Saturday, October 21st 2017 (Boxes of Treats)
This morning we're heading to the city of Dundee to find out where the OHSAS office is so that Lindsay can go next week to find out where her final placement will be. It'll be good for our household to have her back in the game and getting on with putting the finishing touches on this degree of hers. It's been a long time in coming but there are now only around twelve weeks to go. Given that we are now into the latter stages (or is this still the middle stage?) of October (definitely the latter stages when the appointment comes around next week) this final placement is all but certain to continue into 2018. That'll be the first milestone reached of next year.
It was good to wake up this morning in a proper bed and with Lindsay sleeping next to me. Yesterday I woke up alone and on the floor of (what is still – until the 08th of next month) my cave. All there was to lie on was a towel and another towel to cover myself with. I used my backpack as a pillow and kept the heating on at a comfortable temperature ongoing through the night. It was a timely reminder of what used to be but what no longer is. There will be, at some point in the future, nostalgic reflections upon this place. I think I might just be nostalgic by nature. I like looking back as well as forward. It's the best way of discovering where I am at the present. I'll likely reflect upon my four years there as being the time I sobered up, joined online forums to start journaling my journey into sobriety, became an AA member, and so on, while much of the horrors, the sleeping on the floor for months on end and the shrinking my world into just one corner of the smallest room, remain in my thoughts they will inevitably lose their emotional punch as I forget the parts I don't need to remember and remember the parts I don't want to forget. Minds are funny things.
I expect to be able to look back upon my four years (the longest time I've stayed anywhere by some distance since my family broke down twelve years ago) in ''The Cave'' and smile fondly. I'll be able to see the funny side. Others in AA see the funny side of things as they talk about their past lives and so why not me? If you'd told me I'd be giggling to myself about my living conditions in the cave three years ago I would not have been able to believe you.
There were a few things happened during the week but I rambled on so much that I didn't have the time to talk about them. One of them was the session with Dr. Bacon which I'll get to in a moment. Another thing that's been happening is the clearing out of Lindsay's spare room. A few weeks ago it was full of her things. Things that hadn't yet, nor would perhaps ever be, promoted to having an actual belonging space within the apartment. The scourge of society. These things are the alcoholics of this flat. Now they have been rearranged (or sold on ebay – I think she's pulled in a few quid with her recent sales actually) and last weekend replaced by much of my things. During the week I began the painful and unenviable process of rearranging all of this stuff since Kung Fu Pandis and I dumped it on Saturday morning.
One of the first things I found while looking through the unmarked boxes were piles of compact discs. Lindsay has a small CD player and she was out for the afternoon so I had my own little private party. I used to collect these things since I stayed at home until around the time my son was born in 2000. This six year spell saw me purchase around four hundred discs and while many of them have not survived the great many moves and relocations I've had to do over the last decade there are at least a couple of hundred that have. Listening options seemingly endless. How much more satisfying it is to load a disc into a player and locate the desired track than it is to type it into a Youtube search bar. How much greater the quality of sound is between the disc and the low level Youtube medium. With technology it is amazing in how many ways we've regressed. Our pursuit of looking good and feeling modern getting in the way of what our eyes, and in this case – our ears – are actually telling us. Three hours literally feels like one.
As I'm looking through my things I come across some interesting things. Loads of usable window cleaning tools Barry the Bullet and I have just gone and bought a few weeks ago. Oh well. Debt letters from car and van insurance companies from years ago. A letter from the council about my five thousand pounds arrears from a scatter flat I was dumped in for the best part of 2011. I also found a few weeks worth of drinking diaries that my old counsellor Margaret had me fill in every week. I don't know if you've ever done these yourself but you put into the box for the day the (usually estimated in most cases) alcoholic units you've had for the day and then add up the week.
From the diaries I can find the lowest unit total is sixty nine and the highest is one hundred and seventy. On both weeks, as is the case in all of them, the weekends are the worst times with ''30 +'' written in both the Saturday and Sunday boxes and so the unit totals for the weeks are approximations. There are spaces in the comments below each where you are asked to put any comments and while it's a little difficult to read any of my writing there is talk of using cannabis on most days, especially the days where the unit total is smaller, likely to get through the day, to ease the headaches and general shame, and comments about going to work, not going to work, going to college and not going to college. They are not dated but it must have been when I was studying last time round – when I was doing Social Care, which I dropped out of a few months into it.
These boxes contain myriad memories of my recent past. Debt and regret. Boozing and losing. Smoking cannabis and opportunities missed. Like I mentioned above – these times were brutal as they were happening but now I can look back at them without any of the emotional impact. I'm not living with these fears now. New fears, perhaps, and the time for looking back upon them with the fondness they will at that time deserve will come, but for now I can look back at the last five years or so of what was a pretty chaotic time in my life and put it all into some kind of realistic context.
Despite Lindsay's CD player being old and of poor quality I look forward to many more hours of listening enjoyment as the spare room becomes my study space. The place Lindsay sends me when she's pissed off with me. The place I plan on doing most of my college home work. I would rather listen to that dinky little thing than have the speakers hooked up to the laptop but listen to them on Youtube or a lame mp3. Get back to a time when music was enjoyable.
I've gone and run out of time again to talk about the Dr. Bacon session, damnitt!!!
Anyone would think I was trying to avoid it.
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Stevie
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