My current approach to moderation

[nonamegirl]

My current approach to moderation

[QUOTE=Persephone1;1493722]
This reminded me of a quote (I was told it was said by Marilyn Monroe) Martinis are like breasts ~ 1 isn't enough and 3 is too many! :H

OH, Persephone, I LOVE IT !!! Thank you! This is going to be my go-to phrase. Thank you so much for sharing this quote.

So, last night, my sweet husband (who has only the occasional scotch and has been very supportive of me trying to moderate) said, "Well, why don't we have a short one?" And so, since I honestly did not want a glass of wine, I poured him a scotch and patted myself on the back for not having one. In the old days, I'd have jumped right into that bottle... there wouldn't even have been a thought of not wanting one.

Siren, I CAN tell you that I depend strongly on l-glut to help combat cravings when they do hit. It really does help staunch the deep desire. I put one under my tongue and pretty soon I do feel better. Any other physical side effects I can't speak to, but the cravings, oh, yes. Haven't tried kudzu.

Have a great day, everyone. :l

[Lasha]

My current approach to moderation

Hi all,

Persephone, You're welcome to our boards anytime, I also love MMs quote and thanks for sharing this with us. I'm consolidating at 3 a day which means no blow outs at events/weekends but will think of that one when I go for 2.

Congrats on abstaining by the way and of your other quote about already drunk for a lifetime, I've worked out I've drunk for 8 lifetimes based on a man drinking 14 a week and I'm only 50. :upset:

But change in progress.

[New Day]

My current approach to moderation

Good day! I have been around here for awhile, but never quite sure where I fit in. At first I thought I'd give AF a go and did for 40 days at the beginning of the year. Have been doing mostly AF since then, but have had days of moderating here and there since.

I certainly wouldn't have been able to do that without the help of MWO and all the wonderful people here. I read almost every day but don't post a lot. I used to post on the Newbies Nest, but now that I'm moderating occasionally, I don't think that's where I belong. But that is where I gained the ability to break free of drinking most days and far too much. I will be forever grateful for the help I received.

[nonamegirl]

My current approach to moderation

HI, New Day,
Welcome to our thread! I have found, after posting on several others, that this is a very welcoming and warm place to be. I have never heard a snarky comment here, only felt welcoming arms and pats on the back.

We are all in different places in our journeys, but we can all walk along the same path together and give each other an arm and a shoulder and a smile as we go. I love this place. I have found that coming here each day gives me more power to live as I actually want to live, and that is with a clear head, happy heart and still able to have the odd glass of wine or two a couple days a week. It doesn't always come easily, but I have gotten so much wisdom from folks here that I know I can do it.

[New Day]

My current approach to moderation

Hi Nonamegirl.......sounds like we are on the same page! Glad to have found someone who is where I'm at. I will check in here as well.

Have a good day!

[Lasha]

My current approach to moderation

Hi New day welcome,

I'm the same as you, never once have I wanted to be a non drinker but didn't get much sympathy from other boards and fit in here far better. I did stop for a month a long time ago and hated it, just want to drink sensibly and enjoy life without the hangovers.

Look forward to reading from you here or on long term modders

:welcome:

[BondGirl]

My current approach to moderation

freethinker, I feel you.

I LOVE to cut loose and have a good time. I like to have a bottle of wine and a heart-to heart with my girlfriends. I also like to sometimes spend time with a glass by myself.

The thing is, it doesn't feel as good as it used to. I realized, over time, how good I felt sober - better than I felt in years. I'm trying to get there, but really, it's everyone's decision to decide where they want to be. I'm here on the moderator forums because I hate the language of abstinence and am not willing to say I will never have a drink again.

Saying you can never have a drink again feels like weakness. Saying you don't like it is far more empowering... Looking forward to getting there.
-A

[nonamegirl]

My current approach to moderation

Happy Monday, Everyone!
BondGirl, I do so much know where you are coming from. I also used to like to just cut loose and have a good time. Now that I am really trying to moderate, I find that one or two glasses gives me the feeling I really am looking for, the third glass drowns it entirely. So, I am finding, as time goes on, that I am less likely to actually even want that third glass. Such an odd revelation for me.

Have a great week, everyone.

[New Day]

My current approach to moderation

Nonamegirl.....I have noticed a difference in my desire as well. I'm quite happy with many AF days and when I do have some wine, I no longer guzzle it for fear that I won't get enough....or constantly topping up my wine for fear I won't have an opportunity to do so for awhile without being watched. I just don't need to have that much anymore.
A major breakthrough for me.....a such a more pleasant way to live. I really do love not waking up and feeling like I'm just dragging myself through

Had a wonderful day out on the golf course today and enjoyed it so much more because I was AF!

[nonamegirl]

My current approach to moderation

Hi, New Day,
Yes... that's exactly it. Last Friday my husband and I had started our Friday date night (1940s music, a glass of wine for me, scotch for him) when we invited neighbors over. They couldn't come for about a half hour. Instead of what I would have done in the past, which of course is keep on drinking, I put my glass of wine away until they arrived. When they came, we each had the one glass and that was it. A revelation! Fun, alcohol involved, and I didn't get screwed up. Woohoo! And completely able to go running in the morning.

[New Day]

My current approach to moderation

Good day Modders.....just read my yoga quote of the day and it felt relevant enough to me to post it here....."patience here is required as well because if you don't give time for change, then maybe you don't change", by Petri Raisanen.

I had another new AF experience yesterday......after my first round of golf for the season with hubby, we stayed for dinner and instead of my usual 2 glasses of wine (followed by more when we got home), when he ordered a cranberry juice, I said "I'll have the same"...... And I enjoyed it.....and I drove home.....don't think I ever have before! Wasn't tempted to have any when we got home either.....just made a cup of tea. Very happy with last night.

Today I tried some of a bottle of Arnold Palmer that I read about somewhere else on MWO .....a combination of iced tea and lemonade......wow, is it ever good. I think that will be my new summer drink when I get sick of water and lemon.

Anybody have any other favourites?