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[derbygurl]

Hi,

I'm new here and like many of you from the threads I have read I want to slow down. I have thought of quitting all together several times but I don't want to . I feel like I can get it under control and even do sometimes. I can chill and not drink or have a beer while watching a movie at home and be done but then there are other times where I want to get drunk so I do, or as I have told many friends before...I don't have an 'off' switch. I just want to be able to be in control. I want to be able to go out and party with my friends and not get smashed everytime I do. Right now i have a high tolerance which is bad but most my friends drink as much as I do if not more.

I hate that when I plan to go out and drink I always get drunk and when I plan to get drunk I end up smashed and embarrassing myself and sometimes pissing off my friends. It doesn't help that other friends think that being smashed is totally acceptable and a story to tell later. I'm sure we have all been there.

Ugh I have rambled...sorry. Long story short I am here and ready to take the first step.

[Cinders]

New Here

Derbygurl,

Welcome to MWO. Take the first step. Read the book and see if it is something you feel you can follow.

Hopefully some modders come on shortly. There are a few successful ones around.

Unfortunately, many of us have found moderation doesn't work for us.

However, it is a good place to start. :-)

Best of luck and I look forward to getting to know you.

Cindi

[mightymite]

New Here

:welcome: derbygurl,
This is a great place to come when you are ready to either slow down or go completely AF. It seems you are wanting to mod. I joined in Oct. when I thought I wanted to be completely AF. I went 22 days until I decided I really wanted to mod. I have set goals in place. I cannot drink in any social situation. I, too, do not have an off switch in those environments. So I now only have a couple of glasses of wine with hubby on the weekends. He is not a big drinker and can take it or leave it. I think I have found what works best for me. I have to stay diligent though and keep reminding myself that I cannot drink at parties. I have been pretty successful thus far with one stupid slip last weekend. But I am learning. Be sure to get your tools together and make your goals. Keep coming on here and reading and posting or when you need extra support. We are all here for each other and I have found this place keeps me accountable. Good luck.