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[KundaliniGirl]

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Tipp - good for you not letting your daughter get into your head! Kids can be really selfish, even when they're older. I really hope you enjoy your trip!!

RC I think even when you drink more than you would have liked, you can just throw in a good string of AF days and feel good again!! Do you mind my asking - do you have a modding plan? I don't really - at first I tried to be really rigid about it. Now, I'm finding I'm more comfortable (and effective) just striving for AF days and then drinking periodically (dictated by the occasion rather than........it's Saturday night..........kind of thing. It's working well for me.

KG

[Ringing Cedars]

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Hi KG--what was your previous name?
I guess I am like you KG. I am trying not to put any strict format in place. If my girlfriends birthday falls on a weekday and I want to share a bottle of wine with her then I feel I can handle that. I've always kind of been a person to say I'm not sure what I want but I definitely know when I don't want something and I think my approach to this problem with alcohol is the same. So drinking everyday is not part of my plan for now and yes many more af days than al days have been achieved in the last 10 months. I've had a few very over the limit days and that is what I really have to be rigid about.

[Brigitte Bardot]

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Taking Another Direction

Hello everyone,

It's been through a series of events that perhaps sticking to the Daily AF Thread is not in the best interest of myself or those on there, so I have decided to move. I am still interested in maintaining a mostly AF lifestlye but would like to have a drink or two at special occasions. I don't drink on a daily basis. Would it be Okay if I joined your thread and this section to talk about moderating and what works for all of you? I don't keep AL in the house and don't plan on to, I just want to keep it to special events and things.

Thanks!

[KundaliniGirl]

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RC, I was Choochie during my AF period of 2.5 mos. and changed to KG (wrote a lengthy post about my experience AF and my decision to try modding).

I'm really happy with how things are going. I'm AF many days (if not all) during the week and have been drinking about once/week. I'm kind of early on, though, so I don't have a lot of history. But, if I can maintain this, I'll be happy.

I do think it helps to post and maintain a connection with others who are modding, so I hope you'll continue to post on these threads.

xx,
KG

[Ringing Cedars]

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KG-thanks, I will stick around here. You were inspiring as Coochie and equally inspiring as KG! Enjoy your day! xo

[KundaliniGirl]

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Thanks RC! I find it really helpful to talk to others about drinking - and of course, to read throughout the site. I don't post anywhere where people are trying to abstain in fear of tempting them. I might wish someone a happy birthday or something like that, but I keep my specific chatting about modding in these threads. It's not as active here, but I still find it helpful.

Stop by often!! There's strength in numbers!!

KG

[Ringing Cedars]

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Stopping in to say Happy Valentine's Day to all modders and modders in progress!

[Tipplerette]

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:h:h Happy Valentine's Day :h:h

Going out for dinner with hubby. We are having a bit of freezing rain on top of the wallop of snow we just received so hopefully we'll be able to get out of this little valley we live in.

KG you really are drinking in a pattern that I would hope to emulate and am working towards. Skipping many days during the week is the key. Even though I am a 1/2 bottle a night drinker, your many weeknights not drinking is the best way to go. I'll have to stay here and read, read, read..

Thanks people and enjoy the evening!

Tipps

[Ringing Cedars]

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Tip I think 1/2 bottle a night is nothing but it's not my opinion that really matters. How do you really feel with that lies your answers. They were calling for a flash freeze here this afternoon too. Hope not I have a drive ahead of me yet. Hope you get out for a lovely evening and be safe. xo

[KundaliniGirl]

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Tipp I agree that the 1/2 bottle is nothing - I think it's just a problem if it makes you start increasing more and more. But, it is a personal decision. I know that Sunshine also feels she doesn't want to drink daily even though she doesn't drink very much. I guess it's just however it makes you feel about your relationship with alcohol.

Hi RC - and happy Valentine's Day to everyone. This is also my 15 year anniversary. We used to go out to dinner but too many people doing the same..........now it's just no big deal since we're old and crotchety.

KG

[gyco]

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a journey

KundaliniGirl;1060311 wrote: Tipp I agree that the 1/2 bottle is nothing - I think it's just a problem if it makes you start increasing more and more. But, it is a personal decision. I know that Sunshine also feels she doesn't want to drink daily even though she doesn't drink very much. I guess it's just however it makes you feel about your relationship with alcohol.

Hi RC - and happy Valentine's Day to everyone. This is also my 15 year anniversary. We used to go out to dinner but too many people doing the same..........now it's just no big deal since we're old and crotchety.

KG

hi everyone im out and about a lot lately and K GIRL asked a question of me back a while ago,i dont no if its how much you drink,which ive never really been able to do in life,or how often,which i cant say the same ,i think it s how one can get lost in it,and then it takes over,then the battle starts al over again, knowledge,of rite and wrong, and what weve been tot,mite not have been a hole truth,and always knowing there are many options to addiction,i will always have my addiction,alchoholism,but it is only up to me to control it,hope it helps gang:H:thanks:gyco

[Ringing Cedars]

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Happy Anniversary KG!! May you find some fresh ideas to reignite that spark!
Hiya Gyco. I must say your posts often confuse me.

[KundaliniGirl]

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RC - I'm very ok with my peaceful life. I've had plenty of exciting!! There's something really nice about companionship without all that romantic mess. lol

Gyco, I remember asking you a question a long time ago - but who knows what it was. I think I asked how much you drink??

Have a wonderful day everyone. Hubs and I are going to Santa Fe, NM for a mini vacation -- very excited......

KG

[gyco]

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hi ringing ,read between the lines ? when i 1st went to treatment i was very confused,i was also 4 months sober many that were there binged the night b4,what i lernd over 31 days was anything that happen yesterday unless death is involved ,that day is over,as a person with an addiction,not necessarily alchoholic,i could never put yesterday behind me,i live for today,do the best i can,and most of all try to be happy,and try to make others around me happy,as far as drinking,any kind of drinking is wrong,again somthing i lerned as a youngster i thot was normal is not,one can mix cough medicine and get the same effect ? alchohol is not the issue,life is the issue,and i love life whether i drink or not gyco sorry for confusing you

[Ringing Cedars]

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KundaliniGirl;1060545 wrote: RC - I'm very ok with my peaceful life. I've had plenty of exciting!! There's something really nice about companionship without all that romantic mess. lol KG

Whatever floats your boat girl. When do you go away?

Gyco--still confused--perhaps you could fill in the blanks? I guess I just hear you saying you are happy cuz you are managing your addiction better now than in the past. Yes?