Thursday 22nd February

[Saint Jude]

Thursday 22nd February

Thanks Accountable, I just feel so guilty right now.

The other day my Hubby wasn't feeling well, and came home from work early... he was laying down trying to relax, and the phone kept ringing every 15 minutes... I finally turned the ringer way down.

I have mentioned that I'm watching my minutes to her. She doesn't seem to "get" that...

Just found out she cancelled her Doc's appt for today, because I couldn't drive her. Now I really feel guilty. I'm glad she didn't drive, if she's feeling that whacked... just wish her Hubby would help her out a bit...

But I do have other plans, I have a friend from Washington state visiting, who's only here for a while.
Grrr ...I hate this!

[Waves 2]

Thursday 22nd February

Jude, don't feel guilty.
Allie and beth am praying for strength for you both.

Love to all as always
Waves

[InnerStrength]

Thursday 22nd February

Ugh, I have that guilt feeling. But we can't take care of everybody!! We have to make ourselves a priority too! And it sounds like your friend is kind of taking advantage of your generosity Jude...sorry...
Ah, I tend to try to be everything to everyone too and I just end up exhausted..Jude, good for you. You have to put your foot down or else we get sick. We have to put ourselves first....or at least somewhere near the top of the list/??

[Saint Jude]

Thursday 22nd February

Thanks you guys. I still feel like crap right now though...

Going for a hike to Cape Sebastion with my other friend. Being near the ocean & cliffs always seems to help me put things into perspective...

Love you All!
:l Judie

[Rocky]

Thursday 22nd February

Well I was afraid to ask about the Muffinss thing...glad that is cleared up or explained anway...

Allie, I am praying for your Mom, you and your family... I trust you will receive grace sufficient for all...

Rocky

[Accountable for Me]

Thursday 22nd February

Judy

Geez Louise! Judy, she has a husband? Why doesn't he help out? My goodness.

Don't feel guilty. My Nana, had lost her husband just over 2 years ago and recently had a falling out with my mother (October). My nana has come to rely on me for everything... I, too, have mentioned to her about my cell phone costs and she doesn't get it either. I had to be a bit on the tougher (blunt) side with her the other night, trying not to hurt her feelings of course. Once I explained I was poor, stressed and this cell is costing me a fortune she got it. It is tough, but it had to be done. I have enough going on in my life at the moment and I can only be spread so thin. I know sometimes people get caught up in their own personal stuff they don't realize the effect it could have on others. I understand your position, but sometimes we just gotta say what we need to say for our own sanity.

Hang in there. I beat around the bush quite a bit sparing peoples feelings. I found lately being forthcoming and honest has done wonders and they understand.

[eustacia]

Thursday 22nd February

Hi, all . . .

I should probably reintroduce myself, I've been AWOL for so long. I'm ok, working out some things on my own. I'll write more sometime soon.

The reason I am posting today is that I occasionally check in, and I just read what Allie and Beth wrote.

Allie and Beth, for what it is worth, I want you to know that I am holding you both in my heart.

E

[InnerStrength]

Thursday 22nd February

I love you Eustacia.
I felt like saying your full name because I think it's elegant like you.
Love you.

[InnerStrength]

Thursday 22nd February

Oh and please ignore the ridiculous cheerleader doing the splits above that message. I am being sincere.

[Bookish]

Thursday 22nd February

E. Glad to see you again. I am in and out of here a lot too. It makes it hard to keep up and stay connected.

Judie, Sorry your friend is taking advantage of you and have a nice hike.

About the Muffin thing. For those of you that are interested. It all started on September 12th, 2006. I know that, cause I started it by complaining that my muffin top had gone from cute to pudgy. By September 13, the thread for the day started out as "Happy Wednesday Muffins". The rest is history and it has taken a life of it's own. I believe at some point Lush declared herself the president of the Muffin Club and the rest of us joined.

