May 24, 2007

[SKendall]

May 24, 2007

Happy Birthday Beaches and Pansy!!

Sammy, so sorry to hear about the abuse - it just whittles down the self-esteem doesn't it? We are all here for you and when you are feeling more empowered you won't tolerate it any more.

Good day to the rest of the muffs.

[sammys]

May 24, 2007

Hey everyone I made an appointment for counseling today, I just was looking at a website about verbal abuse and it had a tape of a conversation. It was hard to listen to it analyzed the conversation and in turn pointed out the abuse. It sounded so much like what I listen to. The womans word count was 322 words and the mans word count was almost 4000 words. I have tried today to explain to my other half how I feel and he blames me of course. I feel bad unloading on you guys but my denial of this is gone. All the nitpicking and always questioning me and telling me how wrong I am et.. has just finally taken its toll. I also think this is truly why I have issues with alcohol.

Sammys

[MKR]

May 24, 2007

HAPPY BIRTHDAY Beaches and Pansy!! Hope this year is awesome!!
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You are not on earth to make things happen. You are not on earth to spread the love. You are not on earth to make it a better place or to learn acceptance of the things you cannot change. You are not on earth to find your soul mate or your purpose. You are not on earth to put the needs of others before your own. And you are most certainly not on earth, to suffer, pay penance, be tested, or judged.

Did I leave anything out?

You are on earth, because in your loftiest state of being, perched high above the wonderment, at the pinnacle of your glory, you wondered what it would be like, even fleetingly, to believe in limits.

You sage -
****The Universe
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Thought the Universe really had something to say here today appropriate to a lot of our mods!

Sammys, been there done that so glad you are getting counseling. I am so sorry you are going through this. You can make it through, realizing it is abuse is the first step. We grow to a point where it is all we know and do not even realize just how much we put up with. Counseling for both of you is a great step if possible. In the meantime, you are not his garbage can to toss all his anger and crap into!! Huge healing hugs.

Judie, so very sorry for your loss. Hang in there sweetie!

BB, for your dad, sigh. Hugs and prayers for him, sorry the procedure didn't work.

I really don't have time to address all you wonderful people as I am heading back to the hospital. Haven't been trying to ignore you have just had my share of traumas the past couple weeks.

My youngest son was tucked into a cancellation for Monday afternoon surgery on his scalp for skin cancer, looking at first like melanoma, not too bad though, she is not thinking it was melanoma. (sort of looked like a small melon baller got a hold of his head!) biopsy sent out. He showed it to me on Mother's day. My ex, a dentist, thought the photo definitely looked like melanoma so he had me completely freaked while I was looking for someone to get my son in sooner than two months out! I FINALLY relaxed for a good nights sleep on Monday.

Came in Tuesday morning to work for less than a minute to have a call that my dad needed to go to the emergency room. He had emergency surgery at 2 am Wednesday, they were saying he could die on the table and that he would probably be on a ventilator and have to have a colostomy bag, could bleed out on the table b/c they were trying to get his blood thinner levels back towards normal since he is on a blood thinner b/c of clots, lots of complications etc, etc.

They asked me if he had a living will and did I know what was in it. YES, but I surely did not want to contemplate executing it.

He survived . . . against all odds . . . again. My mom, my husband and I were all up for over 30 hours and me 36 by the time I got back into the office to put out a couple fires, back of home for a bit of a nap.

My dad is looking pretty good in intensive care and we are all quite thankful for that! I know a couple of you pm'd looking for me. I want you to know how much that meant to me!! You are all so sweet!!

Believe it or not, I did not drink at all through this. I could hardly eat just kind of running on that nervous pumped up energy. Ready to really crash and sleep soon!

Hugs and Love to all of you,
Mary

[Popeye]

May 24, 2007

Dear sammy,
I feel so bad for you.
I truely wish you well.
:l

[betty boop]

May 24, 2007

Mary, your family are in my prayers .......

Love & Hugs, Paula xx

[Ripley]

May 24, 2007

Hi all

OH MY WORD!!!!

Wrap my arms around all of you! Love to all of you who are having a horrible time right now. this is SUCH a good place to share and vent, and i speak from experience.

I wish you all a peaceful night. Sammys i am gonna PM u - i am escaping from a similar situation right now...

Love to all, Kate

[chrysa]

May 24, 2007

Mary,
God bless you!!!
And I know SHE/HE will!

[chrysa]

May 24, 2007

Sammy,
I echo Jenneh's words...you are not a downer to anyone & never feel that way here...

Since this has been going on so long..I agree that you really need to be in counseling...yourself first..and then decide what to do...
No one shouldl live like that..it is no way to live..Right?

Verbal abuse is emotional abuse and it is just as bad as physical or sexual abuse in terms of damage. Do what you need to do to heal yourself..then if he can be healed, he will be...but he cannot be your first focus...

Stay in touch...and talk talk talk to everyone who will listen...it is good for you