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[jennyneric]

Day one of the experiment. . .

Yesterday through Friday AF, will consider a drink on Friday.

Dinner and a walk today and House tonight yeah! Good night to be AF!

[KundaliniGirl]

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I'm AF with you tonight Jenn.

[Cassia]

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Hey girlies,

I wish you well! I am not quite ready to the nodding but of I do, I know where to find you. Will lurk around if u don't mind!

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[KundaliniGirl]

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Hi Cassia - I recommend a good stint before you try modding. How long are you AF? We're here for you once you decide to try, but don't rush it!! And, of course, feel free to stop in and chat or just read. All information is good!!

KG

[Cassia]

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I have been sober for 46 days. Idont think I would even consider modding until six months in.



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[mylife]

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Hello guys! Cassia, feel free to lurk! I lurked for quite awhile as well.

I was AF last night and no desire to drink. Over the weekend I was AF Friday and Saturday as there was no special event or real reason to drink, then had one beer Sunday night at a superbowl party. This is how I was all during my 20's and early 30's and I want that back. I hope this can work -- but at least if it doesn't I will know I gave it a shot and it didn't work so I will be more able to accept abstinence is where I need to be.

Anyway, for me right now knowing I can mod is helping not to compulsively think about AL all the time! Or longingly look at someone having a glass of wine with dinner in a restaurant and thinking I can never do that again....it was really bothering me! If I do need to abstain in the future I'm going to have to work on the gratitude vs. deprivation thing a lot!

Have a great day all.

[jennyneric]

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Hey welcome Cassia! Look around, lurk if you'd like, I don't mind at all. I think me and ML are writing a page from the same book. My thought mirror yours at the moment. The only difference is the thing you had in your 20's changed for me in my 30's but truth be told I had only been drinking nightly for a year and a half. Before that I drank on Friday's once every 2 months or so.

[jennyneric]

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Oh yeah. . .day 3 of modding, still haven't drank yet, that will be the test, not the not drinking but the drinking. However I am proud that I have given myself permission to drink and I didn't just start drinking away! That's control. That is my goal, to control the beast.

[KundaliniGirl]

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Cassia - good going on your AF days!! Terrific.

Jen and ML - you guys are always a pleasure to read -- we all have a similar feeling/attitude about wanting to drink some and not feeling like we can NEVER have another drink...........

Big hugs and support to all.

KG

[mylife]

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Good morning girls (and guys if any join in!)

Hope you're having a good day. I'm on Day 3 AF this week and feel just fine. No cravings and no desire. It's like it vanished once I told myself I could MOD. I'm telling you a big part of this thing for me is psychological!! Anyway, I went to a movie last night -- in a social setting -- could have had a drink and chose not to - it's a weeknight and I just didn't feel like it.

Have a great day all!

[KundaliniGirl]

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ML - that's great. I think the more we can get out of our old habits, the better -- like not drinking just because we can, i.e. social setting. Great for you!! I agree about the psychological part. You know you're way past any physical part. That's why going AF for an extended period of time is so advisable. It's out of your system within days, so when you get a craving, you know it's in your mind, not a physical phenomenon! Keep up the good work.

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[mylife]

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Hello!

KG -- That is one of the baffling things to me about AL. Is it physical or psychological? I really wish there was more conclusive evidence one way or the other -- it would make it easier to know what to battle!

Anyway, today I'm AF and planning to stay that way!

[Cassia]

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Hey all from the lurking corners!

ML - I think u make a very good point snout the psychology of drinking. I think most addictions start of psychological...ie I will use it to deal with a situation and then it becomes physical. By allowing yourself to drink on social occasions, you have possibly freed yourself! I think that if your use of alcohol had grown to a physical addiction then modding would be extremely difficult. Perhaps you have reached a happy medium. And perhaps those of us where our alcohol abuse didn't turn into a physical addiction can also successfully mod.

Interesting...

[mylife]

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Thanks Cassia. I hope it's true.

I really don't know because there is so much evidence out there that once you have a problem that's it -- it's all over and there's no modding. Anyway, I will give it my best shot. One thing I said tonight on another thread is that I would not be devastated if I had to be abstinent the rest of my life. It really does feel good most of the time and it's not the worst thing in the world that could happen to me! LOL.

Hope you all have a great evening.

[KundaliniGirl]

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ML & Cassia - I think I must have caught my problem just in the nick of time. I seem to be able to go without AL pretty easily now. And, I don't go crazy when I do drink 3-4 max, and usually 3. I can be happy with this scenario for sure!! I think the HUGE key for me is making sure I don't drink every night -- that is my trap. I'm really thrilled with the way things are going. I don't feel deprived, yet I don't feel the compulsion to drink. And, I totally think it's because I went the 2.5 mos. AF - changed something fundamentally for me!! Hope you can do it too. And, of course, I hope it lasts. But I'm so comfortable with it all -- I truly believe I could go back to AF if I needed to.