By the way, your club dues are all late, but you can pay me anytime you want. You may also complain to Waves if "Once Upon a Time" had distracted you from working. :H

Sincerely,
Current Vice President of the Muffin Club
Laura

[lushy]

Thursday 22nd February

LOL Laura!!!!

[Allie]

Thursday 22nd February

Okay I'm home now. So here is the deal: My Mom is okay -- nothing happened with her health wise negative, which was my worst fear. I had knots in my stomach the whole way there. As I've shared with some of you, my Dad has had a terrible drinking problem for about the last 15 years. Maybe 20. It all started about the time I moved away from home at 17, so I didnt even realize it for a long time. It was a defnitely a progressive thing with him. He started when my Mom was diagnosed with Hodgkins disease at age 42. (she now has cancer for the 4th time).

So my Dad called me this morning and asked me to please come over, and that it was about Mom. So naturally my mind was thinking the worst. But when I got there, my Mom had no idea I was even coming over. My Dad asked me to sit down (we have a very strained relationship - always have). I am always nervous around him. Well, he basically told me that he needed my help to know how to deal with "my mother" because he feels he can no longer handle her sickness or her emotions. He admitted that he was very angry that she was dying of cancer and did I have any advice on how he could change his perspective and deal with her????

Okay....

So he quit drinking completely back in October as the result of a nasty spill down the stairs while drunk which landed him in the hospital. I am leaving out some details of all he said, but I have known for several months that he has some level of alcoholic dementia. He forgets very basic things. So he said somethng about having lived here for several years now (they just moved here in September) that really concerned me. So I mustered up the nerve, and brought up his past drinking issue for the first time in my life. None of us "kids" have dared to go there..... just could be very ugly. He can be very scary person. I told him that he had in fact lived here for only seven months, and he didnt believe me. My Mom confirmed it as true, and I offered to show him paperwork to prove it. I told him how much everyone knew he was drinking so heavily, and that his constant cuts, bruises and confusion were obvious to all. I told him how proud of him I was that he had stopped, but that I felt he had a huge amount of deep pain and "heart" issues that were still there, and that it would mean the world to me if he would please get counseling. I told him for the first time today since I was 17 that I loved him. I told him I was terrified that if Mom dies, that he will no longer have a reason to live, and will return to the vodka and drink himself to death. I told him how much I ached for the Dad that had gone away for 20 years.... and that I wanted him back. Well my Mom is sitting over there with tears running down her face, and my Dad stared at the floor for probably five minutes without anyone saying a word. Then he looked up at me and said, "Thank you." Then he got up from his chair and walked back to his office and shut the door.

I called my older brother (who is a doctor) and told him what happened, and he said "from big brother to my little sis.... you are the bravest of us all."

I have no idea if he is angry or sad, or what. So that's it..... thank you all for the prayers!

Allie

[Java]

Thursday 22nd February

Wow Allie, you are very Brave, and I have tears rolling down my face, you definitely have my prayers.


Victoria

[MKR]

Thursday 22nd February

Allie - Incredible strength and tact if you ask me! WOW! Like Mike said, bet your dad is proud of you too. He also has been put on notice that you are not going to sit by and allow him to destroy himself on your watch!! Damn girl - you did great!! I am so very sorry you have to do this with your mom though, in my prayers everday sweetie.

Beth, you, your sister, your niece and the whole family too.

Judie, WHOA, that girl is so using up your goodwill. Enough is enough and NO you are not mean. DO NOT feel guilty over this. I hope you enjoyed your hike!

Mike, I hope you saw the smiley face by the nasty picture comment I made this AM. Just I am such THE toothbrushing/ flossing QUEEN . . .that woman's teeth EEEEEEEEWWWWWWW!! NASTY! NASTY! Hope you are feeling better, you sound like some of that great spirit is back in action!

E, wonderful to see you back!

Have a great evening all!

:l :h Mary

[Preciouspinot]

Thursday 22nd February

I three have to say that is HUGE. Kudos to you for being able to get all of that out on the table and in the open. Hopefully, some healing can now take place.