5/22/07

[paula]

5/22/07

Betty, please take care. Sometimes the police can do very little when people are verbally
threatening, our laws do sometimes leave a lot to be desired. I do hope something can
be done this time.He sounds such a brave man threatening women and small children.!!

[cassy]

5/22/07

Hi chrysa ..loved that positive reading..what website is it from??

Cassy

[betty boop]

5/22/07

Hi All, my friend collected her daughter and has gone home, very scared ....but my hubby is home now so i feel better ..... The police have told us that if he shows up anywhere just to call them ..........

I'll be at the hospital with dad tomorrow so i'll be OK, but he even knows where our office is .........

Also, my favourite uncle has had a stroke ..... lost his speech .....

Hey ho .... Will check in when I can ...

Love you all .....

P xxx

[kali]

5/22/07

Many prayers for your dad, and your uncle.... Betty, please be very careful about your involvement with your friend and this crazy exboyfriend on the loose. Take good care of yourself, and be cautious.

Kali

[ducky]

5/22/07

Betty, what a terrible situation. And on top of having to deal with your dad's surgery. Please be very careful. It sounds like your friend needs to find a safe place where she can be protected. What a sicko.

[betty boop]

5/22/07

Thanks Ducky ........

[Loved1]

5/22/07

Hi to all,
I posted my story this weekend on that portion of the site, but my goal is moderation, so I would like to start posting here, is it ok to just "jump in" to this thread?
I hope so, I like the idea of being able to check in everyday :-)
Thanks!

[lushy]

5/22/07

Of course Loved1. Welcome to the club!

[betty boop]

5/22/07

Hi Loved1, yes of course, nice to meet you .....

[Quiescent]

5/22/07

Welcome Loved1, very nice to have you in our moderating bunch!

:hug:

[sammys]

5/22/07

Holy cow Betty you have had a rough one. I you do not sleep well its cause your mind has been racing with all the events of the last 24 hours.

Wish I could make it all better for you,
Sammys

[Beaches]

5/22/07

Jump right in Loved1!

[Loved1]

5/22/07

Here is my question, the last time I talked with my husband, I was believing what my therapist (aka AA lifelong alum) had told me that if I could not moderate successfully (as I did on one occasion since talking to her) that I needed to join AA and abstain forever.

Since being on here, doing lots of thinking, reading LOTS of books, I think the reason I was not able to moderate successfully was because I had no tools, especially no support group. Now I think I want to try that, sans the drinking at home part, I agree that I need to kick that habit forever for my own good.

So, how do I explain that to my husband without sounding wishy washy, or like I am in "denial" to use one of the TH's favorite words??

Any suggestions???? Advice??

[Beaches]

5/22/07

Hi Loved1,
Well I am more of an action speaks louder than words person. So if you show your husband that you are serious would he believe you? Instead of explaining anything just start the program and let him see the changes. That's how I do things however I know that there are many others to come who will give you some other insight that will also be just as good if not even better!

[Loved1]

5/22/07

I think if he saw me have a drink he would fall out of his chair, since he was sitting there with me and the shrink when we decided to go the AA route.