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[Mike R.]

How does a person mod? when I start I can't quit.. I just did 5 bottles of vodka in 3 days... needless to say I feel like crap now.. but still.. how do you mod?

[greeneyes]

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Well. From personal experience... I don't. Oh by the way, welcome. I can't mod. I can't be the person that leaves my glass of whatever on the table and forget I was even drinking and don't bother trying to retrieve it. Modding to me is counting, measuring yearning, feeling deprived, forcing yourself to play by the rules you set. And then when you surpass your rules let the self beating begin. WTF kind of life is that? I can't do it.

However.... some can. and do so with success. You have to decide for yourself if the effort is worth it. This is your life - ain't no dress rehearsal. Don't try to kid yourself either because it just prolongs the misery. And I say this to you with kindness and respect and will support you any way I can.

[Mike R.]

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well.. anything worth doing is worth overdoing in my head... I drink way too much, I used to smoke way too much but that's easy to kick... so I guess my life has halted on vodka... God bless the strong and strengthen the weak...

[ChickenNumber3]

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Mike!
Tell us some about yourself!
I too am struggling right now!
Have done 30 Af, then tried to Mod, was okay for about 2-3 weeks, slipped since having a personal crisis! Trying to get back to AF as of now!
Am kind of thinking that the 'great sages' of this site are correct though..modding is FAR harder than just being AF!
Chook

[Suni]

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well.. anything worth doing is worth overdoing in my head... I drink way too much, I used to smoke way too much but that's easy to kick... so I guess my life has halted on vodka... God bless the strong and strengthen the weak...

Smoking is easy to kick? Is that because you managed to kick it? Many people don't find it easy to kick.
When you manage to kick alcohol you will be able to say that it's easy to kick too.

[Cinders]

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Mike,

:welcome: back. I hope you are still checking in since the 21st.

I simply can't mod, either. Not in the physiology.

I, too, say "Anything worth doing is worth overdoing."

I am trying to divert that into things worth overdoing. Like exercise, meditation, etc. NOT, drinking, smoking, eating, etc.

It is good to see you again.

Cindi

[Sunbeam]

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Mike,
There are some people here like me who did not drink 5 bottles of vodka in three days. If you are a daily heavy drinker, I think you probably will not be abel to drink moderately. I was more of a binger drinker. Now I will drink only less than weekly. I am still cutting back. There are strategies under Long Term Moderation you could try, but I believe this is the short and quick of it.

[Emmy]

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Hey Mike ,

Welcome:welcome:

I've been 26 days AF , although I never drank the amount of vodka you did , matter of fact , I never tasted vodka , my DOC was wine , Chardonnay or Merlot.. I wasn't a daily drinker either , just didn't know when to stop once I got started !! Anyhow , after my 30 days , I am going to TRY to MOD , only having ONE GLASS when @ a party or a special occasion , Thanksgiving , Christmas , New Years , Birthday , you get the point. I quit smoking about 7 months ago , for me quitting was easy , I wanted to quit , made up my mind that I smoked my last cigarette , read the book 'Easy Way to Quit Smoking " and haven't had the slightest urge to smoke.. Thats my story , I'm so happy I found MWO.. the people here are so awesome , Make a plan for yourself and keep coming in here , reading & posting , This site is a god-sent for me , Hope its the same for you:h Em

[Mike R.]

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I binge as well... but now that I'm unemployed .. again... I've been binging for a long time.. I tend to drink till I'm .. excuse the french... totally fucked up.. then I quit for a few days.. then when I feel better again I get back to it.. and now I'm just drinking to cover the hangover... I feel trapped.. I have no life cause I drink. and I drink cause I have no life... I'm screwed!!!
and I was dry for 9 months..

[Mike R.]

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oh.. and I wasn't talking about cigarettes..

[ChickenNumber3]

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Mike R. how you fairing these fine days?
hope all is well?
I am not AF as yet either, but making a way towards progress!
How is it going with you?
Chook

[Mike R.]

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I'ld be lying if I said good... same crap... drink till I pass out then drink cause I'm hung over till I pass out again... then the cycle keeps goin..

[ChickenNumber3]

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Mike R!
How are you going?
You are no different from the rest of us! Don't feel bad,don't dwell,just get focused on a goal...any goal!
I am trying to do that too, you are not alone okay!
Chook