I agree with that you need to sit down with your kids and have a true heart to heart. They first need to be educated on the diease. If they don't understand it, they won't understand you. Secondly, it's ok to tell them that they don't need to praise you, but you can not tolerate them sabatoging you either. Let them know you are doing your best, you are making great efforts at being a better mom and person, and that their support would be appreciated. Tell them you are sorry they've been hurt by alcohol, but that you have been hurt by their words and actions. Today is a new day for the three of you and it's time to make a pact to stop all that hurting. Tell them to ease up and give you time to make things better. I can not stress enough that they need to be educated on the diease. Print things off the computer if you have to. Get pamphlets, anything.
Good luck to all of you. Please keep us "posted" on your progress.
Love, Me
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Hi Sherri- nice to meet you-
Thankful, your advice is spot on.
The one thing I'd like to add is about the GUILT that you may be tormenting yourself with.... for me, I haunted myself with the "woulda-coulda-shoulda's".... and I KNEW that I failed my kids. My oldest girls are 17 and 20, and my 17 year old was my snotty one. Maybe she was so used to being disappointed that she figured, "why bother?"
Time has been my friend- it has proven to my daughter that I can do this.
Sherri, we cannot change the past. It's gone forever. Guilt does nothing~ but if it IS there, use it to strengthen your resolve to keep the future bright. :specs:
Much love,
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