Time to be happy

[daisy-doo]

Hi everybody :new: wanted to share my story. I come from a family whith a history of alchol problems. I have been drinking since i was 15 that was the time i discovered that alchol temperally took away the feelings of self loathing and hating myself that i had. Over the years alchol has caused me problems in relationships work and friendships , but stupidly i have carried on drinking even thouhg on occassions i have quit drinking for periods of time the longest being a year. I have known for many years thats its a huge problem one i go to great lenghts to hide. I am a single mum with two children and when alchol has recked a new relationship ( the usual things is the guy realises what i become like after drinking, abusive aggresive and they say i just change ! not for the better and they don't want a reltaionship with somebody like that ! who can blame them ). I just make out to friends that the guy was a jerk and not the one for me anyway. I do not always drink everyday and 90 % of the time i moderate my drinking but its the unpredictable 10 % that is wrecking my life. I am in my mid 40's now and i want to share my life with somebody and live without this fear of what alchol will turn me into and the worse part is I have blackout and can't remember what i have said or done. I have recently met a new guy who is loving kind honest and sweet he is the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with but i know if i don't quit drinking it will wreck the relationship. I got drunk on Sturday night and we had a bit of an argument mild compared to what i can become ( of course he does not know this) It was a real wake up call I need to address my alchol problem amd the only real solution is abstinance . Its not just about being with this guy its about me being happy living without fear, I have known in my heart of hearts for some time that i will never be happy untill i quit drinking. So guys here i am sorry if all this is a bit jumbled just wanted to get it out feel very emotional looking for support and understanding from others who know what an uninvitted curse an alchol problem is . And i realise i need tons of support as it is not a problem i can share with anybody in my day to day life there is not anybody around who understands. Thank you to anybody who reads this .

Oh and as a side note I now after many year like myself and have come to term with things that made life difficult and subsequently made me want to drink to blot out those feelings which is why i originally drunk. SO why do i still do it must be habit one that i am determined to break !

Regards Daisy

[Doggygirl]

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Hi Daisy-doo and welcome again. You have come to a wonderful place, at least in my opinion. I can understand why you want FREEDOM from the ball and chain of the Boozebeast. I reached a point where I was just plain sick of it too. Being determined to stop the madness is an important part of the battle, at least that's what I think.

No matter what pot holes might be in the road ahead, I know we will all end up happy we did this - for ourselves, our relationships, our lives, our health, and on goes the list.

Have you downloaded the book?? I encourage you to do so if not.

WE CAN DO THIS!!!!!

DG
Day 13 AF * * * * * * * * * * * * *

[Keepon!!!!]

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Hi Daisy doo and :welcome:

Loving the name very cheeful........

I know where your coming from when it comes to partners and drinking they dont mix do they.........and its hard especially if you have an argument the first thing I used to do was buy a drink.......and then that was it I was scum to him and it was all my fault. Me buying a drink used to give him the power to treat me bad because I felt bad anyway for drinking so Id take even more crap of him.......!!!!!

My advice to you would be to give the 30days AF a go and see how you feel.......and if you really like this guy sit with him and have a little chat about drinking but dont let out too much information....just enough to let him know that drink doesnt agree with you sometimes.

My advice could be wrong but there are others routes you can take like the book and the supps meds etc.....There are lots of people here that will give you sound advice.....but well done for making a start to better your life your on your way.......already...Good Luck

Luv Keepon:h

[satori]

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Hi DD,

:welcome:

Good to have you here!

You ARE here - which is a HUGE first step - Congratulations!

The biggest step is admitting to ourselves that we have a problem - and actually wanting to do something about it!

You will find loads of people on here at all hours of the day and night - all of whom understand what you are going thru' - most of us have been there too!

The support on here is great - no judgement - just unwavering support and advice.

Come on here often, post and read as often as you can.
The main thing I got from this site in my early days here is a realisation that it is NOT hopeless! That we CAN do something about our alcohol problems.
It aint going to be all easy - but it IS woth it!

This place changed my life - I got the old ME back, but it took hard work and a load of support from the folks on here.

We ARE here for you - make use of us - especially in the early days, and soon you will be the one welcoming the new members.

Talk to you soon I'm sure

Satori

xxx

[magic]

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Hi Daisy

Welcome!!!

I am a single mom too and I know how horribly stressful and lonely life can be doing it all on you own.

You've come to a safe place, a good and kind place where lots and lots of wise and wonderful people live.

I drank for many, many years and have been sober for years. It can be done and you can do it too. I know you can. Yes, you can.

magic xx :schmokin:

[Beaches]

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Welcome Daisy,
You have made a great first step by talking about your story. It's great that you also acknowledge how different you are when you start drinking and that you don't like yourself.

The habit part is difficult to break, it's like the brain is wired to have a drink at a certain time or in a certain setting etc. BUT IT CAN BE DONE and you can do it. You know what's important to you and that you want to hold onto that.

Read RJ's book for starters and I wish you nothing but the best.

[Arial]

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Belated welcome

Hi Daisy-doo -

Not sure if you'll get to read this but a warm welcome from me too. I'm really pleased to have seen you out on the 'boards' already which is great as that's the way you'll be able to get support and encouragement.

I was in a situation very similar to yours and I can't now believe why I waited so long to do something about it! I've not found the old Me, I've found a new one which I'm far more comfortable with. You obviously have some strong motivators, so keep those in focus and look beyond the not wanting to drink and to what you DO want - you DO want this relationship to last, you DO want to be there 100% for your family, you DO want to create a different future - and this is the best place to start!

So glad you're here, and wishing you good luck as you start out - making the decision to stop is the most important step to a new future, and we're here to help you as needed! So keep talking and sharing - looking forward to getting to know you better.