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[sunshinedaisies]

I thought I understood this part of the MWO site but no-one seems to post about modding - or maybe they do but I have missed it. I am not sure what I am asking or why I am asking but I am. I had 1 Guinness last night. I originally came to MWO to see what my problem was. I then thought I needed to stop. I have since been AF. Then been AF and then started again. This time, been AF but since starting again, when I drink, just have been having one or two Guinness and no more. Not even wanting more. I know some folks idea of modding is having one or two every month or so. Is that the general consensus? Is it not thinking that one has a problem any more? I like to have a Guinness. I never get drunk - haven't been drunk in 18 years or more. But wonder if I have a problem. Most folks would say if I am posting on this web site then I do. I don't know any more. Should I ask the general public and expect the hue and cry?? Or just ask here on the modding forum?

hugs to all,

Love, Sun xxxx

[gyco]

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sunshinedaisies;1010770 wrote: I thought I understood this part of the MWO site but no-one seems to post about modding - or maybe they do but I have missed it. I am not sure what I am asking or why I am asking but I am. I had 1 Guinness last night. I originally came to MWO to see what my problem was. I then thought I needed to stop. I have since been AF. Then been AF and then started again. This time, been AF but since starting again, when I drink, just have been having one or two Guinness and no more. Not even wanting more. I know some folks idea of modding is having one or two every month or so. Is that the general consensus? Is it not thinking that one has a problem any more? I like to have a Guinness. I never get drunk - haven't been drunk in 18 years or more. But wonder if I have a problem. Most folks would say if I am posting on this web site then I do. I don't know any more. Should I ask the general public and expect the hue and cry?? Or just ask here on the modding forum?

hugs to all,

Love, Sun xxxx

:welcome:daisies,you seem to hav a grip,you seem to be in the rt file,alchoholism is not a gift,its an ailment,if you feel fine with what your doin thats great,to me it seems you just need someone to agree with you,are you comfortable in your bodymany people have not been where some of us hav been,ive been doin this for 40 years,until iwent to treatment,i guess my bottoming out stagee,i was tot drinking is normal,it is as normal as self mutilating your body:upset:,,:thanks:gyco

[Ringing Cedars]

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Good God Sunni..I'm trying reduction in days and number of drinks. I don't even have a goal to be where you are! Where am I?? I'm afraid to post that honestly these days....but I will say, yet again, I am far and away choosing better than I was when I first entered this site....thanks to some wonderful people who have become friends. xo

[sunshinedaisies]

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I suppose because I am asking myself IF I only have one or two, IS that a problem? IF I am not AF but I still have one or two every night? I seem to be either one or the other. there seems to be no inbetween for me. I can hold it to the one or two. So, I suppose my question really is to myself. Do I want to be AF? Or am I happy with having one or two every night? Last night it was one. Tonight it was two. Well, I tipped half of the 2nd one away. I don't know. I am really tired anyway and have to be up super early so am off to bed.

Hugs, Sun xx

[Accountable for Me]

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I believe that you are OK. You can moderate. One or two drinks a night is OK. It doesn't sound like you have a problem. You haven't been drunk in 18 years. You can stop and not drink until you pass out, or hungover in the morning. I assume it doesn't cause problems in your life? Then I would say you are just fine!

The other way of looking at it would be a 'lifestyle' change. Like, say you wanted to be AF and not have the drink because you wanted to cut back on calories or something. Some people who do not have any problem with alcohol go without it.... all due to their lifestyle. Alcohol is empty calories, it can be expensive... so some just don't.

It sounds to me like you are a healthy drinker, Sun!

[sapphire1]

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The world health organisations recommendations for safe drinking levels are 2 standard drinks a day for a female with two alcohol free days per week. It seems that you are drinking at acceptable moderate levels, maybe have a day or two without a drink. You are enjoying your drink and I am assuming that it doesnt have an obsessional hold on you. Sun I cant see a problem with the way that you are drinking. Compared to my case.....4 litres of wine in one day binges x up to 6 days at a time. Get the ambulance because my breathing has become depressed, blood pressure very low, cant find a pulse. Stop for two weeks and do it all again. All the while, no joy in the drinking, just absolute despair and pain and compulsive drinking. I can never drink again...it will mean an early death for me. I stopped enjoying drink a long time ago, when the addiction took over. Theres a world of difference between the way that you enjoy and manage a drink to the way that drink manages me. Saffxx

[sunshinedaisies]

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Thanks all of you for replying - I suppose I think because I am still drinking DAILY, even if it is just one or two, that I should do something about it. When I am AF (and that is hard to get to) I am fine, but it is either one or the other. I can't stick an AF day in there. It is either all or nothing. And I suppose that is where I have my dilemma. I feel that if I didn't have a problem, I would be able to have an AF day in there. Just my thoughts and was wondering what any other modders think - are there any other modders around?????

Hugs, sun xxx