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[cjam21]

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becoming like him won't make things better -
nothing wrong with some emotion!!

[dilayne]

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(((Big Hugs Waves!)))
They don't get it..and on top of that, usually when we display emotions, they can trigger unwanted feelings in them (the men) so instead of being empathetic, they want it to stop (at least this is what my therapist told me)...if I'm hating 'being old'..then he might have to face the fact that he is getting older too..So, when I'm emotional (and I now empathize with peri and menopausal women..because it's often!!!) I do let him know that I just need to decompress and that I am, in fact, going to be this way for a while...he may not get it, but he respects that women are emotional and gives me space for it...there are just some things only women can give you, and that is an ear and a hug.

[Waves 2]

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Thanks for that Di, it makes things clearer. :h
Trixie and cjam thanks too.

[Saint Jude]

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Waves, hope you're feeling better... & allowing yourself whatever feelings you need.
I have to agree with everyone else here... men just don't seem to get it most of time If they can't eat it, or fix, or...F it,... they don't know what to do with it!
I told my hubby I felt like I was getting that "PMS Grrr" the other day, he said, "Me too" He even gets cramps...(or so he thinks! HA!) I wish he REALLY would just so he'd know what it's like...:eeks:


:l

[amethyst]

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Waves, I know this is after the fact, and probably the end of a long thread, but couldn't resist adding a bit to it. I rarely let any emotion out. I try to be all nice and fluffy and warm and cozy, and provide a good destressing environment for the family, but I hold things in. When I hold things in too long I become vaguely uncomfortable in my skin, and then I drink too much, get angry or weepy, and let dh have it. It is always about something that is justifiable, and a good reason to be upset, but because I have been drinking dh feels as if he can blow it off, and just smirk and say, so how much wine DID you have? Then I feel so stupid that I don't follow up, and things just build again. That has to change on my part, and he has to get over thinking he can minimize what I am saying and thinking and feeling. Take care of yourself, and know there are a great many of us that understand what you mean! Hugs

[ducky]

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Amethyst, (and Waves)

My DH tends to blame disagreements on my wine consumption as well. I guess I have earned it but often he is to blame. (He is great, just normal issues.)

Men are wonderful but different.

[southernbelle47]

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The good news is.............. there was one perfect man!

The good news is...........He is still listening to us and waiting to hug us when we cry!

The good news is.....it's a free call!

Phone home today......our Father is waiting!

:h Nancy