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    Survived a tough week-end

    Fellow modders,
    Had a big challenge. Surviving the first vacation with moderating. Didn't completely meet my goals but have to say I didn't do bad.
    My goal is to drink only 3 days out of the week and it was a 4 day week-end so met that goal. Was tough to say no to the beer today at the German restaurant with all of those steins looking at me but I did it!
    My second goal is to have 6 drinks per week.
    Did blow it a little with 3.5 one day and 3 on one of the other days so ended up with a total of 8.5.
    But, was totally in control - no moments to be ashamed of etc. so felt really good about that.
    Noticed when I really thought about how much I drink and why it was really easy to say no to some of the situations I would have said yes to in the past. Went on a water cruise and many people were drinking the coctail beforehand so I had to think "Do I really want to have that drink now or save my 2 drinks today for a glass of wine with dinner and a nightcap at the jazz bar. REAL easy to then say no to the daytime drink.
    Didn't have the strength to say no to a third drink when we were out at a comedy club and someone bought rounds not realizing I was trying to do a 2 drink day limit. So, wouldn't have ordered it on my own but wasn't able to say no when it was there staring me in the face.
    But, it's ok. Not beating myself up. It's a daily process and I feel like I'm making progress just paying attention and being so much more aware than I've been before.
    Just wanted to share this with fellow modders. Was hard to do drinktracker and get online while I was gone but I'm back and doing great!
    "Control your destiny or somebody else will"

    ~Jack Welsh~:h

    God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me. ~Author unknown, :thumbs:

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    Survived a tough week-end

    I have yet to get those AFday under my belt. But I sure have cut the daily way down in the 3 weeks I have been working on it. And the AF are on the near horizon.

    Sound like you are doing great Eve.

    I wish the modders threads were more active because I want to learn if this may be an option for me or if I am fooling myself *sigh*

    Good job!

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      #3
      Survived a tough week-end

      Hi Eve,

      That's great!!! When you do drink, but it's in moderation and under control, it feels different doesn't it? I think this is what "naturally" thin people do - they enjoy a great dessert after dinner on occasion but don't routinely mow through a cake in a couple of days. Setting a limit is a good way of planning it out - as you said, to eschew the day drink, knowing you'd like the dinner wine far more. My experience has been when drinking is within your limits and controlled, it propels you to "keep up the good work." For me, that means I return to the AF weekdays without much of a thought.

      But like I've said before, we modders must always be aware and diligent. We must never let our drinking minds start schmoozing us with thoughts like "you're doing so well - you don't really have a problem - go ahead and have another, you can control it - you can always go AF another day - blah, blah, blah!!!" No, the diligence has to be there. The few times I've slipped in the last 4 months have been the times I temporarily gave into that thinking. Thank goodness for MWO as it got me back in the saddle pronto! Keep up the good work Eve!

      Vera-b

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        Survived a tough week-end

        Hi Eve,
        I'm glad you have been doing well.

        I already learned that regularly drinking more than one day per week is too much for me - it makes me crave more. We are all so different.

        I'm happy with my score for September, but plan to drink even less in October.
        My life is better without alcohol, since 9/1/12. My sobriety tool is the list at permalink 236 on the toolbox thread under monthly abstinance.

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          #5
          Survived a tough week-end

          Hi Eve:
          Thanks for sharing your vacation challenges, and how you handled them. I think you did well, considering that vacations are hard because we are not in our usual routine and lots of unexpected situations show up. Good job thinking things through, recognizing why you made choices, not beating yourself up if you didn't quite meet your goals, etc. . . I think those are all good strategies. Doesn't if feel good too, to be home and back into your routine?

          It's nice to see you sounding so positive and encouraged by all your learning. Keep up the good work!!

          Fondly,

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