Define Moderation

[last call]

Define Moderation

Moderation

Drinking only to the point of relaxation and not beyond. That's not going to happen here. I have to be AF.

[Kid Shelleen]

Define Moderation

Good definition...

Hard to achieve for many of us, though.
Good luck with what's working for you.
~Kid~

[controlroom]

Define Moderation

I am in the same boat with you, it's "All or nothing" I have repeatedly told myself I will only have 2 (or 3 or 6....) But I have serious "impaired control" issues....I rarely ever stop drinking before I pass out. (and call all my ex's and embarrass myself in various ways) That's why I think for me abstinence is the only way...

[gabby]

Define Moderation

IAD;493000 wrote: Ladies ( Chacha, Indigo) Go Alcohol free for about 90 days......then begin to moderate. Check out J W's book, it will explain everything. Most of us here start off wanting to moderate......Naturally...we don't want to give up the booze. Then we find out...if we can moderate or not. Most of can't. Wish you well Welcome.... IAD.

IAD....who is JW?

[Boss.man]

Define Moderation

Chacha;489451 wrote: when I drink, I don't stop well!

Seven words sums it up.

I can get a "taste" just fine. A few sips, or I water down my wine. If I even remotely "feel" the effect I'm in for a reminder of past battles.

I'm mod. I'll mix an ounce of wine with 6 oz of water, and a bit of sweetener (stevia now) and sip on that. No more than 2 oz of wine per hour, 5 oz total per evening.

[startafresh]

Define Moderation

I have today set myself the goal of THIRTY DAYS abstinence.

Had thought about what you call 'modding' but at present when I drink, I don't stop easily either. So it feels really hard, but 30 days to start for me. I've tried to analyse the situations where I drink too much and they mostly occur when work, family and a small child just get too much for me. When babes goes to bed, it seems to be the only way I can unwind, as I'm too tired for anything else. I really though that part of the reason I get so tired is the alcohol. I'm an 'older' mum over 40 and have not always drunk so much (and didn't at all during pregnancy) but it has been there in my life.

I've recently realised that I feel my most urgent need to combat stress is being on my own more and just having time to collect my thoughts. Not being emotionally 'available' to anyone. I love my daughter dearly, but sometimes I really miss this.

So might be able to go for modding when I've got my thirty days behind me.
wish me luck everyone, I've signed up for the 30 days things
startafresh

[CS04]

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Startafresh,
I totally understand the older mom thing -- I had my son at 40, and he is now almost 3. I am exhausted and stressed out, and it is very hard to take time for ourselves. Good luck with your 30 day goal.

[changemylife]

Define Moderation

Being able to go on vacation, Drink Responsibly, and come home to not drinking again!

[IAD]

Define Moderation

"Moderation is one less drink than you need to have. "
IAD