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[InnerStrength]

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Monica
I admire YOU so much - you are so wonderful. I was really saddened when I read that someone had sent something like that to you. I guess we have to realize that people are hurting and this may make people lash out at others but you did not deserve that. And you are probably right - this is probably a new person who does not know you. Hopefully he/she now sees you for who you are - a kind, thoughtful, caring, intelligent and extremely important member of our community. We cherish you - just wanted you to know.
Love always
Jen

[NickC]

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Heh Monica

Speaking from the perspective of a relatively newbie I'v read loads of your posts and that email was utterly unjustified. Dont ever change!

NICK

[YoungAtHeart]

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Out of the Box....

Hi Monica,

I'm Kathy, AKA YoungAtHeart, and I always read your posts with interest and lots of enjoyment. I'm not going to be all warm and fuzzy, but don't worry, I'm not going to be critical either! Your apology this morning was really beautiful. I think it takes an amazing amount of courage to face such criticism in the eyes and really listen to it. Bravo for your courage!!!

I've been slammed a few times openly on MWO (a long time ago, thankfully), and it is always a terribly humbling experience. Usually, the person slinging the arrows really hasn't known me or has spoken out of their own pain or malice or envy. Nevertheless, there was always a grain or two of truth in there that was worth listening to in the pain and humiliation and with the support of all the friends that I had here. Are you self absorbed? Yeah, maybe sometimes! You are also tremendously entertaining and intructive and humorous! (I say that as someone who is looking in the mirror!) I also know that you are warm and responsive when someone is in trouble. I hope that I am not getting MYSELF into trouble here!

I guess what I am trying to say is that we all have many things to offer, and I know that I sometimes offer humor and funny stories, and I sometimes offer support. We all offer what is uniquely us on any given day. Sometimes we are criticised for what we are offering, and I know that I have found it useful to look at what I might learn from the criticism without letting it make a statement about my ultimate worth as a person in the world or on this board.

You have many wonderful things to say, MM, and I love reading them. I hope you get what you need from the criticism that you got, forget the rest, and also rest assured that you are a treasured member of MWO!

Lots of love and happy holidays!
Kathy

[Waves 2]

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Hi Monica,

I think kathy's post was perfect but I didn't want you to think I had ignored your post.

We all have our moments where we upset others without meaning to. I have done it myself on a few occasions.

Your reply shows such a deep understanding of the nature of each one of us on here that anyone who doubted that you cared should realise that you do pay attention to others.

Continue being yourself as we all have to ( sometimes we wish we weren?t ourselves- but that?s impossible). I think I am the most annoying person that I know!
Hope your Christmas is lovely and don?t be afraid to tell us that it was!
Love Waves x

[YoungAtHeart]

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PS

Hey, sorry, I re-read my post, and I neglected to add that we are ALL self-absorbed sometimes. I know that I am VERY self-absorbed sometimes. I didn't want it to sound like I thought it was a trait unique to you, MM! Sorry if it did sound that way!

Hugs again,
Kathy:l
Incidently, it seems to me that junior members are ones that haven't posted yet.

[Cashregister]

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I think it's ridiculous not to post good news - surely it brings hope?

I too have read your posts Monica and can say with all sincerity that I found no offense whatsoever.

Newbie Cash

xxxx

[Ivygoodluck]

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Monica,

Drinking can get any of us in a bad place, and perhaps the person who sent that PM was there. If so, I wish her/him a better day. I was never offended by any of your posts and found them uplifting. I don't post as much as a lot of the others but I do read.

Wishing you and all the others (especially Becca and Allie and those with immediate crises) big changes for the better in the new year.

:h :h :h :h to all

Ivy