Is Moderation a Myth?

[justme]

I'm new here.

I've been trying to quit since Oct, '06 and after a good start slipped and have been moderating since. I'm down to two drinks at night, after 9 or 10 pm, but from everything I've read elsewhere I'm told it's not really possible to moderate.

Then someone told me about this site and the fact that it has a moderation thread, so here I am smack in the middle of now and somewhat confused re:quitting vs. moderating

Anyone have any thoughts on this?

[stoatqueen]

Is Moderation a Myth?

I have been able to moderate after a 30+ days complete break, I believe it is essential to abstain first. But I don't drink every day, If I did, even in small amounts i'm sure i'd become dependent again. I tend to have maybe 3 to 5 units a week and I only buy the bottles that have these units in and I stick to red wine. I was a heavy and problematic drinker for 20 years and I didn't realise how much better life could be without it.

S x

[lushy]

Is Moderation a Myth?

I believe it is a real personal question that only you can answer. Some of us are successful at moderating, others know it is just not an option for them. I would call two drinks a night good moderating, but if you are not comfortable with it then maybe moderation is not for you....

[Rocky]

Is Moderation a Myth?

I do not know yet
I can not lie

I've been AF to now
Moderation I have not tried...

[dilayne]

Is Moderation a Myth?

you either can moderate or you can't...the tough part is really getting to the honest answer for yourself, i don't think it's a black or white thing.
this is a great supportive place to find out.
good luck!
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[Waves 2]

Is Moderation a Myth?

Hi,
I did 30 days AF and moderated successfully for two months but the one time I overindulged (due to people filling my glass without permission) set me right back to struggling again. Some people on here are moderating well though.

Love Waves

[Beaches]

Is Moderation a Myth?

Hi Justme,
With the support of everyone on this board and this particular moderation thread I have found the support and tools I need to successfully moderate. There are occassions when I go overboard but they are far and few between as compared to where I used to be.
It's a personal choice. Some have to be AF and some can moderate.

[MKR]

Is Moderation a Myth?

Hi Justme,

Love your name and your avatar!

It is just like they said, quite an individual thing. My favorite supp has been the L-glut when I have had problems with cravings that do sometimes appear out of no where. Much wisdom written in the answers to your posts.

I think I have been pretty successful in the mods department. It took a few months to complete the mental and physical changes and find what works for me. I look at it like Af most of the time and an occasional drink, normally one in an evening when out.

I have maybe 5-8 drinks in a month. My one year MWO membership comes up on the 27th of this month. Before MWO, I would have that many drinks in an evening.

I have a lot of AF days that are not even a thought now days. I no longer keep my favorites around the house, nor feel the urge to drink what is in the house for the sake of drinking it. Still I believe if I decided to drink every night, I would be back in the same place again.

You can do whatever feels right . . .Congrats on 30+ though!!