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[boozehag]

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PS Akgirl
Sorry forgot to say well done on your progress so far - you are right to be proud of yourself and also the great contribution you are making on here. Keep up the good work. Oh god I sound like a teacher....or a nun or something
A gold star AK girl for effort and achievement ....
BH (no more)

[Carmac]

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Ak -

First of all - you are indeed doing well to cut back. As for modding or be totally AF?

Seems nothing in life is totally absolute. The real question is what works for us and what is healthy for us?

Overdoing anything (including chocolate....can you believe that!!) is not good. Being AF for a time can't be bad. Deciding you want to go on a wine tasting event with friends isn't bad either....if it doesn't lead to overindulgence. Knowing yourself...your goals...is what matters.

We're all unique and working through our own personal answers. Keep posting!

[DeeBee]

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AK, don't stress too much. It took me 3 months of modding before I tried my hand at the AF life and in a way I think it prepared me as i am on 28 days with no hic-ups so far.

So hang in there

[DeeBee]

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Hello modders,

Must go and play Moms Taxi so I'll check in later!

[Saint Jude]

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Hi Ya'll!

As far as the Mod vs AF question, for me... I guess I'm still such a child @ heart... if you tell me I "can't" have something... your dammed sure I'm gonna find a way to get it!

I think that's why Mods is the best option for me. The thought of going AF forever, just doesn't seem to be something I want to do at this point in my life. I admit it. I enjoy a cold beer after work, or especialy out on the river on a hot day, paddling.

Also, my Hubby likes to drink his beer, so it's around the house ...
And I work serving alcohol @ the restaurant. I mean it IS a fact of life...

I think moderation for so many things in life is key. Be it food, sex, spending $, even work...
I think that people with addictive personalities revert to childhood, in a lot of ways...
That's when we HAVE to be firm & VIGILANT with ourselves ... we have to be strict & be our own best friend/caretaker.

Someone I was talking to the other day, threw that AA phrase @ me, about alcohol being, "Cunning, baffling, & Powerful"
I had to bite my tongue, and not verse my opnion,...because I knew it could turn into an arguement...she's very into AA,...and it works for her, which is great.

But personally, I don't believe alcohol has the power to be "Cunning"... it Doesn't jump down my throat, or force me to buy it & drink it... THAT is something I DO MYSELF..NOTHING BAFFLING about it.

But I also have the power to listen to my CD's, take my subs, drink lots of water, and be responsible with myself.
I don't drink tequila anymore... That could be a big one for me!(although I don't wear too many clothes on the river! They just seem to "fall off" tequila or not... LOL)

Have a great day everybody.

:l

Off to paddle! It's beautiful outside!

[Bambi]

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Hi all...What wonderful information we have going on here today. I am a modester and have been for quite some time. I have also been known to do AF's stints and overindulge stints, yikes..!

Anyway, Mod's does work for me if I stick to the program and take my topa. I normally take 100mg but have been up to 200mg which does seem to work better for me as I tend to want to overindulge on 100mg. So my Fall goal is to dose back up to 200mg and stick to my mods program of not drinking at home and since I rarely go out that should be a very limited mods I think. I will start swallowing all those vitamins again too. They work much better inside my body then sitting on the shelf! Just got to get in that habit of taking them again.....

Enough about me! Have a Great day all!
Hugs, Bambi

ps....Great job on everyones AF success and Mod's success. Either choice this is a hard battle but we can win it!

[Saint Jude]

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Love the song...
But don't miss the taste...

[ame=

]YouTube - TEQUILA SUNRISE[/ame]

[ame=

]YouTube - Peaceful Easy Feeling Eagles[/ame]

Missing my tipi days...

[boozehag]

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Hi St Jude (the patron saint of hopeless cases I believe!)
Part of my reasoning for modding rather than AF'ing is similar to yours. If I tell myself I cant have something and if my life is not in immediate danger (like it was when I first went AF) I will just want it even more and then will tend to obsess about it (a bit like if I went on a diet I would just think about food all the time and then eat far more than I normally would doh!) so its the same story with the AL. To avoid obsessing about it I tell myself that I am not AF and that I can have one in limited circumstances like when I go out for a meal or similar but then I may chose not to or bring the car or other such tricks to fool myself into behaving.
BH (no more)

[nancy]

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Hi you guys

I also don't like to have a complete ban on booze. It makes me feel really uptight. I want to learn to be moderate in all areas of my life.

