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[twinsmommy]

I i'm new and just wanted to hear from some moderators. The book seemed so amazing but the more I look around here, it seems no one can actually moderate. Please tell me how things are going.
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Thanks
Twinsmommy

[Beaches]

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Hi twins
Glad to see you here. Yes moderation does work and the trick is figuring out how it works for you. You will find that a lot of people define moderation differently for themselves. For example some define it as going AF for a month then having a drink, some go AF M-F then drink only on the weekends, some drink everyday but in moderation.
Stick around you will learn so much from the wonderful people here.
For myself I am still working on going AF during the week and then drinking in moderation on the weekends. I have not succeeded with that yet. However I have succeeded with moderating during the weekdays and not overdoing it. Don't get me wrong I do have my days where I drink way too much and the next morning I wake up remembering why I hate drinking too much
Whatever path you choose I wish you the best and hope you stick around.
Aren't twins great....I have them too

[twinsmommy]

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They are wonderful! especially when they are sleeping :-) like now. Kidding thay are my life. How old are yours?

[Beaches]

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My twins are 4 coming up on 5 and I have a toddler how about yours?

[twinsmommy]

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mine will be 4 in May. Time flies when your having fun! How old is your toddler?

[Beaches]

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20 months now...time does fly! My twins are a boy and girl. How about yours?

[twinsmommy]

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Boy and a girl for me too. Gavin and Isabel. They don't look anything alike. Yours? How does the PM work should I do that or am I allowed to keep replying here? Don't know how all this works yet.
Do you do the full program with your mods?

[Beaches]

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You can do anything you like. My twins look nothing alike. Boy and girl. The full program. Well I do the supplements and Lush highly reccomends the CD's which I have however have not listened to yet. I plan to do that. How about you?

[twinsmommy]

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I just started it all today. Came here, got the supps, ordered cd's, begged my doc for topa, prayed for the mailman to bring the cd's, found a doc to give me the Topa, got the cd's, could have kissed doc and mailman, started cd's last night, did whole program for first time today....can't wait to see what tomorrow brings because today I wanted a drink!!!

[Waves 2]

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Hi Twinsmommy,

Before you despair and think mods is impossible, go onto the forums and have a look in the Tools forum. It contains the drink tracker where people post how many drinks they have had on which days. It really helps you to stay focussed but also gives an overview of progress.

For example, if you were reading my posts a few days ago I would have been saying that I was struggling again. However, if you look at my drink tracker it looks darn good compared with how it would have looked this time last year.

We are works in progress. Some people like Eustacia and Mkr Mary and Tawny are already where they want to be and work at sustaining it. Others, like Beaches, Lusch and myself are still trying to reach our ideal. You have to decide for yourself what your ideal is and work towards that.

I will say that 30 days AF does really help. But it took me a while to get to the stage where I felt I could do that.
I wish you strength on your journey. Glad to have you here.

Lots of love Waves

[DidItForMe]

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Twimsmommy:
Mods for me is still a bit of a struggle BUT I feel I am doing so much better than when I first logged on to this website. I was drinking about 8-10 huge vodka drinks a night, not remembering anything the next day and feeling horrible about my life every single waking minute. It sucked. Although I thought I needed to quit cold turkey, I really didn't think I had it in me to do that. So, in an effort to stop rambling, I got on Topa, decreased the cravings, and have gone down to about 3 lagsses of wine per night. LOL...now only my typing sucks!!! (glasses). Someday maybe I will be able to quit altogether, but I don't know if I WANT to do that. For now this feels right. Hope that helps.

[keke]

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Hope this helps, can't bring myself to AA

Alcohol has been my main coping mechanism for so many years that I don't think I am ready to give it up. I just need to bring myself to these posts and to the tapes and I know it will get better.

[betty boop]

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Hi Keke & :welcome:

[brightfield]

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hi friends

twinsmommy;108124 wrote: I just started it all today. Came here, got the supps, ordered cd's, begged my doc for topa, prayed for the mailman to bring the cd's, found a doc to give me the Topa, got the cd's, could have kissed doc and mailman, started cd's last night, did whole program for first time today....can't wait to see what tomorrow brings because today I wanted a drink!!!

desparate to figure out how to get busy chating with you guys(hope this works).
found this site on saturday night and i think it will help me a lot.
having difficulty learning how this all works.

all the best to every one of you;
long time alcohol problem.

[betty boop]

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Hi brightfield and :welcome:

You really have found a fabulous place, lovely to meet you, look forward to seeing you around the boards xx