program and probably would have waited until my drinking problems became much worse if I thought abstinence was the only solution. I knew I needed to change so went to an AA meeting here and there over the years, but couldn't relate at all. The stories were so extreme and almost felt like one up manship on how far each had fallen. I am very glad it helped them of course.

I've been taking the supps, doing the tapes, some meditation and doing yoga/taking walks many times a week. Things are going well. I feel good. I believe I am very serious about change, but I don't know if I can do 30 days AF... I did 6 days AF and then drank at a dinner party and at the post dinner bar afterwards where the entire party went to from the restaurant. I probably drank more than I should have, but less that normal and nothing when I got home which is where I usually do the most damage. So though I know I am not doing the recommended 30 days AF as the book says, I am still feeling pretty good about the effort so far. I am not drinking alone/ at home (which is often when I drink the most as of late--just drown it all out), am changing my daily patterns, have really slowed my drinking pace, and plan to be AF most days. I realize I am just beginning so perhaps I am kidding myself, but so far so good.

One thing I did realize last night/ today is that I am really past the point in my life (I'm 35, single) where I enjoy the bar scene and that I need to really make an effort to adjust my social situations to support the things I most enjoy. (I felt obligated to go to the bar also b/c it was a birthday and it was a mutual friend of an ex-boyfriend and I think he no showed b/c I was going to be there.) If I hadn't gone to the bar which I didn't really overly enjoy, then it would have been easier for me to drink less and I would not have gotten home so late so I could have geasily otten up in time to make the early yoga class which I do really enjoy.

"Ask for Help"--I can't really help with your question as I'm too new. (Could be the slippery slope thing where subconsciously you start looking for or accepting more and more social invitations so you can have a reason to have drink and before you know it... But perhaps not. I'll read everyone's input eagerly.)

Is this the main moderator part of the site? (I understood from some of the responses that most Mods are using this monthly moderation one??) I am struggling with where is the best place on the site to focus. Are people using the Subscriber site (I subscribed to it, but have yet to figure it out)?
Thanks! GIG

[flyinhigh]

Mods Shout Out

hello gig, and welcome!!!!!

Modders write here and on the long-term modders threads. In general, you can find people giving mod advice there too. I am not a subscriber, but am seriously considering it. Sorry I can't help you there.

As to your advice for AFH, I agree.....it could be a slippery slope if you begin to rationalize your drinking. I think the plan is the best way to go to keep your willpower in check. I know you, AFH, have been modding longer than me, and maybe at some point in the mod trip you can reevaluate your goals and plan.
I would just be careful, and tread carefully!!!

Just my 2cents!!!

take care

[Finding My Self]

Mods Shout Out

Hello modders....

Just a wee report....modding ok here....still only want my 100ml of wine with soda, sometimes two of, but inevitably leave the second one half drunk! I am back to how I was years ago as in, when I have eaten I don't want anymore...tastes foul!

But tonight, went to my choir rehearsal and it was the conductor's 'special' birthday....and there was wine after.... I took the least 'full' plastic cup of white but had to have it 'neat'....! And it was horrible! (To me!) So strong! And the weird things was that after just 1cm of it sipped really slowly, I was yabbering away and feeling quite tipsy! Ugh! So I stopped and put the rest down.

Who'd've thort it!?!?!?

I am very lucky!

Hang in there everyone! And welcome to all the new modders...

Love FMS xx