Hi, all, new here. I wanted to ask advice about how I can stick to some moderate level of drinking. Right now, I'm pregnant, and not drinking at all. But I"m *really* looking forward to drinking again once the baby is out...Can't wait!! BUT, I know that's kind of a dangerous feeling: I find myself thinking longingly about how great it can feel to get pretty drunk; but I'm also worried about the fact that there's obviously a lot of reasons why doing that is not such a great idea...I'm hoping I can be good and just have occasional drinks once I'm not pregnant; but not sure how to make sure that happens. I've been looking back on my alcohol consumption, and thinking that really, I need to try not to start drinking again as heavily as I used to, like sometimes 5 or 6 beers, or a whole bottle of wine, in one evening. Which gave me a fuzzy head in the morning, and was obviously not a good thing... I think a couple of drinks in the evening is OK, if I don't have more, but it can be hard to stop at a couple. How do you maintain the will-power? In the past, I've made resolutions to cut back, but they don't always last. My boyfriend drinks about 5 beers most nights, and when I'm not pregnant, I find it kind of tempting to keep up with his drinking, even though I know that really, it's better for me to drink less: healthier, and more responsible... Is it just a question of will-power?
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how do you avoid the slippery slope?
I don't have any good advice re: moderating because I have never been able to do it myself. I will tell you, though, that my drinking got progressively worse after my first child was born. Being a new mother can be very stressful, lonely and isolating and that pushed me further into drinking. The happiest time in my life was when I was pregnant and not drinking. I wish more than anything that I had made myself stop altogether at that point. I wish I had not had the false impression that I could go back to moderate drinking after the kids were born.
If something led you to this site, then chances are you feel like your drinking pre-pregnancy was a problem. Perhaps the successful moderators can give you some advice. For me, trying to moderate post-baby was a slippery slope that led me to an even worse place, alcohol-wise, than I had been before I was pregnant. I can't guarantee that this would happen to you, but I felt I had to give some sort of warning based on what I went through.
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how do you avoid the slippery slope?
I am not good at the moderation thing either and so I'm trying to go AF. I have a 7 month old daughter and the reason that I want so much to be AF is because of her. I always said I don't have a problem with alcohol but I do and the problem I have is that once I start drinking I don't like to stop. I don't have that mechanism in me and unfortunately it runs in my family. I feel my daughter deserves a better mother then that. I don't want her looking back at her life growing up (not that she can remember now but I felt it was a good a time as any to start trying) and having memories of her "drunken" mother.
I'm starting with a target of 100 days and will see how that goes. Good Luck to you!!!! with everything.Comment
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how do you avoid the slippery slope?
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