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[Hannah]

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:happyheart: Thanks Ariel, for your support. I really feel like thiings are turning around for my hubby and I. This is day 6 AF for me, would be 7 except I had a few drinks last Thursday, sort of a good bye, I guess. My hubby has gone from being kind of unwilling to being right into quitting to, so that is good. The ten years we were sober were good years, and we sure never missed drinking after the first while. So hopefully we can carry on and do another 10 years, or even forever. This website has been just the best thing for me, and I thank each and everyone here, and hope to give back however I can!

[Accountable for Me]

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Hi Hannah! I hope you find this place a source of peace, sobriety and a place for building self-esteem. You will find 'friends' here whom you can relate to and who will offer you a hand to hang on to in your journey. Welcome!

[betty boop]

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Hannah ...... this the best place ever for support ...

We all know how you feel ........

Read the posts as much as you can ....

BB xx

[happycamper68]

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Hannah,
You were not long winded and it is great that you were so open. It makes it easier for us here to help you too. I can relate to a lot of what you are saying. A lot of my marriage is based on drinking together and we are both afraid of what will happen, that we may have nothing to say to each other other than talking about our daughter who is autistic. I don't feel connected to him like i should unless we are drinking. We tried to quit for 2 days and he fessed up that he had a cigarette, which we had quit together almost 6 years ago. That is simply cannot have back in my life again. I started drinking again yesterday because he is never here and I feel no support (I get it here but it just isn't enough right now). When we quit smoking we had no kids and had better jobs that allowed us to spend more time together and we were much happier.

You sure have had your share of troubles, but as everyone said, if you went 10 years without it while you were married to this man I really think you can do it again. I think my hubby and i are going to try to squeeze in some counseling. He found one that specializes in addiction and grief (which we need because of our daughter and I lost my mom years ago, just a lot of grief in general), so i am hoping that will help. he did backpeddle a bit and try to put the booze problem back on me but once he tried to quit for the two days and smoked and he finally realized he is f-ed up too.

I think you guys will be ok, get the supps, read the book, there are meds you can take like campral, Topamax, naltrexone to help you. Look into all of this and make a plan with hubby.
Good luck. :h

[lucky 2.0]

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Welcome Hannah!

Glad you found us- this is a good place full of good people and good humor, as well as encouragement. The research section is great and I suggest spending a lot of time there. The kudzu and other supps make quiting or cutting back a whole lot easier. I am so glad there is a program such as this which demonstrates that one does not have to battle this with sheer willpower alone. Read RJ's book for hope and also check out 7 Weeks to Sobriety if you want.

All the best.

Your doggy avatar is cute.

[IAD]

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Hannah,
Welcome.....I'm the only drinker in my family...so I bear all the disfuntion ! It makes me feel like a jerk, but life goes on & my spouse has tolrerated me for 20 years. So you can make it. Welcome...lot's of support here !:welcome:

[soccermom]

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Hannah, Nice to meet you and welcome.
Camper and Buffy and I seem to be in your same position. As my husband drinks as well and a good part of our marriage has been drinking while at home, while out, while driving. He knows nothing about this sight and my desire to cut down.
I think, too, that he may find it "disappointing" in the fact that we would no longer share that. He drinks every night and just doesn't seem to have a problem with it. He will often get me a glass of wine without me even asking. He'll set out big buckets of cold beer when we sit outside. It's difficult and perhaps if I did share with him that I have a problem with alcohol I'm sure he would be supportive.
Making it 10 years sober is a huge accomplishment and you know it's attainable now because you have done it before.
Thanks for your post, as you are not alone in this struggle.

[irishguy1949]

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Hannah,
You've come to the right place - there's lots of help to be had here. As for me - I'm just a drunk trying to get better.

[irishguy1949]

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Hannah,
I'm a drunk so don't have many philosophical words, but the folks here do - they've been through it all - listen to them - they know how to beaat this addiction.