My new strategy is to never drink alone, not to drink at home. Also, take any opportunity not to drink when out. I think for me, alcohol was linked to relief of anxiety and depression so I don't drink for those things anymore. I am going to have as many AF days as possible.

To keep on track, it really helps me to think of health issues and read about the way the body works. It sounds like the alcohol initially makes you feel good and then over time you lose your own ability to produce feel-good chemicals. I don't want this of course, don't want to drink something that will wind up making me feel depressed and dependent.

Also, I am very interested in using Naltrexone on an as-needed basis, just take it if you go out and plan to drink. I haven't taken that step yet.

Nancy

[Saint Jude]

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Yep BH, I think St Jude is "the Patron Saint of lost causes"...Talk about Mothers intuition....
How DID my Mama know? She must have seen it in my eyes @ birth!

Kind of ironic, but the only time I ever took up smoking was when I was in re-hab for 3 weeks. Almost everyone there smoked. There was an outside courtyard, where we would sit & have our morning coffee, etc...and socialize(They called it the "Cancer Cafe"). Fortunately, smoking didn't hold the same appeal to me as other addictions, like drinking...

I do feel for people that smoke though. My Hubby's a smoker, first thing in the AM, last thing @ night...
Travelling with him by plane is torture...just to watch him...:stomper::headbanger:

I had a great day on the river yesterday! It was gorgeous! I spent the whole afternoon out paddling with my Bungee dog, we saw a beaver, a little mink (I think it was the same one I've named Minky Dink...the one I thought was a baby Otter, he's really friendly & curious), also saw a red fox, and surfed a few waves...
I brought along my giant bubble wand & blew great big bubbles on the river too! I'm so easily amused!:whee:

I drank more beer than I planned, but it was hot! It was light beer though, and I spilled some...LOL

I guess I should carry some L-glut in my kayak. I usually take some extra, for special occasions when I'm going out & don't want to over indulge.


Still feel good today though. Gonna go do some yard work, & get some chores done... maybe hit the river again later. It's already 83*, I don't wait tables till tomorrow night, so what's a girl to do?


Have a great day everybody!

[sammys]

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Hi had two beers Wed. nite with friends and one/half beer last nite while grilling dinner. I certainly can moderate and I certainly have to set limits. In the line of work I do me completely quitting is not going to happen. I think that moderation is key for me and when I find myself going overboard I need to reel it in and think about what I want in life.

Sammys

[Saint Jude]

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Hey there Sammys!
Good to see some of us "old timers"....LOL... showing back up down here.

I agree, keeping things in perspective is key.

Blue moon tomorrow night! Get ready to HOWL!!

[ame=

]YouTube - Once In A Very Blue Moon - Mary Black[/ame]


Well, now I'm not so sure... I heard on the radio there was a blue moon tomorrow night. But after researching on the net...it doesn't look like it... Guess we'll see!

[Ask For Help]

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HI all!

Just checking in. We're having beautiful weather here in Boston and I got a nice bike ride and swim in yesterday. BUT got home and the neighbors (who've been getting on my nerves anyway) REALLY got to me: I was feeling really taken advantage of, which is a big trigger for me. Started with two glasses of wine with dinner, then had two more with Obama and woke up with a wicked hangover - my first in 8 months. I know I have to talk to the neighbors, and I know I have to NOT DRINK when I'm upset and mad but I did, so I was extra good to myself to day and feel better after an AF day today.

Thanks all for being here!

Fondly,

Ask

[Saint Jude]

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Hey there ASK,
Yep getting mad or upset is definately a trigger for me.
Good job on going AF yesterday. Glad you're feeling better.

I got my feelings hurt this AM by Hubby.
I feel like packing my bags & dissapearing for a while just to see if he'd notice.

Feeling "old & settled" no passion or romance... I'm too young to live this way. I don't think I can do it much longer. I need more out of life than yard work & mortgage payments.

If it weren't for my kayak & my dog I'd have very little pleasure in life...
That's pretty grim.

[ame=

]YouTube - GARTH BROOKS / MUCH TOO YOUNG (TO FEEL THIS DAMN OLD)[/ame]

[Saint Jude]

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Damn him.
Just when I think I've finally had it... he suprises me with a dozen roses.

:h

[ame=

]YouTube - George Strait - I'd Like To Have That One Back[/ame]
[ame=

]YouTube - Run - George Strait[/ame]